QUESTION
I need some help and i think that you have the best
advice so here is the problem, I like this girl at
my college and she works at the college bookstore.
A while back i was buying books and she was asking
me questions and being super friendly, then the following
semester she said hi to me on campus but like a dip
sh** I didnt respond. Now i really want to hook it
up but have this feeling that she is not interested
anymore. Everytime I see her we make eye contact but
I can’t tell if she wants me to go in for the kill.
Please help me so i can go right up to her and talk
to her, I’m having trouble starting out the conversation.
Thanks.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
No killing please. Why don’t you just go in for the
email instead? Much less messy. Just get her email
and then take it one step at a time. This is the best
way to find out if it can go somewhere…
[ 编辑者 gogatsu 于日期 08Mar05 ]
GREAT STORY
David-
I was enjoying a bagel this morning in the outdoor
chairs at a little donut shop I go to on Saturdays.
I doubt if the guy I’m going to tell you about has
ever read your book…but he’s a walking advertisement
for it.
The only other person out there with me was an elderly
woman, who was about 8 years older than God. A guy
pulls up in this old caddie with a USMC license plate
on the front bumper. He’s about a few minutes younger
than her.
This old guy goes in, orders a bag of donuts, and
comes back out. He walks right up to her table and
says:
“Hi ya, toots. You’re a classy lookin’ dame. Are you
friendly?”
She says, “How dare you call me some dame. My given
name is Julia”
This guy never misses a beat. He says, “Got your feathers
ruffled, did I? Well, you know the first airplane
I ever rode in during the war started witha J, too.
She was a hardbody, with a shapely tailpiece. I still
remeber what it felt like to run my hand over her
headlights.”
The old girl, says, “That’s atrocious. You better
have a seat sailor. It sounds like you been away from
shore for too long.”
It was all I could do to keep from busting up laughing.
I didn’t know whether to throw a blanket over them
or go give this codger a high five. He had it down,
buddy, just like you’ve been telling us. This guy
could be me 35 years from now if I follow what you
teach.
Keep getting the word out, Dave. We’ll still be using
it when we’re on Viagra.
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love this story. Use the things I’m teaching you
and hopefully you’ll find success before you’re 100
years old and cruising the old folks home for babes…
But, as you can see, the Cocky and Funny technique
works even if you ARE cruising the old folks home…
_______________________
i’m sorry… the lines in the story is too vulgar…
[ 编辑者 gogatsu 于日期 08Mar05 ]
QUESTION
Well, what can I say, David, you’re a dating God!
Your book is nothing less than a masterpiece. Now
that i’ve got a good handle on some of your techniques,
I’ve had no problem meeting women. I’ve recently started
dating a woman whom is a pleasant distraction. My
fear is she is falling way to hard for me. My problem
is, my friend of two years who I’ve been smitten with
since the beginning is now single. There is another
guy friend of hers who has recently made his feelings
known for her. I’m pretty sure there has always been
chemical tension underneath our friendship. She has
told me things like you have the sexiest voice ever,
I listen to your cd every night cause I love falling
asleep to the sound of your voice, when you’re lost
in thought you have the sexiest eyes. We went for
coffee last night and she touched me 3-5 times on
the hand.
The problem comes in that before your book I was
the nice sensitive guy always bearing my feelings,
catering to a woman’s needs, and very humble. Now
i’ve got a great routine down for getting dates but
she doesn’t know me as that type of person. So i don’t
know how to approach trying to instigate a relationship
with her. Any suggestions??
A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I have any suggestions…
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS!!! DON’T TURN BACK INTO A WUSS
NOW THAT YOU HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET THE GIRL YOU
REALLY LIKE!!!
Wow, I don’t use that many exclamation marks very
often.
And for the girl who is smitten with you… let her
down easy. This is a great opportunity to borrow a
technique from our book of female dating tactics.
It’s called:
“You’re really nice, but I think that we should be
friends.”
All’s fair in love and war… just don’t be a bastard.
QUESTION
First off…you are the smartest man alive. I have
really enjoyed reading your litterature and it has
helped me build a confidence I’ve never had before.
