[Recreation]What Women Want [UPDATE Nov 2]

OK, this is from the guy who wrote the double your dating book.



I am on his mailing list and I think it’s a fun read (although some contents are quite repetitive) :stuck_out_tongue: and there’s some truth in it as well.



I know many girls here might think they are crap, then you could take it for its entertainment values.



Surely most of us will not shell out money to buy a book to teach us on how to score dates with hot girls and how to keep them, but guys that are struggling with the dating game might find this interesting to read. and help to set you back into a better mood.



Anyway, so that is why I decided to post and share it.



I hope there’s at least somebody that likes it. :dizzy: :dizzy: :dizzy:



note that i feel sometimes they are just too long… or not something we can relate to and a bit pointless… i’ll delete some sections to spare you the boredom…



Cocky Comedy commercial



page 1

Getting Women’s Numbers And Getting Dates

Feb 21 2005



What To Do When A Woman Flakes Out

Feb 24 2005




*****





Page 2

Why Women Don’t ‘Make Sense’

Feb 26 2005



Fear, “Self-Doubt” And Meeting Women

Feb 28 2005




*****





Page 3

How To Act When A Woman Likes You

Mar 3 2005




*****





Page 4

Can ‘Regular’ Guys Attract ‘Hot’ Women?

Mar 7 2005




*****





Page 6

Dealing With TESTS From Women

Mar 11 2005



The Attitude For Approaching Women

Mar 15 2005




*****





Page 7

Kissing Women And Using Humor

Mar 17 2005



Approaching Women, Asking Them Out, Attraction

Mar 21 2005




*****





Page 8

(funny stories from test testimonials on his Advanced Series)



Will She Be A FRIEND OR A LOVER?

Mar 25 2005




*****





Page 9

Why “Nice Guys” Fail With Women

Mar 27 2005




*****





Page 11

How To Keep A Woman Interested In You

Mar 31 2005



How To “Get Physical” With A Woman

Apr 2 2005



Getting Women To “Pick YOU Up”

Apr 7 2005



How To Kiss A Woman

Apr 11 2005




*****





Page 12

“Strange But True: Sex-Crazed Woman Attacks Man”

Apr 16 2005



How To Approach Women, Start Conversations

Apr 18 2005




*****





Page 13

Overcoming Fear And Meeting Women In Bars

Apr 25 2005




*****





Page 14

Making Women Feel Sexually Attracted To You

May 3 2005




*****





Page 15

How To Tell A Woman That You Like Her

May 5 2005



How To KEEP A Woman Attracted To You

May 7 2005



How To End ‘Dating Dry Spells’

May 9 2005



Can ‘Nice Guys’ Attract Women? (GREAT SUMMARY)

May 13 2005




*****





Page 16

Eye Contact And Body Language To Attract Women

May 19 2005



Dating After Divorce Or Relationship Breakup

May 27 2005




*****





Page 17

All About Approaching Women

May 31 2005



How To Use Cocky & Funny Humor To Attract Women

June 7, 2005




*****





Page 18

How To Keep A Woman Interested In You

Jun 10 2005




*****





Page 19

“How To Get More Numbers & Emails From Women”

Jun 14 2005




*****





Page 20

Overcoming Fear, Making Out With Women

Jun 22 2005




*****





Page 21

How To Spot And Avoid The Wrong Women

Jun 24 2005





Secrets Of Dating Younger Women

Sep 20, 2005







David DeAngelo Mailbags ends here.



********** **********





page 22



mix of



mailbag from power seduction



and



what women want installments



[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-10-18 00:38 ]
[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-11-02 04:24 ]

Getting Women’s Numbers And Getting Dates

Feb 21 2005



QUESTION





Hey, David.



I’ve read DYD, have been getting your newsletters,

totally understand what’s going on. I’ve seen it

working, and know it’s for real. But I’ve got a BIG

problem. I’ve got to recondition myself from more

years than I care to admit of doing things the wrong

way.



I always idolized superheroes like Batman & Superman

who always acted with the utmost respect and decorum.

Like musclebound male versions of Miss Manners. My

heroes were modest, reliable, helpful, well-mannered,

and strong (OK – they’re not totally lame). Definitely

not cocky. I always hated mouthy guys who are

all show and no go.



