COMMENT FROM A WOMAN
Hey Dave, so you think you are the main man - the
only one out there who has discovered “our game?”
Ha!
Somehow I got on your mailing list and I can
QUESTION
Dave, first of all, you are absolutely right about
the C/F routine. Excellent technique. I’ve even “experimented”
on a friend of mine (It’s a female, i’m not gay).
She seems be more flirty around me when i am being
cocky. I have been friends with her for about a year,
and i’m trying to hook up with her. I know that people
say once the “friendship line” is crossed, there’s
no turning back. But i’m wondering if there is anything
you can help me with to try to hook up with her. She’s
even told me she’s thought about hooking up with me,
but said it might be weird because we are good friends.
I need help, i really want to get something going with
this girl. Is there something i should do or say to
her? Would it be weird if i just kissed her? Help!
-Dick, NJ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, I have a great idea.
Keep doing what you’re doing.
It’s not impossible to make a woman that is “just
friends” with you attracted to you.
It’s just that most guys act like SUCH WUSSIES around
their female friends that it would be easier to turn
coal into diamonds than to turn their female friends
into lovers.
And use “The Kiss Test” (the one on the second page
of my main website).
That will keep the kiss from being “weird”.
hem… i didn’t know guys cared so much about making a mess of things as well… (talking about the friendship situation) i thought most guys r not sensitive enough 2 worry about ruining a friendship…
hehehe. see? misconceptions…
friends are friends…
besides, there are sensitive guys and girly guys…
before I thought guys and girls are just worlds apart… but nowadays more and more I think guys and girls probably are really not that different… we are all human.
yeah agree… we’re all human beings after all…
the dating game sucks
How To Act When A Woman Likes You
Mar 3 2005
QUESTION FROM A READER
Dave,
I’ve become a very generous guy lately. To all my
male friends, I’m giving them the gift of your newsletter.
To all my females, I’m giving the gift of missing
me.
I’m a recovering wuss. I took a few months off of
women and worked on my inner game, with great results.
I’ve started talking to new women again, along with
old girlfriends. I find that when the c/f (Cocky &
Funny) starts rolling, or even just my newfound confidence,
I often get a lot of compliments. What’s the best
way to deal with a girl coming out and saying “oh,
you’re so cute/funny/etc…”? Should I ignore it and
keep the c/f going? Should I address it in a cocky
way? I’m assuming that graciously accepting the compliment
is never the right answer…
What would you say to a girl who compliments you directly?
(other than “Do you do third input?”) What would your
tone/body language/eye contact be like?
-J.M.
>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are few,
and sheep are nervous.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
One of the most important things to understand as
a man is what to do when things are WORKING… so
you don’t SCREW IT UP!
If you use the materials that you’re learning from
me, you will start to have a magical thing happen
more and more often… women will start to do and
say things that clearly indicate that they LIKE you.
Sometimes is will be a touch, sometimes a compliment,
and sometimes a smile. But these things WILL happen
more and more as you get better and better.
what’s with you ending your email with:
“>From new hampshire, where men are men, women are
few, and sheep are nervous.”
…?!
This is probably the third or fourth time that I’ve
seen this at the end of an email.
Tell me the truth… do chicks dig this?
You’re making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep talk
on the DL, OK?
Uncool.
Now, when a woman does something that signals “I like
you”, it is VITALLY important that you:
1) Know how to recognize it
2) DON’T do what MOST guy do
3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it
So how can you tell if a woman is doing something
that says “I like you”?
Well, it’s VERY important to remember that women are
far more “subtle” than men (most of the time, that
is).
If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it
all over his face. It’s usually very obvious.
But women are different.
Women do SMALL things.
A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a comment like
“You’re so cute” (as in your example above).
But then IT’S GONE.
Women always seem to act like they’re not quite sure.
They don’t send consistent signals that most men can
“read”.
And when they DO send signals that are easy to see,
most guys respond in a way that makes those signals
stop…which makes things even MORE confusing.
Again, women aren’t as CONSISTENT as men.
A woman can seem like she’s interested one minute,
then stand-offish the next.
So rule #1 is:
JUST BECAUSE SHE’S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS “I LIKE
YOU”, DON’T THINK THAT IT MEANS “I LIKE YOU NO MATTER
WHAT”.
