OK, this is from the guy who wrote the double your dating book.
I am on his mailing list and I think it’s a fun read (although some contents are quite repetitive) and there’s some truth in it as well.
I know many girls here might think they are crap, then you could take it for its entertainment values.
Surely most of us will not shell out money to buy a book to teach us on how to score dates with hot girls and how to keep them, but guys that are struggling with the dating game might find this interesting to read. and help to set you back into a better mood.
Anyway, so that is why I decided to post and share it.
I hope there’s at least somebody that likes it.
note that i feel sometimes they are just too long… or not something we can relate to and a bit pointless… i’ll delete some sections to spare you the boredom…
Cocky Comedy commercial
page 1
Getting Women’s Numbers And Getting Dates
Feb 21 2005
What To Do When A Woman Flakes Out
Feb 24 2005
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Page 2
Why Women Don’t ‘Make Sense’
Feb 26 2005
Fear, “Self-Doubt” And Meeting Women
Feb 28 2005
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Page 3
How To Act When A Woman Likes You
Mar 3 2005
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Page 4
Can ‘Regular’ Guys Attract ‘Hot’ Women?
Mar 7 2005
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Page 6
Dealing With TESTS From Women
Mar 11 2005
The Attitude For Approaching Women
Mar 15 2005
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Page 7
Kissing Women And Using Humor
Mar 17 2005
Approaching Women, Asking Them Out, Attraction
Mar 21 2005
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Page 8
(funny stories from test testimonials on his Advanced Series)
Will She Be A FRIEND OR A LOVER?
Mar 25 2005
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Page 9
Why “Nice Guys” Fail With Women
Mar 27 2005
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Page 11
How To Keep A Woman Interested In You
Mar 31 2005
How To “Get Physical” With A Woman
Apr 2 2005
Getting Women To “Pick YOU Up”
Apr 7 2005
How To Kiss A Woman
Apr 11 2005
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Page 12
“Strange But True: Sex-Crazed Woman Attacks Man”
Apr 16 2005
How To Approach Women, Start Conversations
Apr 18 2005
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Page 13
Overcoming Fear And Meeting Women In Bars
Apr 25 2005
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Page 14
Making Women Feel Sexually Attracted To You
May 3 2005
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Page 15
How To Tell A Woman That You Like Her
May 5 2005
How To KEEP A Woman Attracted To You
May 7 2005
How To End ‘Dating Dry Spells’
May 9 2005
Can ‘Nice Guys’ Attract Women? (GREAT SUMMARY)
May 13 2005
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Page 16
Eye Contact And Body Language To Attract Women
May 19 2005
Dating After Divorce Or Relationship Breakup
May 27 2005
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Page 17
All About Approaching Women
May 31 2005
How To Use Cocky & Funny Humor To Attract Women
June 7, 2005
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Page 18
How To Keep A Woman Interested In You
Jun 10 2005
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Page 19
“How To Get More Numbers & Emails From Women”
Jun 14 2005
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Page 20
Overcoming Fear, Making Out With Women
Jun 22 2005
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Page 21
How To Spot And Avoid The Wrong Women
Jun 24 2005
Secrets Of Dating Younger Women
Sep 20, 2005
David DeAngelo Mailbags ends here.
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Getting Women’s Numbers And Getting Dates
Feb 21 2005
QUESTION
Hey, David.
I’ve read DYD, have been getting your newsletters,
totally understand what’s going on. I’ve seen it
working, and know it’s for real. But I’ve got a BIG
problem. I’ve got to recondition myself from more
years than I care to admit of doing things the wrong
way.
I always idolized superheroes like Batman & Superman
who always acted with the utmost respect and decorum.
Like musclebound male versions of Miss Manners. My
heroes were modest, reliable, helpful, well-mannered,
and strong (OK – they’re not totally lame). Definitely
not cocky. I always hated mouthy guys who are
all show and no go.
As for sex, in my younger years it was Catholic
training: everything sexual was evil (unless you’re
a priest hitting on the altar boys), and I was so
naive and mixed up I really thought I was going to
hell.
After I wised up and dropped that it was sexual
harassment that I kept hearing about all the time.
The message I got then is that it’s not OK to be sexual
until you’re already going with someone. Of course
now I know that that only applies to man who a woman
is NOT ATTRACTED TO.