As for sex, in my younger years it was Catholic

training: everything sexual was evil (unless you’re

a priest hitting on the altar boys), and I was so

naive and mixed up I really thought I was going to

hell.



After I wised up and dropped that it was sexual

harassment
that I kept hearing about all the time.

The message I got then is that it’s not OK to be sexual

until you’re already going with someone. Of course

now I know that that only applies to man who a woman

is NOT ATTRACTED TO.



OK, so now I understand. But am still reflexively

doing the same wrong things. What’s the best way

to actually go about reconditioning my behavior?

I can be a good smartass when I have the right stimuli,

but what’s the best way to practice loosening up with

the sex talk? I don’t want to klutz things up with

awkward, forced attempts on women who are good prospects.

I can be cool enough to get dates, but want to take

it to the next level. The best thing I can think of

is either to practice on female friends I’ve already

written off or go to places I don’t really care to

hang around regularly, like techno-disco meat markets

where I probably couldn’t be as crude and crass as

the average ass-grabber if I slammed a fifth of Daniels

and tried.



This may apply to a lot of other guys who are “struggling

with the material.” Any better ideas how to get through

the learning curve as quickly as possible without

poisoning one’s reputation by being tagged an uber-klutz?



FB



Michigan





>>>MY COMMENTS:



Well, you say that you’ve read my book, but you need

to go back through it… remember, it’s a reference

manual, to be referred to again and again… not a

fictional book to be used as entertainment.



If I were you, I’d get online and start chatting with

women with instant messenger services and/or in chatrooms,

as I describe in Chapter 7.



Bust on them, tease them, talk about every topic you

can think of, including sex (make sure you’re talking

to women who are of legal age, by the way!).



You’ll find that starting conversations with women

online and practicing your skills is a lot move convenient

when you can do it from the comfort of your computer.



And you’ll see… it’s very easy to talk about any

topic with women. Get over your pre-conceived ideas,

and just do it.



And get over this worshipping Batman, dude. Didn’t

you see the Saturday Night Live skits where they were

mocking him and Robin as the “Ambiguously Gay Duo?”



Not good role-models, man.

QUESTION



Dave,



Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since

grabbing your book and applying C&F! My friends are

amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great!

One of the most important points I have followed from

you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score

routine and approaching each part as a skill I must

learn. Got past the email/phone number part, past

the first date and first kiss part, and finally the

step towards intimacy. But alas, I’m down to the

one skill that I have problems with and that I’ve

never seen you really address:



The graceful exit skill…



Let me explain…OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe

we end up in each other’s arms, maybe not, but there

comes a point when I just want to end it and move

on to another girl. I always get nervous with the

“Well, it’s been fun, but we this isn’t going to work

out so have a good life…” Do I call and leave a

voice mail? Do I phone her? Do I break it off face-to-face?

What’s the confident, C&F way to leave a girl and

not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of

it?



Loving life, S.R.



P.S. You should pay people for referrals as I have

got about 10 of my friends to buy your book! HA HA





>>>MY COMMENTS:



You’re a very, very, very bad man.



In the best way possible, of course.



I think the key to dating more than one woman, or

to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to

NOT ACT LIKE YOU’RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.



Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So

don’t. It’s not necessary.



Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy yourself.



You don’t have to break something off if it never

was “something” to begin with. Are you with me?



The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five

times a week, act like her long lost love, and then

drop her without explanation. I think you get what

I’m saying.

SUCCESS STORY



Dave,



I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about

6 or 8 months and have purchased your ebook a couple

after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable

and well worth the price. It has completely changed

the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore

and wonder “what’s wrong with me”. Now I know what

was wrong with me, I was a wuss! But that’s all changed

now and have become the Jedi Master. I’ve even come

up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.



At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one

night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of

mine who I told about the party. I got to talking

to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured

on the C&F, but I never got her info. I know, I know,

the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain

it from her friends, and the way she interacted with

me, I knew she wouldn’t have minded at all (Important

Note: this is my success story, I wouldn’t recommend

doing things like this unless you have developed the

confidence that your book helps teach). Well, I never

had to even asked her friends because two days later,

she ended up looking me up in the University’s online

student directory and then she looked up my IM name

and IMed me with a “mysterious person” message. I

immediately figured out it was her and then accused

her of stalking me and told her that’s pretty illegal.

She almost thought I was mad at her! It was great!

Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention

about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and

we set something up to go play pool at a local bar

where I again poured it on thick. Now mind you, I

hadn’t made any big advances or anything but as she

dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom.

After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me

and let me have a little taste. I said goodnight to

her and that was that night. A few nights later, I

told her I was going to be cooking and that she should

come over which leads me to…



Tip 1

One of the best techniques is to invite a girl

over for dinner at your place, especially if you

know how to cook. I find that many women don’t know

how to cook or only “cook” stuff like Mac and Cheese

and other junk. The best part about this is they get

to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women

when you can make a good meal, and you have the most

control because it is your own place. The other part,

is make sure you don’t start making dinner until she

is already at your place, she’s not getting an entirely

free meal! Make her help. If she refuses, use the C&F

techniques and have her do something. Put her on a

task that’s not too difficult so she can’t mess it

up. For example, if you’re making lasagna, make her

grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is

rather insulting unless you’re doing most of them and

she wants to help, which she just might). And when

you’re all done with dinner, take it to the couch and

turn on the TV or watch a movie or something. Which

brings me to…



Tip 2

If you’re sitting down next to a girl that you’re

talking to in a private setting and you get a little

of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind

where you just kind of look at each other. If you’re

thinking to yourself “should I be kissing her?”.

The answer is a screaming “YES”. This can be preceded

by the “kiss Test” as well, but I know a lot of guys

will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.

Think about it this way. If you don’t kiss her, then

she’ll probably think you’re a wuss because you don’t

have the balls to do something she probably wants you

to anyways. After talking with a number of my girl-friends,

I’ve found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl,

unless there is an obvious unattraction, she will most

likely go with the kiss. At any rate, in this day

and age, she’s not going to slap you and walk out the

door. It’s not like you grabbed her crotch or something.



Tip 3

MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about

calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you

have already answered this question in some form and

you know what to do! You can generally sense if a

girl is sensitive about something like that. If not,

send her some sort of message that next day, preferably

email, but if you’re on the phone, have something

you’re on the way to or busy with. Call, say “hi”

and that you had a great time, don’t ask how she’s

doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a

good time, but find some way to use C&F to make a light

conversation that will keep her wondering and even

thinking about you. Don’t bring up the sex unless

she does so in a favorable manner.



Tip 4

Not so much a getting girls technique, but rather

something you need to do alone. In your spare time

or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past

failed attempts when you have a clear head about them

and think about what happened. You’d be surprised

at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong.

You’ll also be surprised to find out that these are

probably mistakes you make all the time! This is

the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it

so that its not repeated.



Your techniques are nearly priceless and have

stroked the confidence of guys everywhere. I’ve

even recommended it to friends that have some serious

wuss problems. I have yet to see if they’ve taken

it to heart or even subscribed, but I’ll help them

yet! Things are going great with that girl and I know

it wouldn’t have happened if it weren’t for your book.

Its now become second nature, and you get all the

credit.



Thanks again Dave

Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master,

D.M.

SUCCESS STORY



Dave,



I’d just like to say your book helped in my confidence

level and my cocky/funny routine. I have always been

funny and was always successful at making women laugh.

I had the problem of, well, closing the deal. I would

strike the conversation, make them laugh, and just

joke with em, but could never get their #. And I would

never ask at the right times, being shot down was a

large part of my night.



After reading your book, I met and talked to this

girl online. At this point I didnt care about relationships

or anything. I just wanted to have fun. So we talk

about 3 days online, and I called her maybe 1 time

and asked her to lunch. The whole lunch I am making

her laugh and break out a little of the cocky routine.

She’s laughing and we both having a good time. Later

this month it will be 6 months that we’ve been together

and I just recently was told, that she tried everything

she knew the first 2 weeks to turn me on. Shes easily

a “8-9” and any other man would have given in and been

the “proverbial” wussy. Let me tell you cocky/funny/un-clingy

= ATTRACTION. It works, it really does! Thanks for

the confidence boost. I just have to give you kudos

to what you have discovered here. I think you have

solved the “8th” wonder of the world: Women and dating.



You da man

K.N. Ohio





>>>MY COMMENTS:



You’re welcome…



And you’re right: Most attractive women DON’T KNOW

WHAT THE HELL TO DO when they meet a guy that is charming,

funny, “un-clingy” and in control of himself and the

situation.



