Accidently click on this post while I’m at work right now, i know i should do in my spare time, but I have a similar experience that I have to share with you. I can’t type in chinese, hope that you have the patient to read this.
My ex-bf is shockingly similar to your husband, I pretty much ran into all the situations that you discribed during the two years of our relationship. I have to say, YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. You should leave this marriage, not because he’s a bad guy, but because you and him are not the same type of person. You and him want different things in life, your goals and views about life are so different that, based on my experience with my ex, i don’t think there’s any chance you will compile to each other no matter how hard you try.
Have you ever thought about that, the good things you listed about him is not actually his strong point? They could be all rooted from one thing, LAZYNESS. He’s good tempered because he’s too lazy to augue with you. For me, a good husband should be fixing the problem that made you unhappy. An action worth more than a thousand words.
I was bad tempered too during our relationship, which makes me belived that maybe this is just my personality. However, once we broke up, i am happy. Maybe your temper is not because that’s who you are, but you feel cornered, and not satisfy with the life right now. Maybe it’s time for a change.
Don’t be afraid about making a change. 15 years is a long time, but what if you compare it with lifetime?
No matter what your decision is, two things you should keep in mind.
1, don’t use divoce as a threat for change, he behave like this because this is just how he is. Just like you feel unhappy because you need to push yourself to accept all the bad habits of his right now, forcing him to change would make both of you even more unhappy. Personality is nearly impossible to change, especially when he’s no willing to.
2, divorce is not failure, is not the end of the world, but a new beginning. So be brave, you are an independent woman, and you can do anything you want. You deseve happyness.
: 人都是这样的。。。上来诉苦的时候都是片面的话