事情是这样的:老婆是签高技术过来的，但是金融危机做孽阿一直没有找到合适的工作。
老婆是个很上进且自尊心很强的人，所以来这一年多天天是愁眉不展。
经过无数次讨论得出结论：要想进金融行业bigname的学校很重要，所以她应该去CAM-OXF读个PHD。
我其实很赞成的但是以现在的情况估计，拿奖学金是没啥希望了那就要自己掏腰包了！我明年phd才毕业估计把论文弄完了等找到工作不也的伦敦奥运会了。。
我开始是想等我赚钱了她想读就读吧估计我的薪水供她应该够了。自己老婆读书总不能让老爸老婆要钱？
问题来了。。前两天给家里电话说了说我俩的计划。谁成想老爸力马说还等你毕业，现在就读吗,我给你们出钱就是了。我当时就蒙了! 心理想的是就是不想在让你们费心了。自己老婆自己养么？最后也没作出了结论，就挂了。可是老婆也听见了，家里支持她早点去读. 表面上她也没说什么。可是我知道她心理当然是希望早点去读自己年龄也不小了。
女生人气高，我想听听大家的意见：我是应该拿父母的钱呢让老婆去读？还是等我赚钱再去读？确实3年学费不是小数目. 我总觉得家里最好还是一个读书一个工作的模式比较踏实！！！
我先谢谢大家了
Update:
Thank you so much for every suggestion and opinions or arguments. I am so appreciated what uve done! To collect all info, I briefly prefer two main points so far.
Firstly, my gut feeling tells me that my wife would be more appropriate to master degree rather than phd. According to suggestion of some posts, age is an inevitably important issue for women and phd takes longer and more efforts. There is no point doing it if she doesn’t wanna go to academia or something like Quant for future career. The reason why I encourage her to pursue phd is that I like her working in the academia. I think it would be much easier and less stress. However, people have their own dreams and expectations. I cannot force her to do what I love to, although it might be good for her. Hence I leave her to choose and decide.
Consequently, the problem, comes from the tuition fee, can be easily solved as the master course only takes one year, which means, less pressure on that. So I would like to compromise and let her go to uni next year. My farter said that the money won’t grow while it is still and the only investment is able to boost it up. Thereby education may be the best investment in the world. Here u go…….
I will discuss these thoughts with my wife on Sunday. I don’t wanna interrupt her before she completes the exam.
Thanks everyone again. Hope you have no trouble life…
PS: sorry to type in English as I cannot do Chinese in the office…
而且以后你们多多孝顺就好了嘛 嘿嘿