OK, so now I understand. But am still reflexively
doing the same wrong things. What’s the best way
to actually go about reconditioning my behavior?
I can be a good smartass when I have the right stimuli,
but what’s the best way to practice loosening up with
the sex talk? I don’t want to klutz things up with
awkward, forced attempts on women who are good prospects.
I can be cool enough to get dates, but want to take
it to the next level. The best thing I can think of
is either to practice on female friends I’ve already
written off or go to places I don’t really care to
hang around regularly, like techno-disco meat markets
where I probably couldn’t be as crude and crass as
the average ass-grabber if I slammed a fifth of Daniels
and tried.
This may apply to a lot of other guys who are “struggling
with the material.” Any better ideas how to get through
the learning curve as quickly as possible without
poisoning one’s reputation by being tagged an uber-klutz?
FB
Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you say that you’ve read my book, but you need
to go back through it… remember, it’s a reference
manual, to be referred to again and again… not a
fictional book to be used as entertainment.
If I were you, I’d get online and start chatting with
women with instant messenger services and/or in chatrooms,
as I describe in Chapter 7.
Bust on them, tease them, talk about every topic you
can think of, including sex (make sure you’re talking
to women who are of legal age, by the way!).
You’ll find that starting conversations with women
online and practicing your skills is a lot move convenient
when you can do it from the comfort of your computer.
And you’ll see… it’s very easy to talk about any
topic with women. Get over your pre-conceived ideas,
and just do it.
And get over this worshipping Batman, dude. Didn’t
you see the Saturday Night Live skits where they were
mocking him and Robin as the “Ambiguously Gay Duo?”
Not good role-models, man.
QUESTION
Dave,
Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since
grabbing your book and applying C&F! My friends are
amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great!
One of the most important points I have followed from
you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score
routine and approaching each part as a skill I must
learn. Got past the email/phone number part, past
the first date and first kiss part, and finally the
step towards intimacy. But alas, I’m down to the
one skill that I have problems with and that I’ve
never seen you really address:
The graceful exit skill…
Let me explain…OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe
we end up in each other’s arms, maybe not, but there
comes a point when I just want to end it and move
on to another girl. I always get nervous with the
“Well, it’s been fun, but we this isn’t going to work
out so have a good life…” Do I call and leave a
voice mail? Do I phone her? Do I break it off face-to-face?
What’s the confident, C&F way to leave a girl and
not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of
it?
Loving life, S.R.
P.S. You should pay people for referrals as I have
got about 10 of my friends to buy your book! HA HA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You’re a very, very, very bad man.
In the best way possible, of course.
I think the key to dating more than one woman, or
to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to
NOT ACT LIKE YOU’RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.
Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So
don’t. It’s not necessary.
Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy yourself.
You don’t have to break something off if it never
was “something” to begin with. Are you with me?
The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five
times a week, act like her long lost love, and then
drop her without explanation. I think you get what
I’m saying.
SUCCESS STORY
Dave,
I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about
6 or 8 months and have purchased your ebook a couple
after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable
and well worth the price. It has completely changed
the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore
and wonder “what’s wrong with me”. Now I know what
was wrong with me, I was a wuss! But that’s all changed
now and have become the Jedi Master. I’ve even come
up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.
At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one
night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of
mine who I told about the party. I got to talking
to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured
on the C&F, but I never got her info. I know, I know,
the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain
it from her friends, and the way she interacted with
me, I knew she wouldn’t have minded at all (Important
Note: this is my success story, I wouldn’t recommend
doing things like this unless you have developed the
confidence that your book helps teach). Well, I never
had to even asked her friends because two days later,
she ended up looking me up in the University’s online
student directory and then she looked up my IM name
and IMed me with a “mysterious person” message. I
immediately figured out it was her and then accused
her of stalking me and told her that’s pretty illegal.
She almost thought I was mad at her! It was great!
Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention
about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and
we set something up to go play pool at a local bar
where I again poured it on thick. Now mind you, I
hadn’t made any big advances or anything but as she
dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom.