They get turned on, they think about you all the

time, and they generally feel a level of ATTRACTION

that they can’t control (and don’t want to control,

because they love it!).



Good job, and I’m glad to hear that you’ve found a

nice girl for yourself. MAKE SURE YOU DON’T TURN INTO

A WUSS-BAG and screw it up!

QUESTION



hey dave,



you are really the man! i started reading your

material and realized what i wuss i had been with

the one girl i dated. before we were dating i was

textbook cocky and funny, but after we were dating

i became super-wuss man and i became “just a friend”.

well every girl since then has been absoultely begging

for my attention (even girls i meet online that live

hundreds of miles away that i practice on). i have

two or three girls call everyday but i’m always too

“busy” to talk for very long (hey i have to watch

my sportscenter) i was on an airplane to NYC when

this hott girl sits down in the seat next to me (i

was window and she was aisle) i had my laptop out

and when she sat down i acted like i didnt notice.

well a few minutes later i had to put away my laptop

so i pulled out a book and began reading it. she then

pulls out makeup (yes makeup) and starts putting it

on in the plane. i gave her a funny look and said

“didnt you have time to do that at home?”



Her: “(laughing) i did have time, but i didnt want

to. all i’m doing today is flying.”

Me: “oh i see…(pause) you’re lazy.”

Her: “no i’m not”

Me: "sure you are. but then you saw me and decided

you want to look good right?

Her: (just laughs)

Me: “hey, dont worry about it… nothing new to me.”

Her: “(laughs) well i mean…”

Me: “(interruping her) it’s fine! dont be

embarrassed. you’re not the first woman to

try and pick me up this morning.”

Her: “(still giggling) how can you be so mean to a

complete stranger?”



now i’m stuck… i didnt have anything left to

say… so i just said “i dont know” and (luckily)

she continued the conversation and i eventually got

her email and number and everything. but if you could

tell me something cocky and funny that i could have

used to respond to that it would be much appreciated.

thanks!



J. from OK





>>>MY COMMENTS:



lol… you get it all, and you’re trying to tell me

that you didn’t know what to say in this situation?



How about this:



After she said “How can you be so mean to a complete

stranger?” you could have said:



“I’m not being mean at all, I’m just trying to let

you know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me

like a sex object… like a piece of meat to be used

for your entertainment… can’t you just get to know

me for who I am? And then later use all the makeup

tricks to seduce me?”



There are all kinds of directions you could go with

this… you were doing great.



Just make sure you always end by turning it around,

playing hard to get, and getting the email/number.



Try this:



“OK, look. You’re nice and everything, but you’re

moving a little too fast for me. Here… here’s a

pen. Write down your email address and number, and

maybe we can talk on the phone later… then we’ll

see.”



Or if you want to get together right after you get

off the plane, say:



“Hey, I’ll tell you what. I see that you only want

to use me for my charm… but why don’t we have a

drink tonight so I can find out if there’s more to

you than just the makeup and cheap lines.”



You’re doing great.

What To Do When A Woman Flakes Out

Feb 24 2005





QUESTION FROM A READER



I will try to keep this short, but if you don’t read

it all, just refer to the question at the bottom regarding

the question.



Okay, I have read through all of your newsletters

ever since I signed up for the service & purchased

your E-Books.



On a Tuesday I am out with a friend & we bump into

his ex & her roommate. Both girls are 9’s (pushing

10’s). I immediately go to work! She’s wearing a turtle

neck sweater (I see a weak spot) so I start calling

her “Tippy the Turtle” all night. She acts all defensive

about it, but keeps laughing & asking me WHY, WHY,

WHY do you keep calling me that?..So I just keep

pouring it on. I bust on her humorously every chance

I get. Within 2 hours, she’s leaning on me, squeezing

me & following me around the club like a puppy…

SO, we go to another club & I go to the bar to get

a drink and the waitress at the bar (whom I know from

being there in the past) asks me why I have never

asked HER to go out & do anything (LIGHT BULB GOES

ON). So I tell her it’s “because I don’t have a way

to get a hold of her”. So she pulls out a dollar bill

from her money holder & writes her number down and

gives it to me (this girl is a solid 10 by the way…

and trust me, IM PICKY!). Needless to say, IM STOKED!

So I tease her a little about her name (because her

name is B…a guys name), take the number & go back

to my friend & the girls… Everything is great

RIGHT???



