虐打和体罚是根本区别
就因为大家都是中国人，就可以让你在这里让你黑社工是吧。你俩根本就不认为自己有什么错。英国什么破法律，社工有问题。你俩在苹果里发帖都是这态度。可见你老公在社工面前是什么态度。
如果我虐打我孩子，我就没有资格做扶养人，那是我活该。
是发生在家里，我老公打孩子，我打我老公，孩子哭，邻居报警了。因为女孩我比较宠爱，不希望被打，结果问题严重了，刚来英国不久。但没办法，已经这样了。
我只是觉得这个社工的判断有问题。
你说话越来越奇怪了，你不会把我的案子和别人的混了吧？
也许你需要变化一下交流方式和态度，你过于defensive，别人稍微有点不同意见你就反击，这样很容易把本来对你没有恶意的人推到你的对立面。
你说“整个大会我一个人说了差不多一个小时，纠正了一些她的错误说法”，不知道有什么事情需要说一个小时，如果这一个小时都是在指责社工，那这个社工的同事对你可能不会有好感的。也可能你说的过多让人家有对于你不利的理解。
龙哥就是按楼主版本，
她老公轻轻体罚了一下孩子，她跟她老公吵起来。邻居报警。
这一段，大家都来英国好多年。如果不是很严重英国人会报警？？？？
然后警察来啦，夫妻吵架，不是现调查家暴妻子。而是直接调查孩子。难道警察有未卜先知的能力。至少有伤痕。
然后社工出现，仿佛跟楼主老公有深仇大恨一样，拼命要陷害楼主老公。弄得社工根恶魔一样。
如果真是需要帮助，真是英国这边错啦。我们苹果里那次没有尽力去出主意，帮助人。问题你先要说实话，不要侮辱我们智商好不好。社工以前在一起工作过。至少我认识的都很有爱心和责任心。这个工作压力大，哪有时间弄出那么大场面去陷害一个不认识的人。
确实，之前的两个社工，都很好，都是谈过几次的。
所以我才想换一个社工。既然你工作中接触过社工，那你知道社工归什么部门管吗？
lz如果要解决问题，一定要换一个角度和说话的方式。给你举个例子：
两个正常人被关进精神病院，一个天天怒吼大喊自己没病，反抗医生护士，要投诉，要报警，做能做的一切来对抗，找一切可能的漏洞来反击。另一个安安静静，按时吃药，让医生检查，和护士聊天。你说他俩谁能先离开那个鬼地方？
如果你的目的是希望大事化小，首先你要摆出一个很重视女儿被打的态度，然后希望先生接受心理治疗或者任何辅导，最终保持家庭完整。如果社工们看到你肯定他们的行为，与他们的决策和想法没有太大出入，你在他们心中就会被当做一个有正常sense的妈妈，可以信任的妈妈，这时候你偶尔替老公辩解，他们才会听到。否则他们会把你也视为“敌人”，最后的结果是你闹得越凶，你的家庭破裂的越快。
只在第二次大会我解释了，其他会议我没说了，小会上也没什么说的了。
有些需要解释，别人写的报告都是提前让我看，但社工的报告因为前一天她没带翻译我没看到，然后开会前我看到了，我解释一些。其实虽然5个月了，但真正谈话才3次每次1个半小时，谈的也是教育背景家庭背景成长经历教育培养孩子的方式方法。
我有配合她们的计划，我态度也很好的，我处于被调查的位置我明白的。
嗯，你说得对，其实我也只是心里很着急，每周都是这个事情，所以才来问问大家。
Local authority involvement in child abuse cases - where to start
The local authority might get involved with your family if they are concerned about child abuse. If there are serious concerns that a child is at risk of harm, they have a legal duty to get involved and investigate the situation. This page tells you more.
How does the local authority get involved in a child abuse case?
There are different ways that the local authority can get involved in a case. Here’s a list of possible people who might report concerns about a child to the local authority:
•a member of the child’s family
•the child themselves
•a neighbour or friend
•the child’s school
•the child’s doctor
•the police
•a specialist organisation, like the NSPCC.
It’s possible for someone to report their concerns anonymously to the local authority. If they do this, the parent of the child, won’t know who reported the case.
What will the local authority do?
Social workers from the local authority should always try to work with the family to make sure you are all getting the help and support you need so the child can stay at home.
Within one working day of getting a report of concerns about child abuse, a local authority social worker should make a decision about what action is needed. They must all tell the person who has reported concerns what they will do.
If they decide that further action is needed, they will start investigations. The investigations should last no longer than 45 working days from the date when the concerns were reported. Depending on the needs of the child, and the level of any risk of harm faced by the child, the investigations may need to be done more quickly.
Once an investigation has been carried out, the social workers may decide that no further action is needed. Or they could decide that further action is needed. For example, they could decide:
•they need to monitor the situation, and offer on-going support, or
•to call a child protection conference.