After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me
and let me have a little taste. I said goodnight to
her and that was that night. A few nights later, I
told her I was going to be cooking and that she should
come over which leads me to…
Tip 1
One of the best techniques is to invite a girl
over for dinner at your place, especially if you
know how to cook. I find that many women don’t know
how to cook or only “cook” stuff like Mac and Cheese
and other junk. The best part about this is they get
to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women
when you can make a good meal, and you have the most
control because it is your own place. The other part,
is make sure you don’t start making dinner until she
is already at your place, she’s not getting an entirely
free meal! Make her help. If she refuses, use the C&F
techniques and have her do something. Put her on a
task that’s not too difficult so she can’t mess it
up. For example, if you’re making lasagna, make her
grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is
rather insulting unless you’re doing most of them and
she wants to help, which she just might). And when
you’re all done with dinner, take it to the couch and
turn on the TV or watch a movie or something. Which
brings me to…
Tip 2
If you’re sitting down next to a girl that you’re
talking to in a private setting and you get a little
of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind
where you just kind of look at each other. If you’re
thinking to yourself “should I be kissing her?”.
The answer is a screaming “YES”. This can be preceded
by the “kiss Test” as well, but I know a lot of guys
will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.
Think about it this way. If you don’t kiss her, then
she’ll probably think you’re a wuss because you don’t
have the balls to do something she probably wants you
to anyways. After talking with a number of my girl-friends,
I’ve found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl,
unless there is an obvious unattraction, she will most
likely go with the kiss. At any rate, in this day
and age, she’s not going to slap you and walk out the
door. It’s not like you grabbed her crotch or something.
Tip 3
MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about
calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you
have already answered this question in some form and
you know what to do! You can generally sense if a
girl is sensitive about something like that. If not,
send her some sort of message that next day, preferably
email, but if you’re on the phone, have something
you’re on the way to or busy with. Call, say “hi”
and that you had a great time, don’t ask how she’s
doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a
good time, but find some way to use C&F to make a light
conversation that will keep her wondering and even
thinking about you. Don’t bring up the sex unless
she does so in a favorable manner.
Tip 4
Not so much a getting girls technique, but rather
something you need to do alone. In your spare time
or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past
failed attempts when you have a clear head about them
and think about what happened. You’d be surprised
at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong.
You’ll also be surprised to find out that these are
probably mistakes you make all the time! This is
the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it
so that its not repeated.
Your techniques are nearly priceless and have
stroked the confidence of guys everywhere. I’ve
even recommended it to friends that have some serious
wuss problems. I have yet to see if they’ve taken
it to heart or even subscribed, but I’ll help them
yet! Things are going great with that girl and I know
it wouldn’t have happened if it weren’t for your book.
Its now become second nature, and you get all the
credit.
Thanks again Dave
Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master,
D.M.
SUCCESS STORY
Dave,
I’d just like to say your book helped in my confidence
level and my cocky/funny routine. I have always been
funny and was always successful at making women laugh.
I had the problem of, well, closing the deal. I would
strike the conversation, make them laugh, and just
joke with em, but could never get their #. And I would
never ask at the right times, being shot down was a
large part of my night.
After reading your book, I met and talked to this
girl online. At this point I didnt care about relationships
or anything. I just wanted to have fun. So we talk
about 3 days online, and I called her maybe 1 time
and asked her to lunch. The whole lunch I am making
her laugh and break out a little of the cocky routine.
She’s laughing and we both having a good time. Later
this month it will be 6 months that we’ve been together
and I just recently was told, that she tried everything
she knew the first 2 weeks to turn me on. Shes easily
a “8-9” and any other man would have given in and been
the “proverbial” wussy. Let me tell you cocky/funny/un-clingy
= ATTRACTION. It works, it really does! Thanks for
the confidence boost. I just have to give you kudos
to what you have discovered here. I think you have
solved the “8th” wonder of the world: Women and dating.
You da man
K.N. Ohio
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You’re welcome…
And you’re right: Most attractive women DON’T KNOW
WHAT THE HELL TO DO when they meet a guy that is charming,
funny, “un-clingy” and in control of himself and the
situation.
They get turned on, they think about you all the
time, and they generally feel a level of ATTRACTION
that they can’t control (and don’t want to control,
because they love it!).
Good job, and I’m glad to hear that you’ve found a
nice girl for yourself. MAKE SURE YOU DON’T TURN INTO
A WUSS-BAG and screw it up!