Now the problem & the question:



I ask a friend of mine about her (the waitress). He

works at the same night club she does. He said that

she was “all about money”. He also told me that she

just quit her job that weekend & didn’t work there

anymore…



So I called her on the following Sunday (gave it about

5 days). I decided to check this “money thing” out

in a humorous way. When she finally realized who I

was (which kinda pissed me off that I had to explain

to her who I was on the phone…I went as far as suggesting

that I hang up & call back & try this again) I told

her that I heard she quit her job & then asked her

“How are you going to take me to lunch & pay my way

if you don’t have a job”? I thought it was funny &

was awaiting a laugh, but she responded with “why

do you have to start the conversation off like that?

I had to support my last 2 boyfriends, so don’t go

there”. Needless to say Im shocked & respond with

“Its becoming a habit huh?”…and then heard silence

& broke the silence with “Im just giving you sh**!”

(I know, I know…a WUSS moment)



SO, I set a simple meeting with her (for some lunch

before I had to go to work) for that same Thursday

(today actually…4 days later). She said the date

& time were cool so I closed the deal (kept the phone

call at about 3-4 minutes). Before I hung up she said

“why don’t you call me between now & then so we can

talk”. Well Im picking up on that one right away, so

I respond with. What would be the point in that? We

are getting together Thursday to talk". And we said

our goodbyes & that was it…



NOW I get a phone call 3 hours before we have to meet

& she tells me some BS story about her brother coming

in town & she can’t meet me for lunch. Well Im not

stupid, and I just had another girl cancel in a similar

fashion on me last night. DUHH!!!.. So my question

is this:



QUESTION: If a girl cancels on you, how should you

really handle it? Especially if you know her excuse

is bull sh**!!! (I can pick liars out a mile away…

its a gift!). I realize she maybe testing me, but

when a girl expresses interest in YOU & makes it a

point to make sure that YOU leave WITH HER PHONE NUMBER,

how should you handle it when they cancel last minute

with a lame ass excuse? My feelings are to talk to

them in a manor making them feel as stupid as they

think YOU are. For Example:



When she tells me her brother is going to be in town

& she had to cancel THREE HOURS before we meet, I

felt like saying “Well I gave you 4 days notice to

meet me for ONE hour. Your brother hasn’t seen you

in six months & you didn’t know this when we talked

the first time??”



I was just real quiet & said nothing when she fed

me this “Line” & responded with “ok, whatever… maybe

some other time…you have my number” & that was the

end of the conversation, I hung up.



Are they testing to see if you WILL be an a**hole (DO

THEY WANT YOU TO?), or are they testing to see if you

will be sympathetic (WHICH WOULD BE BAD)… Personally,

I want to be an asshole because I get kind of upset

with flakey people in general…



Also, do you think I should ever call & set a date

up again with a woman like this, or did I already

blow it?



My novel…



C. (Kansas)





>>>MY COMMENTS:



OK, first things first.



You really have the right idea here. You’re thinking

is right on, and your use of the Cocky & Funny attitude

is great!



And I’m guessing that the REASON why the cute waitress

started asking why you never ask her out is BECAUSE

you showed up with a hot girl that was chasing you

around.



It certainly helps the stock value when you’re seen

around with a hottie.



I’d love to talk more about all the RIGHT things you

did, but, alas, I’m going to focus this newsletter

on the WRONG things you did.



Now, please don’t take any of what I’m about to tell

you PERSONALLY, because it’s all in good fun.



But pay attention, because by making fun of you in

a public newsletter that many thousands of guys read

only hurts a little (but remember the joy I’m getting

from it, and maybe you’ll feel better).



MISTAKE #1: LISTENING TO YOUR FRIEND



Dude, what are you thinking?



When your friend who worked with her told you that

she was “all about money”, it probably meant:



-He was in love with her.



-She wasn’t interested in him.



-He tried to buy her dinner and gifts, but she only

wanted to be friends.



-He hated the idea that you were going to date her.



-He wanted to put you off the trail.



Think about it.





MISTAKE #2: WAITING 5 DAYS TO CALL HER.



Now, of course you don’t want to call a woman ten

seconds after you meet her and say “Hi, I’m the needy

dork you just gave your number to…”.



But think about it…



This girl works in a BAR. She meets about a million

guys every night.



She probably gives her number to more guys every week

than you have FRIENDS.



