父母都工作家庭的孩子技能和智力发展比其它孩子快(Oxford和LSE研究结果),全职工作的母亲不要为不能在家陪孩子而内疚了。

Oxford和LSE最新研究结果:父母都工作家庭的孩子技能和智力发展比其它孩子快,全职工作的母亲不要为不能在家陪孩子而内疚了。

Children whose parents both go out to work develop faster than those with stay-at-home mothers
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3940360/Children-parents-work-develop-faster-stay-home-mothers.html#ixzz4QAoKxZpn
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  • Children with stay-at-home mothers are less advance than their peers
  • Nurseries deliver a 10 per cent positive impact on everyday skills
  • Children are often exposed to more stimulating activities at nursery
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    Children of working mothers develop faster than those who stay at home, a study has found.

Going to nursery or spending time with grandparents improved everyday skills such as talking, social interaction and tasks such as getting dressed.

In contrast, those with mothers who stayed at home were less advanced, scientists at Oxford University and the London School of Economics suggest.
Going to nursery or spending time with grandparents improved everyday skills such as talking, social interaction and tasks such as getting dressed.

The study tested children against four measures of development and found that children whose mothers were not working had lower capabilities.

In fact, researchers found it had a five per cent negative impact on both their everyday and social skills.

Meanwhile, attending nursery delivered a 10 per cent positive impact on everyday skills while more time with grandparents led to a five per cent boost in talking and 10 per cent better social skills.

Laurence Roope, of Oxford University, who co-wrote the paper, said it was clear time spent in day care had a ‘strongly positive effect’ on children.

‘It should give parents some reassurance that nurseries are not going to harm their children, and are likely to be beneficial,’ he said.

'It seems that what is important is engaging in interactive activities. It could be there is a trade-off. Going out to work brings in more money for the family, which leads to more financial security and the ability to partake in more activities. Those with mothers who stayed at home were less advanced.

‘But it might mean that the bond between parent and child is not as great, particularly if the parent is tired or stressed.’

The researchers said children were often exposed to more stimulating activities at nurseries and interacted with both new children and adults.

The report, based on a survey of more than 800 mothers by the German Socio-Economic Panel, found the benefits of nursery seemed to increase as children spent more time there.

Reading and visiting other families was found to improve speech capabilities while singing songs and arts and crafts seen to have a positive impact on dexterity.

It asked about their socio-economic status and their children’s progress at age two and three, using questions such as 'Can your child cut pieces of paper with scissors?

‘It’s very important for policymakers to support working mothers through flexible working and providing good quality nurseries,’ Roope added.

Higher-education among mothers also played a role but having older parents was disadvantageous to children, when assessed against all four criteria.

Professor Paul Anand, the report’s lead author, said it showed that different activities promote different skills.

Laura Perrins, co-editor of The Conservative Woman website and an advocate for stay-at-home-mothers, said the report made it seem mothers cannot be trusted with their children.

‘One wonders how so much human progress has been made so far without children being in nursery,’ she told The Telegraph. ‘Although, I note, little is said about emotional development,’ she added.

谢谢龙哥,不内疚,妈妈的榜样是无穷的;孩子是家庭的一部分而不是above everything; 妈妈不快乐,全家也不会快乐。
咱走自己的路,让玻璃心的妈妈爱咋想咋想呗。

我不到两岁的女儿在幼儿园学到了好多,会自己穿衣服,哄玩偶们睡觉,咳嗽用手捂着嘴之类的,我觉得自己带教不了那么多,但有的时候下班晚了一点出门,到幼儿园接的时候她是最后一个,我的玻璃心真碎了一地,现在每天能早走几分钟就早走

我也看到了,和媳妇讨论,媳妇说: 母亲工作的家庭通常来说母亲工作还不会太差,否则经济上不划算。 至少母亲受教育程度和智商都不会太差。。。。

其实讨论母亲是不是工作完全missing the point,关键是要培养孩子的独立性,不工作的母亲时间比较充足所以管孩子的事情比较多,什么事情都是妈妈安排好了,孩子自然就不需要发展自己的能力,和母亲的智商学历关系应该不大。 {:5_137:}

我们看法正好相反,不工作的母亲要做很多家务,管孩子时间就少了,也因为总在一起,也不在乎浪费点时间。 孩子被祖父母管,或者在幼儿园都是专职的,不需要有家务的时间,加上双职工和孩子在一起有新鲜感,也有补偿孩子成分,下班和周末几乎全部是孩子的时间。实际上孩子得到的关注和时间要多些。 这都是从概率来说,具体到个体就没有任何正确性。

大哥说到点了。。。

龙哥也爱看dailymail 啊 {:5_137:}

可是娃娃们选英语做母语了。这是我发现孩子小时候全托的drawback.