QUESTION
hey dave,
you are really the man! i started reading your
material and realized what i wuss i had been with
the one girl i dated. before we were dating i was
textbook cocky and funny, but after we were dating
i became super-wuss man and i became “just a friend”.
well every girl since then has been absoultely begging
for my attention (even girls i meet online that live
hundreds of miles away that i practice on). i have
two or three girls call everyday but i’m always too
“busy” to talk for very long (hey i have to watch
my sportscenter) i was on an airplane to NYC when
this hott girl sits down in the seat next to me (i
was window and she was aisle) i had my laptop out
and when she sat down i acted like i didnt notice.
well a few minutes later i had to put away my laptop
so i pulled out a book and began reading it. she then
pulls out makeup (yes makeup) and starts putting it
on in the plane. i gave her a funny look and said
“didnt you have time to do that at home?”
Her: “(laughing) i did have time, but i didnt want
to. all i’m doing today is flying.”
Me: “oh i see…(pause) you’re lazy.”
Her: “no i’m not”
Me: "sure you are. but then you saw me and decided
you want to look good right?
Her: (just laughs)
Me: “hey, dont worry about it… nothing new to me.”
Her: “(laughs) well i mean…”
Me: “(interruping her) it’s fine! dont be
embarrassed. you’re not the first woman to
try and pick me up this morning.”
Her: “(still giggling) how can you be so mean to a
complete stranger?”
now i’m stuck… i didnt have anything left to
say… so i just said “i dont know” and (luckily)
she continued the conversation and i eventually got
her email and number and everything. but if you could
tell me something cocky and funny that i could have
used to respond to that it would be much appreciated.
thanks!
J. from OK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol… you get it all, and you’re trying to tell me
that you didn’t know what to say in this situation?
How about this:
After she said “How can you be so mean to a complete
stranger?” you could have said:
“I’m not being mean at all, I’m just trying to let
you know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me
like a sex object… like a piece of meat to be used
for your entertainment… can’t you just get to know
me for who I am? And then later use all the makeup
tricks to seduce me?”
There are all kinds of directions you could go with
this… you were doing great.
Just make sure you always end by turning it around,
playing hard to get, and getting the email/number.
Try this:
“OK, look. You’re nice and everything, but you’re
moving a little too fast for me. Here… here’s a
pen. Write down your email address and number, and
maybe we can talk on the phone later… then we’ll
see.”
Or if you want to get together right after you get
off the plane, say:
“Hey, I’ll tell you what. I see that you only want
to use me for my charm… but why don’t we have a
drink tonight so I can find out if there’s more to
you than just the makeup and cheap lines.”
You’re doing great.
What To Do When A Woman Flakes Out
Feb 24 2005
QUESTION FROM A READER
I will try to keep this short, but if you don’t read
it all, just refer to the question at the bottom regarding
the question.
Okay, I have read through all of your newsletters
ever since I signed up for the service & purchased
your E-Books.
On a Tuesday I am out with a friend & we bump into
his ex & her roommate. Both girls are 9’s (pushing
10’s). I immediately go to work! She’s wearing a turtle
neck sweater (I see a weak spot) so I start calling
her “Tippy the Turtle” all night. She acts all defensive
about it, but keeps laughing & asking me WHY, WHY,
WHY do you keep calling me that?..So I just keep
pouring it on. I bust on her humorously every chance
I get. Within 2 hours, she’s leaning on me, squeezing
me & following me around the club like a puppy…
SO, we go to another club & I go to the bar to get
a drink and the waitress at the bar (whom I know from
being there in the past) asks me why I have never
asked HER to go out & do anything (LIGHT BULB GOES
ON). So I tell her it’s “because I don’t have a way
to get a hold of her”. So she pulls out a dollar bill
from her money holder & writes her number down and
gives it to me (this girl is a solid 10 by the way…
and trust me, IM PICKY!). Needless to say, IM STOKED!
So I tease her a little about her name (because her
name is B…a guys name), take the number & go back
to my friend & the girls… Everything is great
RIGHT???