I would have called her the next evening… two days

later at the most.



This way she’ll at least REMEMBER you.



And I would have said “You know, I’ve never had a

woman PAY ME to call her. But this dollar is only

going to buy you about 15 seconds. You can ask me

what I’m wearing or something, and then you’ll have

to give me a visa to continue the call…”





MISTAKE #3: DISCUSSING THE “MONEY THING” ON THE

PHONE



What are you thinking bringing up something like this

by telling her that you heard she quit her job?



Something like this at the beginning of a first call

CAN’T go anywhere but a BAD place.



I can see what you were trying to do, but you were

on a slippery slope, and you were only irritating

her.



Save the ball busting for when you’re alone with her

in person.



This is where you REALLY screwed up, man.



At this point she was probably thinking “What the

hell is this guy talking about?” because it was a

sensitive subject for her, and you didn’t have enough

of a connection with her to be talking to her about

this topic. Too early.



I’m going to say that you basically SET HER UP to

flake on you.



Shortly after that, she gave you the NEON SIGN of

“why don’t you call me between now and then so we

can talk”.



TRANSLATION: “I’m going to flake on you for SURE,

but I just don’t want the confrontation right now,

so I’ll put doubt in your mind”.





MISTAKE #4: LETTING HER THINK THAT FLAKING WAS OK



When you just let the “call me between now and then”

comment go by and hung up, you made a big mistake.



Right then and there you should have STOPPED the

conversation and said something to the effect of:



“Whoa. I’ll tell you what, I have a pet peeve, and

I HATE it when people flake out on me. So if you’re

gonna flake, just tell me now. I’m only going to make

plans if you’re CERTAIN that you’re going to be

there.”



Now, a lot of times when you say something like this

you’ll scare a woman off. But it’s worth it.



The last thing you need in your life is a flaky woman.



Better to get it handled early on.



But if she’s NOT a flaky woman… but only trying

to figure out how to flake on YOU because you acted

like a DUMB ASS, then this might change things.



When a woman sees you standing up for yourself, and

basically saying “Look, if you’re going to flake out

or be late, then I don’t want to meet you”, it shows

her beyond the shadow of a doubt that YOUR TIME is

more important to you than HER. This is a good thing.



This kind of comment will often result in a woman

saying “No, no… I’ll be there. I’ll be there.”





MISTAKE #5: LETTING HER FLAKE ON YOU



If a woman called me three hours before we were supposed

to meet and said “Oh, my long lost brother is coming

to town…” I would say:



“Well thanks for the three hours notice. What are you

going to do to make this up to me?”



NOW IS THE TIME TO BUST BALLS!



Of course, you don’t want to do it in an emotional,

hurtful way… or in a way that lets her know that

you have been upset by her.



I’ll mention one thing here… I have a friend who

has gotten tired of women flaking out on him. So he

now calls THEM on the day he’s supposed to meet them

for the first date, and FLAKES ON THEM.



He tells me that this works like a charm, and they

always show up for the next planned meeting.



Go figure.



Now, I personally don’t like the idea of lying to

or deceiving women, but it’s an interesting lesson.



In the final analysis, I’d say that you screwed up in

the beginning, and created your own problems.



Instead of saying “I heard you quit your job” (which

makes you sound like an amateur stalker), you should

have just said a few charming things, set up a meeting

with her, and gotten off the phone.



That probably would have prevented your problems.


于 2005-02-26 03:54, Nieve 写:

Finished? Thanks.



又回到999啦?

I’ll keep posting as I get them.



welcome to comment ya

hav some feelings that you hav posted some similar contents be4 of teaching us how to date… you must be a date expert in this area… haha… good luck in the real life .

yea, it’s from the same source, guess you all dont think it’s fun…

fine

delete it then

haha… i find it quite funny!

pls keep contributing here…

Why Women Don’t ‘Make Sense’

Feb 26 2005



I was out with a good friend of mine one time.

We were at the mall walking around, and I was showing

him how easy it is to meet women.



We went into a fancy store, and walked up to a

girl who was selling makeup. He started a conversation

with her, and I watched.



She was laughing, and he was doing fine.



But you know that point in a conversation with

a woman where you both know that something needs to

happen?



She needed to get back to work, and he needed to

either move on or ask for her information.



So I walked over and said “Here, let me see your

hand” (she had her left hand in her pocket, and we

couldn’t see if she had a wedding band on).



