结果第二天回来跟我说又被打了，而且老师根本没有和她聊天了，这个事情以后我感觉老师明显对她态度不好。接她的时候看到男孩和他妈妈，一开始我不确定是不是她上前打了个招呼想确认下。对方狠狠地瞪我并说和老师约谈，我问老师我可以加入吗，老师严词拒绝说NO YOU CANT YOU DONT HAVE APPOINTMENT然后就关门。当时我觉得这个老师态度很差，找到校长投诉，校长就说不太可能blah blah，然后说她会调查的但如果最后我需要转学她可以帮忙。整个过程校方除了第一次老师打过电话，再没有主动找我了解情况，没有问过我女儿状况怎么样。我发了邮件都没有回复，只有最后一次我要求governor的信息，终于秒回了。
今天我找到老师问可否约个appointment，对方说放学后可以。然后约谈的时候她就是一副你还想干吗？我说我要了解一下现在我女儿这个case处理到什么步骤了，但是对方说的就感觉这个事情已经翻篇了，怎么我还要纠缠不清。她说男孩否认有打过人，她也可以保证我女儿绝对不会被打，所以不知道我还要纠结什么。最后她还说，那你就等governor回复吧（我只是发邮件要联系资料，并通知校方如果没有处理好就上升到governor告知学校failed safeguarding my child。
看到回复我补充一下： Lz ,should work with teacher and school, 不应该太冲动,因为老师不让她参加别人的meeting而投诉那个老师，上星期三才老师说明问题, 到今天也才1周已经到投诉学校的步骤了。在叙述里lz 的很多做法非常欠妥，明白lz心疼孩子，但很多事需要冷静和耐心。楼下那个英文回复真心好，也很有心。
All schools are legally required to have an anti-bullying policy which provides guidance on their obligations and what support they can offer. Before you approach the school, list all the facts such as what happened, who was involved, when it occurred, who witnessed it and how often it has happened.
Don’t arrive at the school unexpectedly, make an appointment with the class teacher or head of year. Aim to work together with the school and make it clear that you are seeking the school’s help in finding a solution.
Avoid accusing the school and remember often teachers are usually the last to find out that bullying is happening at school. Be patient and allow the school time to deal with the problem but stay in touch with them and arrange a follow up meeting to see how the situation is being resolved.
What to do if things don’t improve
Keep a diary and write down every incident as soon as possible after it happens. Include the date, what happened, who did it and who saw it. Include the effect on your child, whether your child told anyone and what they said or did and any later effects.
Tell the school each time there is an incident. Write down what they say or do and any impact their actions have. If your child is hurt, take photographs, and see your doctor (and the police if the assault is serious). Schools have a variety of options for dealing with bullying. These range from a warning, seeing the bully’s parents and detention to internal exclusion within the school, fixed term exclusion and permanent exclusion.
If you’re not satisfied with the school’s response, don’t give up or be made to feel like a timewaster or a troublemaker. You can write to the Head, Governors, Education Dept and Ofsted. If your child is too frightened or stressed to go, contact the LEA education welfare officer/social worker and ask them to intervene with the school.
，感觉我做不到孟母三迁那么伟大，一想到改变就有点头疼呢。。学校那边校长和老师都知道我不是软柿子随便捏，态度也从一开始不想鸟我到现在主动给我更新女儿近况，我觉得好多了暂时对校方也还算满意虽然他们真的还可以做的更好一点。。希望我们娘俩都可以融入集体。现在老师对她也更关心了，她也开始交朋友，希望一切继续往好的方向发展。如果最后实在不行，再考虑转学。