Now the problem & the question:
I ask a friend of mine about her (the waitress). He
works at the same night club she does. He said that
she was “all about money”. He also told me that she
just quit her job that weekend & didn’t work there
anymore…
So I called her on the following Sunday (gave it about
5 days). I decided to check this “money thing” out
in a humorous way. When she finally realized who I
was (which kinda pissed me off that I had to explain
to her who I was on the phone…I went as far as suggesting
that I hang up & call back & try this again) I told
her that I heard she quit her job & then asked her
“How are you going to take me to lunch & pay my way
if you don’t have a job”? I thought it was funny &
was awaiting a laugh, but she responded with “why
do you have to start the conversation off like that?
I had to support my last 2 boyfriends, so don’t go
there”. Needless to say Im shocked & respond with
“Its becoming a habit huh?”…and then heard silence
& broke the silence with “Im just giving you sh**!”
(I know, I know…a WUSS moment)
SO, I set a simple meeting with her (for some lunch
before I had to go to work) for that same Thursday
(today actually…4 days later). She said the date
& time were cool so I closed the deal (kept the phone
call at about 3-4 minutes). Before I hung up she said
“why don’t you call me between now & then so we can
talk”. Well Im picking up on that one right away, so
I respond with. What would be the point in that? We
are getting together Thursday to talk". And we said
our goodbyes & that was it…
NOW I get a phone call 3 hours before we have to meet
& she tells me some BS story about her brother coming
in town & she can’t meet me for lunch. Well Im not
stupid, and I just had another girl cancel in a similar
fashion on me last night. DUHH!!!.. So my question
is this:
QUESTION: If a girl cancels on you, how should you
really handle it? Especially if you know her excuse
is bull sh**!!! (I can pick liars out a mile away…
its a gift!). I realize she maybe testing me, but
when a girl expresses interest in YOU & makes it a
point to make sure that YOU leave WITH HER PHONE NUMBER,
how should you handle it when they cancel last minute
with a lame ass excuse? My feelings are to talk to
them in a manor making them feel as stupid as they
think YOU are. For Example:
When she tells me her brother is going to be in town
& she had to cancel THREE HOURS before we meet, I
felt like saying “Well I gave you 4 days notice to
meet me for ONE hour. Your brother hasn’t seen you
in six months & you didn’t know this when we talked
the first time??”
I was just real quiet & said nothing when she fed
me this “Line” & responded with “ok, whatever… maybe
some other time…you have my number” & that was the
end of the conversation, I hung up.
Are they testing to see if you WILL be an a**hole (DO
THEY WANT YOU TO?), or are they testing to see if you
will be sympathetic (WHICH WOULD BE BAD)… Personally,
I want to be an asshole because I get kind of upset
with flakey people in general…
Also, do you think I should ever call & set a date
up again with a woman like this, or did I already
blow it?
My novel…
C. (Kansas)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, first things first.
You really have the right idea here. You’re thinking
is right on, and your use of the Cocky & Funny attitude
is great!
And I’m guessing that the REASON why the cute waitress
started asking why you never ask her out is BECAUSE
you showed up with a hot girl that was chasing you
around.
It certainly helps the stock value when you’re seen
around with a hottie.
I’d love to talk more about all the RIGHT things you
did, but, alas, I’m going to focus this newsletter
on the WRONG things you did.
Now, please don’t take any of what I’m about to tell
you PERSONALLY, because it’s all in good fun.
But pay attention, because by making fun of you in
a public newsletter that many thousands of guys read
only hurts a little (but remember the joy I’m getting
from it, and maybe you’ll feel better).
MISTAKE #1: LISTENING TO YOUR FRIEND
Dude, what are you thinking?
When your friend who worked with her told you that
she was “all about money”, it probably meant:
-He was in love with her.
-She wasn’t interested in him.
-He tried to buy her dinner and gifts, but she only
wanted to be friends.
-He hated the idea that you were going to date her.
-He wanted to put you off the trail.
Think about it.
MISTAKE #2: WAITING 5 DAYS TO CALL HER.
Now, of course you don’t want to call a woman ten
seconds after you meet her and say “Hi, I’m the needy
dork you just gave your number to…”.
But think about it…
This girl works in a BAR. She meets about a million
guys every night.
She probably gives her number to more guys every week
than you have FRIENDS.
I would have called her the next evening… two days
later at the most.
This way she’ll at least REMEMBER you.