She took her hand out, and I looked at it.



Sure enough, she had a ring on her finger. But

it didn’t look like a wedding band to me.



So I pointed at it and said “So does this ring

mean something? Or is it just to ward-off dumb

asses?”



She started laughing.



Here’s the good part…



I looked at my friend and said OUT LOUD “See, that’s

how you find out if she’s single. I’ve got a line

for everything…” and I laughed.



Then we asked her if she had a card, and made fun

of her for not having an email address… of course,

my friend walked away with her info.



Now, the funny part of this story is that most

guys would CRINGE if they even THOUGHT of saying

something like “See, that’s how you find out if she’s

single…” etc. right to a woman’s face.



But she found the humor and arrogance quite funny

and charming.

hem… true 2 a certain extent… i do like arrogant guys as well…

Fear, “Self-Doubt” And Meeting Women

Feb 28 2005



QUESTION



David,



After reading a couple of your newsletters, I recognised

I had a problem or three! and decided to get this

area of my life sorted (I was previously a WUSS),

purchased your e-book and then graduated to the CD

series. That decision has turned my life around. I

am tall, tanned and toned (after many hours in the

gym) with a great job yet had problems with attracting

and retaining women. This problem is now history,

thanks to your materials. They are certainly worth

every cent (even if you are from Oz and paying 2 for

1)!



I am not having any problems using the 3 minute routine

to set up meetings. Also no probs with the women feeling

attraction for me. The problem is that now I have

been out with so many different women, I have options,

I am finding I now have a very specific idea of what

I want, which means the vast majority I tee up I do

not want to see again after the first meeting, as

they get extremely clingy over me, are not confident

or ambitious or have emotional baggage etc. I have

tried targeting specific places and activities where

these girls I would like to meet are likely to be,

without lifting the percentage of ones I want to meet

for a second or third time.



The question is, How can the three minute routine

be adapted with similar success rates to narrow the

field i.e. rule out those with unattractive qualities

which are hard to detect in 3 minutes, prior to the

first meeting? I know most guys would probably love

to have this problem but I am sure your answer will

help me and many others including the new students

who will soon not have enough hours in a week to meet

all the women if they purchase the advanced series

and follow your advice.



Keep up the great work,

GH

Australia





>>>MY COMMENTS:



You know, I get emails like yours a LOT.



Two comments:



First, it’s always a good reminder when a guy like

you who is physically very attractive reveals to the

rest of the world that there’s a lot more to it than

being good looking.



There’s no doubt in my mind that looking good will

help you meet women. But there’s also no doubt in

my mind that it’s far from everything… and, in fact,

most of the guys I know who are very successful with

women are closer to “average” than they are to “model

handsome”.



I’m glad that you’re adding the “inner game” to the

looks, and having success with it.



Second, to answer your question, I’d like to point

out that when a guy starts experiencing a LOT of success

with women, he usually begins to realize a few things:



1) Just because a woman is attractive doesn’t mean

that she has her life together, that she’s emotionally

stable, that she will be interesting and fun to spend

time with… etc.



2) The more women you meet, the more PICKY you become.



3) A fantastic woman that really has all areas of

her life together is VERY RARE.



4) Finding one of these rare, wonderful women often

takes awhile.



The fact is that men and women BOTH tend to put their

best foot forward in the beginning and only demonstrate

their positive sides.



If you REALLY want to learn how to figure out what

a woman is REALLY like when you first meet her, then

you’ll probably want to start studying psychology,

behavior, and communication in depth.



Also, the more you approach and meet women, the more

you’ll be able to put the puzzle together faster in

the beginning.



By the way, you have one of those problems that most

guys would say “Waaaaa, you poor guy”. So smile about

it.

QUESTION



Whats up Dave? I like the work you did in your eBook…

cocky/funny and the friendship frame work great. I

do have one question however. You state that cocky/funny

humor works best when your not smiling/look serious.

However, a lot of guys who I know that are successful

with women say that smiling is the most effective

thing that attracts women. What’s your take on smiling?



W-CA





>>>MY COMMENTS:



This is an interesting subject.



I think that MOST guys smile too much when they’re

talking to women that they’re attracted to.



Now, I have to modify what I just said a bit.