Much better to interpret subtle “I like you” cues
as “I like you for a second, but if you start acting
like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, it will all be over in
an instant”.
Unfortunately for most guys, they take “I like you”
signals to mean “You’ve won my approval, now you
can do whatever you want”.
And what do they do? Of course…
They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things,
and destroy it all.
Oh, how many times I’ve watched guys (myself included)
screw up perfectly good situations because they just
didn’t get this concept.
Let me give you an example.
Let’s say that you’re out with a woman, and you’ve
been teasing her, and she smiles and says “I like
you”.
A typical “male” response is for a guy to think to
himself “OK, I’m in… she digs me” and to get that
rush in the head and chest.
Next thing you know, he’s acting different.
He’s talking about different things.
He’s giving compliments.
He’s being “nicer”.
And what’s the woman thinking while this is all going
on? Of course… she’s thinking “Uh oh, his cool,
calm, interesting personality was just a cover for
the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding out, waiting
for a little bit of approval from me… AHHHHHH!”
Women KNOW that they’re in control of the situation.
Or at least MOST of the time they are… and they
THINK that they are even during the times when they’re
not.
They’re constantly using different kinds of communication
to test and “feel out” the situation.
Remember, MOST of the time when you’re saying something
that you think is nice, charming, and original, it’s
something that a woman has heard about 47 times that
week from other guys.
Us guys act VERY predictably most of the time.
And women know how to tell if you’re just another
loser who’s pretending to be cool… who will turn
into an average Wuss at the first sign of attraction
from a cute woman.
Think about what I just said.
This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow… but it’s
the reality of the situation.
There’s something that women call “Sexual Tension”.
It’s also known as “Chemistry” or “Attraction” as
well. But only WOMEN know it this way.
When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard
to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right
way, you will create this tension. This is what usually
leads to a woman saying something like “You’re cute”
or “I like you”.
It’s the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY it.
THE TENSION!
In these very special moments, you need to turn the
tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.
Don’t diffuse it all by saying “You’re cute yourself”
or “I like you, too”. Or by smiling like a jackass
wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow.
This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it usually
takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling that
the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY kills it.
Does this make logical sense?
Hell no.
But it’s what happens.
OK, so let’s talk about the RIGHT way to handle this
type of situation.
Remember when I said that it’s the TENSION that makes
a woman feel the feelings and make the comments?
And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you’re getting
a positive response?
Nice.
Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that
illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.
In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example
of this principle that has ever been recorded on film.
Remember the end of “The Empire Strikes Back” when
they were about to put Han Solo into the deep freeze?
Remember when Leia said “I love you”…?
Remember what Han said?
Right, he said… “I know”.
Perfect.
All of the sexual tension that built up in Star Wars
and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her love.
And Han says “I know”.
Awesome!
Imagine being Leia. What could be going through her
mind at this point?
An answer like this isn’t easy to understand. It has
all kinds of implications.
It’s confusing.
It says “I know you love me, because it’s been obvious
for a long time…”. But it doesn’t let HER know how
he feels exactly. It requires consideration. It dials
up the tension. It’s amazing.
By the way, I read that when they were filming that
scene Han was supposed to answer “I love you too”,
but the director didn’t like it. They tried all kinds
of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that
line on the spot in one of the takes… and they kept
it. Nice.
By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the newer movies
in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no
character like Han… think about it. It’s all boring,
predictable stuff. There’s no sexy, arrogant, funny,
wildcard personality messing things up.
Like I pointed out after I saw “Attack Of The Clones”,
Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of Sand People
just to convince Princess A. that he wasn’t a complete
and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and
more entertaining if he would have just had a PERSONALITY.
Whatever.
Now where was I…?
Oh, yea… amplifying the sexual tension…
If you’re out with a woman, and you tease her because
she’s wearing four inch heels by saying “What’s the
deal, are you four feet tall without those one?”,
and she opens her mouth with the classic “Oh no you
didn’t” look (smiling of course, with that surprised
smile)… and you dial it up to the next level with
“Oh, I’m sorry…Four foot three?”… and she hits
you on the arm…
…and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm,
and says “You know, you’re funny”…
…what do you do?
YOU SAY “YEA, I KNOW” in a serious tone.