And I would have said “You know, I’ve never had a
woman PAY ME to call her. But this dollar is only
going to buy you about 15 seconds. You can ask me
what I’m wearing or something, and then you’ll have
to give me a visa to continue the call…”
MISTAKE #3: DISCUSSING THE “MONEY THING” ON THE
PHONE
What are you thinking bringing up something like this
by telling her that you heard she quit her job?
Something like this at the beginning of a first call
CAN’T go anywhere but a BAD place.
I can see what you were trying to do, but you were
on a slippery slope, and you were only irritating
her.
Save the ball busting for when you’re alone with her
in person.
This is where you REALLY screwed up, man.
At this point she was probably thinking “What the
hell is this guy talking about?” because it was a
sensitive subject for her, and you didn’t have enough
of a connection with her to be talking to her about
this topic. Too early.
I’m going to say that you basically SET HER UP to
flake on you.
Shortly after that, she gave you the NEON SIGN of
“why don’t you call me between now and then so we
can talk”.
TRANSLATION: “I’m going to flake on you for SURE,
but I just don’t want the confrontation right now,
so I’ll put doubt in your mind”.
MISTAKE #4: LETTING HER THINK THAT FLAKING WAS OK
When you just let the “call me between now and then”
comment go by and hung up, you made a big mistake.
Right then and there you should have STOPPED the
conversation and said something to the effect of:
“Whoa. I’ll tell you what, I have a pet peeve, and
I HATE it when people flake out on me. So if you’re
gonna flake, just tell me now. I’m only going to make
plans if you’re CERTAIN that you’re going to be
there.”
Now, a lot of times when you say something like this
you’ll scare a woman off. But it’s worth it.
The last thing you need in your life is a flaky woman.
Better to get it handled early on.
But if she’s NOT a flaky woman… but only trying
to figure out how to flake on YOU because you acted
like a DUMB ASS, then this might change things.
When a woman sees you standing up for yourself, and
basically saying “Look, if you’re going to flake out
or be late, then I don’t want to meet you”, it shows
her beyond the shadow of a doubt that YOUR TIME is
more important to you than HER. This is a good thing.
This kind of comment will often result in a woman
saying “No, no… I’ll be there. I’ll be there.”
MISTAKE #5: LETTING HER FLAKE ON YOU
If a woman called me three hours before we were supposed
to meet and said “Oh, my long lost brother is coming
to town…” I would say:
“Well thanks for the three hours notice. What are you
going to do to make this up to me?”
NOW IS THE TIME TO BUST BALLS!
Of course, you don’t want to do it in an emotional,
hurtful way… or in a way that lets her know that
you have been upset by her.
I’ll mention one thing here… I have a friend who
has gotten tired of women flaking out on him. So he
now calls THEM on the day he’s supposed to meet them
for the first date, and FLAKES ON THEM.
He tells me that this works like a charm, and they
always show up for the next planned meeting.
Go figure.
Now, I personally don’t like the idea of lying to
or deceiving women, but it’s an interesting lesson.
In the final analysis, I’d say that you screwed up in
the beginning, and created your own problems.
Instead of saying “I heard you quit your job” (which
makes you sound like an amateur stalker), you should
have just said a few charming things, set up a meeting
with her, and gotten off the phone.
That probably would have prevented your problems.
于 2005-02-26 03:54, Nieve 写:
Finished? Thanks.
又回到999啦?
I’ll keep posting as I get them.
welcome to comment ya
hav some feelings that you hav posted some similar contents be4 of teaching us how to date… you must be a date expert in this area… haha… good luck in the real life .
yea, it’s from the same source, guess you all dont think it’s fun…
fine
delete it then
haha… i find it quite funny!
pls keep contributing here…
Why Women Don’t ‘Make Sense’
Feb 26 2005
I was out with a good friend of mine one time.
We were at the mall walking around, and I was showing
him how easy it is to meet women.
We went into a fancy store, and walked up to a
girl who was selling makeup. He started a conversation
with her, and I watched.
She was laughing, and he was doing fine.
But you know that point in a conversation with
a woman where you both know that something needs to
happen?
She needed to get back to work, and he needed to
either move on or ask for her information.