How about this: Most guys smile IN A WAY THAT LOOKS

LIKE FAKE APPROVAL SEEKING WUSSY MAN when they’re

talking to women that they’re attracted to.



I recommend that most guys learn how to control all

aspects of their body language so they can quit doing

things that make them needy, apologetic, like they’re

trying to get a woman’s approval, etc.



And smiling is one of those aspects.



With that said, I know guys who smile A LOT when they’re

meeting women, and they do VERY well.



What’s their secret?



They know all the things to do RIGHT, so their smiling

doesn’t come across as them trying to be liked, kissing

up to a woman, etc.



Do what works for you.



But if you’ve been the kind of guy that tries to get

women to “like you” in the past, then you’d probably

benefit from learning how to smile less, and be Cocky

& Funny MORE.



COMMENT FROM A WOMAN



Dave,



I am a 29 year old female, and subscribed to your

news letter for kicks and to see what advice you were

giving men. I have to say that you are pretty much

dead on, although I have only read the e-mail newsletters

for the past week or so. However, what prompted me

to write was your response to A.from Mpls in your

“Mailbag”. He asked how not to “regress to Wuss behavior”.

Each and every one of those applies to someone I dated

very briefly back in November. He was guilty of ALL

THREE Wuss behaviors, and I promptly stopped seeing

him. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking to chase

after some jerk. But I do want someone with his own

life, his own circle of friends, his own hobbies and

interests, etc. It’s very difficult to share all that

life has to offer when a guy doesn’t have one of his

own, or gives it up just to be with me. I’m looking

for someone that will challenge me (and I him) so that

we can grow together. I don’t want someone growing

attached to me. Keep up the good work.



K, New Jersey





>>>MY COMMENTS:



ATTENTION MEN! ATTENTION MEN!



Read the above letter again, and see if you can “get”

what this woman is saying.



Try to imagine what it’s like to be her, and try to

figure out what she’s REALLY trying to communicate

here.



If you don’t get it, read it once a day until you do.



QUESTION



What’s happening Dave?



i’ve got a few questions.



1. You always reiterate not being a wuss, but what

type of things/actions should i be saying to act like

a man? Should I be cussing my head off in front of

her and threaten with a back-handed slap like a pimp?

(laughing)



2. This might be a stupid question, but i say the

only stupid question is the one you don’t ask. I was

wondering what does it mean when you’re in a club/bar

type of scene and a woman is driking (water or watever)

and she is giving me eye contact? Is she intrested

in me or just teasing?



3. Also how cocky should i be, cuz i don’t wanna come

across as arrogant? i’m a rookie in the game (18),

& i’ve noticed that women give me signals (e.g. looking),

but my insecurities kick in, and before i make a move

i wan’t to be sure that she’s really intrested in

me, rather than playing the fool.



eternal thanks.



a





>>>MY COMMENTS:



Answers:



1) To answer your question about whether to cuss your

head off in front of a woman and threaten with a back-handed

slap like a pimp (laughing)…



NO. Don’t laugh at all while you do it.



2) In response to the “what does it mean when a woman

is giving me eye contact” question…



It means that she’s gay.



3) To address your question about how cocky you should

be…



You should be exactly 87.234235% cocky. No more, no

less.



OK, OK, I should be more gentle with you. I sure wish

that I would have been asking these questions when

I was 18.



Maybe I just envy you, and want you to have to go

through the school of hard knocks like I did. OK,

enough self-therapy… back to the questions.



Ways to act like a man include (but are not limited

to):



1) Holding yourself upright, chest held high.



2) Acting like a LEADER, not a follower.



3) Not looking to others for approval and attention.



4) Demonstrating that you are in CONTROL of yourself

and your surroundings.



…When a woman makes repeated eye contact with you,

she’s usually signaling to you that she’d like you

to approach her and start a conversation.



…The right amount of Cocky is the same amount of

FUNNY. You always want to make sure that what you’re

saying is FUNNY as well as COCKY. Guys who use TOO

MUCH Cocky come across as arrogant and insecure.



You’ll learn a lot as you use this stuff.



Thanks for your email!

this one cracks me up.





QUESTION



Hi David,



Been enjoying your ebook tips especially bridges.

Do you have any tips for when sharing a shower w/ a

woman?



E





>>>MY COMMENTS:



Only one… do it as often as possible.

[ 编辑者 gogatsu 于日期 01Mar05 ]