A child protection conference is a meeting where different people involved in a child’s life, make a decision about whether the child is at risk of abuse and what should happens next. Usually the parents and professionals like the child’s social worker, doctor and teacher and the police would attend a child protection conference. They could:
•make a child protection plan, which sets out the actions needed to protect the child
•apply to court for a supervision order. This would mean that the social worker can play a role in the child’s life for a certain period, providing support and making sure the child is well cared for
•apply to court for an emergency protection order to remove the child from where they are currently living
•start court action to take the child into the care of social services
Even if the child protection conference decides that child abuse isn’t involved, it may be that the social workers decide that the child needs extra help to be able to have a reasonable standard of health or development. If so, the child is said to be a child in need, and the local authority has a legal duty to provide services needed to meet those needs.
What should you do if the local authority gets involved?
It’s best to work openly and honestly with the social workers if they get involved. This is because working closely with the local authority can often stop further action like court proceedings being taken, at the same time as protecting the child’s safety and well-being. Therefore, it’s usually advisable to engage with the social worker and other professionals who get involved. You should:
•allow both announced and unannounced visits
•make sure that you show you appreciate their concerns
•show you’re addressing any concerns and putting things in place to make sure the child is safe and protected.
It may be that, as well as child abuse, there are other issues of concern to the social workers - for example, domestic violence, drug abuse, alcohol abuse or other family problems. It’s very important to try and get help and support with these issues. For example, if you and your child are not safe because of domestic abuse, get legal advice about your options. You might get legal aid. There are many organisations that can give support with alcohol and drug abuse.
If the local authority is involved and you’re accused of child abuse, you’ll need to get specialised legal advice, whether you’re accused rightly or wrongly. You might get legal aid.
Next steps
•Child abuse - you’re concerned about the involvement of the local authority
•Local authority investigations of child abuse
•What is a child protection conference?
•Child abuse - child protection plans
•Child abuse - children who need local authority support
•Using a legal adviser
•Help with legal costs - legal aid
•Help with legal costs - free or affordable help
自己看，我以前是志愿者，帮社工照顾老人，孩子不太懂。还有一种是nspcc志愿者
你现在做的是把你和整个社工对立起来。社工对这种父亲虐女儿的case本来就是很重视。因为她们每做一个决定很可能就要决定一个女孩子一生。程序很繁琐。同样人家也要看你，你老公的心理状况。你想解决这个事，就是按照程序走。
如果我是协助那个社工的志愿者。我问一句-孩子被打啦，还能乐呵呵的。
就凭你那句。你孩子心理素质好，她乐观，我培养的。我绝对站在社工那边。
不是帮着你说话就是好社工，不同意你观点就是坏社工。社工要站在客观角度看。
你一个小时滔滔不绝一个小时纠正社工的演讲。恭喜你。你已经成功地把你从受害者的角色，变成同谋的嫌疑人角色。
谢谢你给我这个信息。
我只想说一点，不是所有的英国人都是好人。遇到了3个警察3个社工，有差异。5个月了，我对于这件事的认识和判断也来自这几个人的言论，毕竟中国没有社工这样的组织，都是他们说什么我做什么。
有些人只是为了工作，正常对待，有些人很热心，能帮忙解答一些其他问题，有些人很坏，故意给出错误判断。
当然也有因为文化差异带来的一些认识上的不同，比如，她们觉得我的孩子为什么会比同年龄的小孩成熟，她们表示不理解，她们觉得英国的小孩子更像小孩子。我的孩子为什么说想见爸爸，她们都表示不能理解。所以要派心理专家，说孩子没有说出内心的想法。见到社工这么说，校长马上就改口说，那派心理专家还是有必要。之前他说的是孩子很快乐，很以前一样，每次都是这么说，但这次就改了。
我把那句删了，让你对我有误解了，我那句也没和社工说了。
因为你说了一句，孩子被打了还能去上学，我才说的。
孩子确实心理状态很好，她从来没离开过我，每天都和我聊各种，她有自己的观点，她语言表达能力挺好的。
还是不明白，是吧，策略要改。不是好人坏人问题。英国就得按英国方式走，社工肯定会误导你。她们要测试你的心理问题。就像我开始回帖，就是一样策略。
社工里肯定会有人做好人，也肯定会有人做坏人。
首先你老公态度必须改，态度必须软化。你的态度也必须改。不要去对抗，要去引用
那个我只是想测试一下你的心理承受和反应。问题是你连我这么点承受能力都受不了，一旦上庭，你一定输。
是啊，就是因为我发现事情比我预想的复杂啊，所以才发上来问问。
我个人人品啊带孩子啊都没问题的。
我也想过，社工有些问题是测试我的有些是歪曲的，但我没有的我不能承认啊，所以我得说啊。
你是78年的？
你说话语气，加不加please。陈述的方式都要加强。我们很多中国人来这说话都不知道怎么冒犯英国人的。就是这个原因。如何表达你自己，你问问成龙大哥吧。他这方面比较强。