So I walked over and said “Here, let me see your
hand” (she had her left hand in her pocket, and we
couldn’t see if she had a wedding band on).
She took her hand out, and I looked at it.
Sure enough, she had a ring on her finger. But
it didn’t look like a wedding band to me.
So I pointed at it and said “So does this ring
mean something? Or is it just to ward-off dumb
asses?”
She started laughing.
Here’s the good part…
I looked at my friend and said OUT LOUD “See, that’s
how you find out if she’s single. I’ve got a line
for everything…” and I laughed.
Then we asked her if she had a card, and made fun
of her for not having an email address… of course,
my friend walked away with her info.
Now, the funny part of this story is that most
guys would CRINGE if they even THOUGHT of saying
something like “See, that’s how you find out if she’s
single…” etc. right to a woman’s face.
But she found the humor and arrogance quite funny
and charming.
hem… true 2 a certain extent… i do like arrogant guys as well…
Fear, “Self-Doubt” And Meeting Women
Feb 28 2005
QUESTION
David,
After reading a couple of your newsletters, I recognised
I had a problem or three! and decided to get this
area of my life sorted (I was previously a WUSS),
purchased your e-book and then graduated to the CD
series. That decision has turned my life around. I
am tall, tanned and toned (after many hours in the
gym) with a great job yet had problems with attracting
and retaining women. This problem is now history,
thanks to your materials. They are certainly worth
every cent (even if you are from Oz and paying 2 for
1)!
I am not having any problems using the 3 minute routine
to set up meetings. Also no probs with the women feeling
attraction for me. The problem is that now I have
been out with so many different women, I have options,
I am finding I now have a very specific idea of what
I want, which means the vast majority I tee up I do
not want to see again after the first meeting, as
they get extremely clingy over me, are not confident
or ambitious or have emotional baggage etc. I have
tried targeting specific places and activities where
these girls I would like to meet are likely to be,
without lifting the percentage of ones I want to meet
for a second or third time.
The question is, How can the three minute routine
be adapted with similar success rates to narrow the
field i.e. rule out those with unattractive qualities
which are hard to detect in 3 minutes, prior to the
first meeting? I know most guys would probably love
to have this problem but I am sure your answer will
help me and many others including the new students
who will soon not have enough hours in a week to meet
all the women if they purchase the advanced series
and follow your advice.
Keep up the great work,
GH
Australia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I get emails like yours a LOT.
Two comments:
First, it’s always a good reminder when a guy like
you who is physically very attractive reveals to the
rest of the world that there’s a lot more to it than
being good looking.
There’s no doubt in my mind that looking good will
help you meet women. But there’s also no doubt in
my mind that it’s far from everything… and, in fact,
most of the guys I know who are very successful with
women are closer to “average” than they are to “model
handsome”.
I’m glad that you’re adding the “inner game” to the
looks, and having success with it.
Second, to answer your question, I’d like to point
out that when a guy starts experiencing a LOT of success
with women, he usually begins to realize a few things:
1) Just because a woman is attractive doesn’t mean
that she has her life together, that she’s emotionally
stable, that she will be interesting and fun to spend
time with… etc.
2) The more women you meet, the more PICKY you become.
3) A fantastic woman that really has all areas of
her life together is VERY RARE.
4) Finding one of these rare, wonderful women often
takes awhile.
The fact is that men and women BOTH tend to put their
best foot forward in the beginning and only demonstrate
their positive sides.
If you REALLY want to learn how to figure out what
a woman is REALLY like when you first meet her, then
you’ll probably want to start studying psychology,
behavior, and communication in depth.
Also, the more you approach and meet women, the more
you’ll be able to put the puzzle together faster in
the beginning.
By the way, you have one of those problems that most
guys would say “Waaaaa, you poor guy”. So smile about
it.
QUESTION
Whats up Dave? I like the work you did in your eBook…
cocky/funny and the friendship frame work great. I
do have one question however. You state that cocky/funny
humor works best when your not smiling/look serious.
However, a lot of guys who I know that are successful
with women say that smiling is the most effective
thing that attracts women. What’s your take on smiling?
W-CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is an interesting subject.
I think that MOST guys smile too much when they’re
talking to women that they’re attracted to.
Now, I have to modify what I just said a bit.