Or “Don’t try to use compliments to make me like you.
It won’t work. Go buy me a drink or something… I
prefer gifts and money.”
Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly,
turn your head, and put your eyebrows together as if
to say “Just WHAT do you think you’re doing touching
me?!”.
TURN IT UP, my friend!
You TURN UP the tension.
AMPLIFY it.
Keep it going.
If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction
at each of these wonderful moments, good things will
happen.
Good stuff.
hem… louzhu must be a dating expert now with all these “golden” advices…
er… to me to like someone is just purely liking him or her… no game needed, no tactics needed… just act like yourself…
especially your last post, dating becomes a strategy… not romantic anymore
i read these purely for the comic values… and i sincerely advice people to give up trying to play some sort of game, and just act like their true selves…
don’t know if i’ve made any sense…
oh come on, the advice obviously is not from me. how on earth can i write THAT much about these stuff?
and unfortunately i dont even date >_<
u gotta admit some of their stories are laugh-out-funny. (not all of them, but a few truly is classic). i enjoy reading those ones more than “strategy principles”. but still, at least “i want him cuz i can’t have him” thing does have some effect for me.
and yea, if you like someone already and he likes you, surely it is not so necessary for that person to purposely follow these things…
this guy’s advice is just to hold yourself in a certain way that seem to attract women more effectively in general. it is purely to stir and maintain the ‘attraction’ per se, not for manipulation. cuz for guys, if nobody wants him, what he gonna do? just pine over it and hung on to that one girl that he had ‘loved’ and ‘lost’… but if his advice does work and some guy uses it to take advantage of girls, it is really that guy’s character problem and not the ‘game-playing’ itself.
as about the last post. the question is actually very simple, – how do you respond when a woman sends a “i like you” signal? isn’t that a question that would be dismissed usually as “u think too much, just be yourself”? at least this guy responds to every teeny questions quite elaborately that i never see elsewhere, i’m sure a lot of us had the “thinking too much into small things” experience when you like someone but the other does not like you yet…
maybe i’m defending him too much?
it’s just that i know i would enjoy his ‘tactics’, although i’d prefer a more toned-down version.
like his last example, what he suggested last needs a certain comfort level to be done. it would’ve made me mentally kick out that guy immediately otherwise.
ha~ yeah i know those advices didn’t come from u, cos no1 would volunteerily write all that stuff n not get paid for it…
yeah as for what u have said, i suppose i agree… to get some1 to notice u, u do have to have some sort of plan or strategy in mind… but i choose the far more naive approach - just hoping that somehow he would know that i like him and everything would all piece together, and we can be together…
naive i know… but somehow it sounds more romantic than plotting some sort of game to get some1 u like… u have 2 agree with me on that rite?
lol, yea, the simple love, don’t we all dream about it. i’m waiting for it to happen too.
having a troublesome boyfriend is just so tiring and not worth it =_=""
[ 编辑者 gogatsu 于日期 08Mar05 ]
Can ‘Regular’ Guys Attract ‘Hot’ Women?
Mar 7 2005
QUESTION
I´m a 25 years old guy that never understood women.
Now I realize the WUSS I have been for such a long
time. Anyway, I was lucky because I got a girlfriend
casually, and I experienced with her, but some years
ago we broke up and I have been so LOST with the women
task and suddenly YOU, sensei David, appeared in the
middle of my nightmare, and things started getting
sense (I bought your ebook, of course)
THE JEALOUS STUFF
The thing is that I have a bisexual friend (girl)
that I like, but I´ve never told her anything about
my feelings. Some days ago she and some of her friends
came to visit me and we went out. We were in a nightclub,
and next to us there was a group of girls, I made eye
contact with one of them. And then I thought about
something that I wouldn´t have figured out in my WUSS-
PAST-WOLD: Let´s get that girl, and see the reaction
of my bisexual friend. After some C&F stuff, I was
french kissing the girl of the eye contact in front
of the face of my friend. And guess what was the reaction ???
Now I can´t get rid of her. It´s like I´ve been a
kind of ghost, until that night
Thanks, David. Keep on giving us some perspective.
AS
FROM SPAIN
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, I never said that women made any damn sense!
Jealousy is a powerful emotion.
Some think that it’s the MOST powerful emotion.