我不内疚,但担心。因为我发现我回到家就开始忙做饭忙吃饭洗刷,根本没有时间管他的功课。这才是问题。
我一直庆幸我家上的托儿所很好,他们在托儿所学到的绝对比我自己带学到的多很多。
但老大开始上小学以后我就不淡定了,没办法监督他写字和读书。只能每天送他去学校的路上边开车边跟他学拼字……以后还要教他数学……所以是很认真地在思考要改成part time工作了,不是不上班,是把每天的时间从8小时减少到6小时这样子,希望明年下半年能实施……

你每天半个小时都挤不出来吗?

这么大孩子,home work不能超过半个小时,学校一般建议15分钟,我建议两个15分钟。

他们睡着以后我的时间就很多。但是我回到家到他们睡下的时间很难挤出半小时。因为老大不吃饭老二也要吃饭。而且老二根本就不会leave me a lone。我在哪他就粘到哪。爸爸过去抱走他他直接又摔奶嘴又扇爸爸巴掌的,还满地打滚。根本不能好好的跟老大讲话了。冬天和下雨天很难,夏天还能让爸爸拽走他到外面走走逛逛。冬天必须在屋里啊……
如果我早下班了,可以让老二在托儿所待长点时间,在他回家前我帮老大一起读读书玩玩写字之类的学习游戏也可以~
不过可能过了2岁,老二没那么粘我的时候时间上也会好操作点。就是最近这两个月搞得我很不淡定~

哦,还有老二的破坏力超强,哥哥有什么他就抢,抢到了就乱甩乱扔乱画,把哥哥的书啊,本子阿什么的糟蹋得不成样子了。识字卡片更不行,多好玩阿,有图画还一片片的一堆……疯了要~

爸爸做饭,妈妈陪娃

我们就是这样养成爸爸做饭的习惯的

我一个人上班带娃。给娃做的饭简单,有时候等他睡了才给自己做饭。一般都是等他睡了才洗刷。不过还是没有时间学习。你有俩娃更难。

你要培养孩子自己玩的能力和习惯啊。

如果你不在意,我想说,你过于dominate,你老公在家没有地位,这样对男孩的培养不太好啊。

不在意,你说的很准确,娃爹是没地位,因为我很生气。MD,忠告未婚女孩子们,文科男真的不能要!!! {:5_131:}

很认同这个理论啊,他幼儿园去了不到三个月,每天接他都很开心。不到两岁英文可以从一数到十,并且认识对应的阿拉伯数字,之前可是没什么英文基础的,都是老师教的。我对他现在的幼儿园很满意。

有什么样选择的人就认同什么样的理论,很正常啊。这个世界从来就不缺少各种理论。
反正孩子是没有选择的权利的,妈妈为孩子选择对孩子最好的。
觉得一两岁甚至几个月的孩子全天七八小时幼儿园实在看不出有什么过多的好处,更多的是无奈吧。

我也是每天下班就急着往回赶,接上孩子回到家又急着做饭吃饭,然后孩子就该睡觉了。。。我一般都是做简餐,基本30-40分钟搞定,吃完饭收拾洗刷都是我老公的事。。。但是他不能那么早回来,一般都是他进门我们开饭。所以我换房子首要的一条就是厨房要大,至少能放下一个桌子,这样我做饭的时候可以顺带让女儿写写字什么的。不然还要厨房餐厅隔空喊话。。。我每天去after school club接她都是最后那几个。。我还是挺羡慕放学就能回家的孩子的。。。她有时候眼巴巴看着同学都被爸爸妈妈接走,自己却要继续留在学校会有点不开心。希望大一点学校课后活动多一些能好一点。

我家呆在学校或者托儿所的时间都不是特别长。弟弟有三天从8点半到下午3点,哥哥那三天就是8点到学校吃早餐,三点半放学回家,另外两天哥哥是9点到学校3点半放学,弟弟就是9点半到3点。那时娃爹在接,他上早班早下班,我上正常班,下午5点多点才回到家。我的希望就是把下午上班时间缩短到3点或者3点半下班。那样还是娃爹接哥哥放学,我到家他们也到家,这样给他吃点东西写写字看看书什么的都好,然后老二4点半才接回来,这样有大半个小时时间差,就能全部给老大。老二到家我可以准备晚饭,也是简餐拉,饭加两个炒菜。但如果我3点多下班到家的话,我还能把汤料扔锅里煲汤,也不耽误辅导老大作功课。俩娃有汤的话,饭吃的多很多,基本上都是一大碗米饭拿一点点汤拌着随便一下就都吃光光,再把剩下的半碗汤喝完,绝对不会晚上饿肚子。平常光吃饭炒菜不怎么有胃口……唉~

你这时间已经很宽松了!回家还挺早的,主要问题是怎么manage两个孩子的时间。。我们家13个月就开始一周五天早7:30 - 晚6:00,工作日从没在家吃过早饭。。。爸爸送我负责接,6点多到家,7点吃饭,8点之前洗澡上床睡觉,完全军队作息啊。。。