How about this: Most guys smile IN A WAY THAT LOOKS
LIKE FAKE APPROVAL SEEKING WUSSY MAN when they’re
talking to women that they’re attracted to.
I recommend that most guys learn how to control all
aspects of their body language so they can quit doing
things that make them needy, apologetic, like they’re
trying to get a woman’s approval, etc.
And smiling is one of those aspects.
With that said, I know guys who smile A LOT when they’re
meeting women, and they do VERY well.
What’s their secret?
They know all the things to do RIGHT, so their smiling
doesn’t come across as them trying to be liked, kissing
up to a woman, etc.
Do what works for you.
But if you’ve been the kind of guy that tries to get
women to “like you” in the past, then you’d probably
benefit from learning how to smile less, and be Cocky
& Funny MORE.
COMMENT FROM A WOMAN
Dave,
I am a 29 year old female, and subscribed to your
news letter for kicks and to see what advice you were
giving men. I have to say that you are pretty much
dead on, although I have only read the e-mail newsletters
for the past week or so. However, what prompted me
to write was your response to A.from Mpls in your
“Mailbag”. He asked how not to “regress to Wuss behavior”.
Each and every one of those applies to someone I dated
very briefly back in November. He was guilty of ALL
THREE Wuss behaviors, and I promptly stopped seeing
him. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking to chase
after some jerk. But I do want someone with his own
life, his own circle of friends, his own hobbies and
interests, etc. It’s very difficult to share all that
life has to offer when a guy doesn’t have one of his
own, or gives it up just to be with me. I’m looking
for someone that will challenge me (and I him) so that
we can grow together. I don’t want someone growing
attached to me. Keep up the good work.
K, New Jersey
>>>MY COMMENTS:
ATTENTION MEN! ATTENTION MEN!
Read the above letter again, and see if you can “get”
what this woman is saying.
Try to imagine what it’s like to be her, and try to
figure out what she’s REALLY trying to communicate
here.
If you don’t get it, read it once a day until you do.
QUESTION
What’s happening Dave?
i’ve got a few questions.
1. You always reiterate not being a wuss, but what
type of things/actions should i be saying to act like
a man? Should I be cussing my head off in front of
her and threaten with a back-handed slap like a pimp?
(laughing)
2. This might be a stupid question, but i say the
only stupid question is the one you don’t ask. I was
wondering what does it mean when you’re in a club/bar
type of scene and a woman is driking (water or watever)
and she is giving me eye contact? Is she intrested
in me or just teasing?
3. Also how cocky should i be, cuz i don’t wanna come
across as arrogant? i’m a rookie in the game (18),
& i’ve noticed that women give me signals (e.g. looking),
but my insecurities kick in, and before i make a move
i wan’t to be sure that she’s really intrested in
me, rather than playing the fool.
eternal thanks.
a
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Answers:
1) To answer your question about whether to cuss your
head off in front of a woman and threaten with a back-handed
slap like a pimp (laughing)…
NO. Don’t laugh at all while you do it.
2) In response to the “what does it mean when a woman
is giving me eye contact” question…
It means that she’s gay.
3) To address your question about how cocky you should
be…
You should be exactly 87.234235% cocky. No more, no
less.
OK, OK, I should be more gentle with you. I sure wish
that I would have been asking these questions when
I was 18.
Maybe I just envy you, and want you to have to go
through the school of hard knocks like I did. OK,
enough self-therapy… back to the questions.
Ways to act like a man include (but are not limited
to):
1) Holding yourself upright, chest held high.
2) Acting like a LEADER, not a follower.
3) Not looking to others for approval and attention.
4) Demonstrating that you are in CONTROL of yourself
and your surroundings.
…When a woman makes repeated eye contact with you,
she’s usually signaling to you that she’d like you
to approach her and start a conversation.
…The right amount of Cocky is the same amount of
FUNNY. You always want to make sure that what you’re
saying is FUNNY as well as COCKY. Guys who use TOO
MUCH Cocky come across as arrogant and insecure.
You’ll learn a lot as you use this stuff.
Thanks for your email!
this one cracks me up.
QUESTION
Hi David,
Been enjoying your ebook tips especially bridges.
Do you have any tips for when sharing a shower w/ a
woman?
E
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Only one… do it as often as possible.
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