It might be interesting for you to know that many
of the guys I know who like to date a lot of different
women don’t hide the fact that they date a lot of
girls.
Many female animal species choose males by finding
the ones with the most other females who are attracted
to him.
Women are often the same.
Women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows
that you don’t have any trouble meeting other women,
it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction
for you.
But be careful. I don’t think that it’s a good idea
to try to deliberately make a woman jealous. It doesn’t
feel good, and if you meet the wrong women you just
might wind up with a rabbit boiling on your stove
when you come home one night.
____________________
English question, what does he mean by “with a rabbit boiling on your stove”???
QUESTION
Dave,
I won’t even begin to tell you how awsome your book
is and how it breaks everything down for ex-wusses
like myself because that would take up too much time,
but I’ve got a situation for you. A few weeks ago,
I met this girl in my class. She was definitely a
8-9. Anyways, I got her number and asked her if we
could study sometime. We eventually set up a date
to get a paper done. She didn’t show up! I was like…
okay, I’m not even gonna get mad. So a few days later,
I saw her walking with this dude… I was like… “ok,
she has a bf, thats why”, but here’s the funny part;
I’ve been working on my body language and eye contact
lately and it’s been doing wonders. When I see her,
I just speak and keep walking. I haven’t held a conversation
with her in like 2 weeks and yesterday she left a
message on my phone that said…“Hey, this is ----
from your english class, I was just calling to tell
you that I think that you are a VERY attractive man,
and I think you are really fine. But I have a boyfriend.
I know you tried to study with me in the past, but
you know how things can be when you have a boyfriend…
so i guess ill talk to you later” Whats up with this?
I didn’t talk to the girl in two weeks and she leaves
this message? Was it a movement I made? Could you
anyalize this for me please?
B in FLA
P.S.- I never knew body language could be so powerful!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This kind of thing always makes me laugh.
I can remember when I used to call women too often,
and if they didn’t show up, I’d get upset and try
to set up another date with them, etc.
Of course, they’d usually play hard to get, and wind
up thinking that I was a Wussy because I just accepted
their flaky behavior.
Well, after I stopped calling women back who flaked,
and basically stopped CHASING women, I had the strangest
thing happen…
I had women call me… but sometimes it was literally
WEEKS later. Just like your situation.
You probably just have a girl who was in a fight with
her boyfriend the day she set the study date with you…
but fixed things up with him before she was supposed
to see you again… and then maybe got into another
one with him so she decided to call you and see if you
were available.
Don’t worry about it. Just move on. She’ll probably
start flirting with you again when she’s single.
aren’t girls like this?
QUESTION
Dave –
Hey, your advice works wonders! It is amazing
how much it works. I tried it on this girl I hardly
knew, and we hit it off real well. In fact, we hooked
up, and that was pretty cool.
I need advice, though. The girl and I started
to really hit it off, and we became closer everyday.
Then, we started talking, and it seemed as though
we were over, and I was devastated. She’s really cool
and REALLY hot. We kept talking, and she ends up telling
me that she needs to know herself before she knows
me, so she asks for time, and that I be her friend
in that time. My question: how do I keep her falling
head over heels for me while I give her the time,
and that she doesn’t become another friend.
Again, thanks for the great advice.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let me do a little translation for you…
If a woman says “I need time to get to know myself”
or “I need to find myself” or any variation of this
common theme, it usually means:
“YOU WERE ACTING LIKE A WUSS, BEING CLINGY, AND GENERALLY
NOT A CHALLENGE ANYMORE. I WANT YOU TO LEAVE, BUT I
DON’T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, SO I’M GOING TO
TELL YOU THAT I NEED TIME TO “FIND MYSELF” TO GET
YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE WITHOUT A HASSLE.”
I’m harsh, aren’t I?
Well, here’s the deal. In general, if you become too
predictable, too involved, too needy, too wuss-ish,
and too “head over heels” too early in the relationship,
it will drive a woman away.
Think about it this way: The REALLY attractive women
have guys chasing them FAR more than the average/below
average women. You need to do something DIFFERENT,
while at the same time being ATTRACTIVE.
Probably the best thing you can do when you finally
meet a really great girl is call her HALF as much
as you normally would, and give her twice the space.
Think about it.
COMMENT
I just got back from eating with a woman I started
dating 3 weeks ago. Somehow we got on the topic of
what she likes in a man and what is the quickest time
she has ever jumped in the sack with one. She stated
that she met a guy one night and slept with him the
next. She said that she did it only once in her life
and then gave me the reason why she did that time.
She stated that all the guys she dated before him would
always say something on the wild side, that she was
really interested in doing, but would back down and
say, “oh, I was just kidding” when she looks at them
to see if they were serious. She said that this guy
she slept with the next night and I are the only two
men that have ever said something cocky and funny and
not flinched when she looked on in disbelief. In fact,
I would look at her and repeat things I said whenever
she looked at me with that “I can’t believe you just
said that to me,” stare. She tells me it is such a
turn-on.
I had only begun to do this after subscribing to your
websight newsletter about a month or two ago… I
would just like to thank you for the advice and tell
the other guys to stick by what they say, no matter
how off the wall it may sound.
B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is JEDI LEVEL wisdom, read it again.
QUESTION
Dear David,
Great stuff. I was that nice guy… after reading
your book and your e mails I have been able to change
into the cocky and funny guy. The other day one of
the 3 women I am dating called giving me a little
grief. I said you know maybe we should not see each
other any more and she was like but I have been thinking
about you all weekend PLEASE come over now and F#%
me, after a little delay I agreed it was great. I
do have a ? The one I really like who is totally
hot never makes the first move and while she is very
receptive when I do it, would be great to get her
to seduce me, any suggestions?..
c.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
For some reason, I LOVE your question… how fun is
it to have a woman pursuing YOU? OK, here’s a tip
from my personal experience…
Next time you’re with her, and you’ve started getting
physical… just when you know that she’s really enjoying
what’s going on (and it can be at any stage, kissing,
etc.) just stop. Then whisper in her ear “You want
more, don’t you?.. you’re going to have to say PLEASE.”
Then just keep working up to the same level and saying
the same thing until she finally does. Once you’ve
done this, it’s easy to transfer the same idea to
other things, like getting her to make the first move.
Note: This is all done with a very playful, teasing
tone. It’s not a psychological control strategy…
Keep things on the nice nice, don’t be a controlling
loser. Done right this can be a big turn on for all
involved.
QUESTION
Dave,
I did exactly what you had said for the personals…
I actually cut and paste your letter, made one or
two changes and I actually got a response…
Now, you talk about getting that phone number? How?
What should I say in the e-mail not to come off like
a looser, but to come off confident, cocky, and funny?
Thanks!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Can I just tell you how much I love it when guys actually
go out and USE the materials? This is great stuff…
OK, step two is to get her live on the phone, and
to do it soon. You don’t want this to take too long
or she’s likely to get 100 more emails and forget
about you.
Try a cocky funny response like this:
“Wow, you’re a real person. Great. I guess we have
a couple of options here. We could start an email
relationship, fall madly in love, and maybe even get
a priest to marry us in a live chat ceremony…
Then again, maybe we could get together for a cup
of tea and some stimulating conversation and make
friends. And then after I can validate that you’re
actually the cute gal in this picture I saw of you,
we can talk about the online marriage thing.
Give me a call tonight. My number is [insert number
here]. I’m a pretty busy person, and I can’t guarantee
that I’ll be home, but give a try. And please call
before 11 PM because that’s when my mom makes me go
to sleep.
By the way, where can I reach you if I want to call
you ten times a day?
Talk soon.”
I’m a funny guy.
But all kidding aside, this is a KILLER model for
a follow up letter to a personal ad response. It says
so many things in the right way that you’re very likely
to get another response, probably a call, and probably
her number.
COMMENT
David,
A few weeks back you used what I think is one of the
most important words in dating (next to cocky and
funny of course) that word is “NEXT.”
We always want the one that we can’t get. Forget
that! I say NEXT. If you have this idea of “Next”
in your brain, you will come across as a man who is
not needy and you will be more attractive to women.
Why waste time with woman who are not interested?
Its a lot more fun to find a nice looking lady who
wants to be with you then it is to chase someone who
isn’t interested.
The book was great. Keep up the great work!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is another psychological step that is very important.
I get so many emails from guys who have met a great
girl, but they screwed it up because they made her
“too important” mentally. In other words, when things
started to get difficult, instead of taking the attitude
of “NEXT” (which creates all kinds of attraction),
they CLING and act NEEDY and generally do EXACTLY
THE THINGS THAT CAUSE THE WOMAN TO HIT THE ROAD FOR
GOOD.
Much better to have the mental attitude of “I’m going
to enjoy this woman’s company for as long as it stays
a good thing. The moment that she becomes a strain
or a pain I’m out of here. I don’t need problems or
drama in my life, and my happiness is more important
than this woman.”
The first response to this is usually “But this woman
is SPECIAL. She’s not like other women. She’s the
one.”
Blah blah blah…
If she’s the ONE, then all the more reason to take
this attitude. “THE ONE” ISN’T LOOKING FOR A WUSS.
The “NEXT” attitude will do a lot of good things for
your success with women. Use it.
QUESTION
David,
I got your mailbag, and bought your book right away
a few months ago and it has truely changed my life.
Thank you. I realized that in all of my relationships
I have been a total wuss and that is why I was not
having sucess. I am actually a pretty funny guy (amatuer
stand up comedian) but I am not cocky at all. As soon
as I added a bit of cocky to my usual sacarstic humor,
the success followed.
My problem is this. I met a woman who is an extremely
skilled player. We went out as “freinds” and then it
escalated nicely (kiss test worked like a charm) and
then it got really screwed up when I had to leave the
country for a month on business and things got a bit
muddled. When I returned we went out right away and
I missd her so much I fell back in to my wussie ways
and I think I ruined it, in only one 6 hour date!
Since then I have been trying to turn the tables.
I mean I try to end the conversations first all the
time but she just seems to beat me to it each time,
like she is psychic or something. I try to tell her
I am busy and I’ll have to call her back but unless
I do it at an awkwardly early point in the conversation
she always seems beat me to it. In my opinion if I
continue to play “hard to get” and don’t call her
(which seems to be working lately) she will get the
wrong message. I want to send the “I like you but
you haven’t got me wrapped around your finger” message,
not the "I’m not thinking about you at all while everything
around me in society screams ‘couple’ and ‘romance’
" message.
What would you do in this unusal time?
Thanks again for all your help and advice.
To anyone who has not dowloaded the book, you deserve
the miserable lonely nights I know you are going through,
put a crowbar in your wallet and get the full information!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I like the crowbar idea.
As for your situation. You’ve learned an important
lesson the hard way.
When I think about women and attraction, I imagine
it like an on/off switch. If it ever gets turned off,
it’s VERY hard to turn it back on. ESPECIALLY if you’re
dealing with a woman like the one you’re talking about
who is very experienced and knows the game well.
The best thing you can do is start dating other women,
not call her for a month or so, then drop her a line
and say “Hey, let’s get together for a cup of tea.
You were a nice friend…” Then tell her about what’s
going on in your life (the other women, I mean).
YOU’VE LOST CONTROL, AND YOU NEED TO TAKE IT BACK.
'Nuff said.
QUESTION
Hi David!!
I just wanted to tell you that what you say in your
emails is true and it works. I’m from a small central
american country and your advice works on women here
too!!! Now to my question, I met this gorgeous girl,
she is incredible and hot as hell. But I have competition,
some guy who doesn’t know a thing about women (he should
subscribe to your newsletter, dont you think), but she
seems a little interested in him and interested in me
too. What would you suggest to “neutralize” him?
Thanks,
A.
P.S.: I used the cocky and funny technique and it
worked!!! thanks for sharing you wisdom
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you focus on the competition it will only distract
you and cause you problems.
Forget other guys and what they’re doing. Just focus
on what you’re doing and your own success.
It’s very natural to let competition upset you…
and jealousy is a very real emotion. But remember,
it isn’t going to help you in most cases. Just do
your best, keep using the techniques, and stick to
your methods. Chances are that any other guys involved
will screw it up at some point, and you will be the
one left with the prize.
Note: In situations like this one, us guys often start
to put too much value on getting the girl BECAUSE
there are other guys involved. We think to ourselves
“Well, this other guy likes her, so she must be something
REALLY special. Even more than I thought.” This leads
to making all kinds of mistakes, being a wuss, acting
clingy, etc. Don’t fall into this trap.