Here’s the question… I recently visited an “exotic
dance club” and met an “exotic dancer”. I used the
cocky funny attitude and had a nice chat before my
lap dance. Within minutes afterward… I got her e-mail
addy. The problem is…The setting in which we met
and the circumstances involved. How can I start a relationship
with her without her seeing me as a customer… or
a pervert that liked what he saw and just wants more?
I know it can be done I just need a little insight
from the master. Help me out Mr. Miagi.
Sincerely,
Daniel-son
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Start a RELATIONSHIP?
With an EXOTIC DANCER?
After talking to her for a few minutes?
OK, let’s do a quick reality check before you do something
that you’ll regret for a long time…
About 80-90% of the time, exotic dancers are the LAST
type of woman for a “relationship”.
If you’re interested in taking things to the next
level, you need to be cocky and funny, bust her balls
a lot, make sure you keep being a challenge, etc.
Of all the people in the world, these women are probably
pursued by the most men.
If, after going out with her for AT LEAST several
months you can prove beyond the shadow of a doubt
that:
1) She’s not addicted to drugs or alcohol
2) She doesn’t smoke like a fire and have dirty-carpet
breath
3) She wasn’t sexually molested by more than a dozen
times
4) She isn’t manic-depressive, bi-polar, or borderline
5) You can deal with the idea that she’s not quitting
for you
Then maybe you might consider a “relationship.” I
mean, hey… most exotic dancers are bi-sexual. And
I’ve heard that some of them even know other cute girls
(but I’m not certain on this one). In any case, don’t
forget the protection. Big time.
Oh, and if you change your mind, try finding a woman
who comes from a good family… who has fantastic
relationships with her mother and father… and who
is emotionally mature.
It might surprise you, but I think you’d enjoy a long-term
relationship more with this kind of women.
Just my two cents…
___________________________
very practical
QUESTION
Your like a god to me! I’ve been going out about
five times as much as I used to (which wasn’t much)
and women see me in a new way. Now for the important
part. I stepped up my cocky/funnyness to the max
and this one girl is crazy about me. She delayed
one date, never stopped appologizing. I teased her
for it all night. She keeps acting so needy and I
can’t get enough of it (I don’t tell her) but that
brings up a question. If she is acting needy to me
and I can’t get enough of it, why did women dump me
when I used to act needy? Please put something about
this in your newsletter.
Bye.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What’s with all the God comments this week? Let’s
stick with David from now on… I’m not ready for
all of the responsibility.
As for your situation…
The reason why it’s fun for you having her act needy
is YOU’VE HAD IT THE OTHER WAY AROUND ALL YOUR LIFE!
It’s a nice change.
But trust me, after a short while it gets old. If
she keeps it up, you’ll see. Eventually a mechanism
will kick in and you’ll lose your liking for it…
just like women do at a very young age. But enjoy
it while it’s fresh and fun.
COMMENT FROM A WOMAN
On behalf of all women, I think your e-mail sucked
today.
I am so tired of dating cheap men. There is nothing
wrong with a man who is able to provide doing so.
Let’s face it, men make more money than women.
I’m not a gold digger. Not at all. I’m 34 years
old. I own my own townhouse which I am struggling
to get by with the mortgage and expenses having been
laid off by IBM after almost 7 years.
I do like the e-mail first idea, in fact that is always
what I initiate when I’m out. I’d much rather do
that to get to know someone before the dinner out
but the LAST thing I want to do is have someone show
up late and let me know right up front that he’s not
willing to buy me a cup of tea.
I just spent almost five months with someone who was
making three times my income and we went Dutch on
everything. Am I wrong to want someone to flip
the bill for me? I don’t think so.
Warm regards…
>>>MY COMMENTS:
No, there’s nothing “wrong” with you “wanting” someone
to take care of the bill. But there’s also nothing
wrong with a man not paying… or even better, avoiding
typical expensive dating situations all together.
I personally think that starting off a relationship
by paying for things creates an imbalance that isn’t
very healthy.
As an interesting aside: You spent FIVE MONTHS paying
your own way. He obviously had something else going
for him if you spent that long with him… hmmmmm.
I wish I could give him a high five!
Oh, and the little smiley in your email clearly communicates
that you like and want me. Be a little more subtle
next time, OK? Don’t let the world know everything
that’s going on between us! It’s not classy.
______________
okay this guy’s being a bit harsh…
SUCCESS STORY
I found your site a couple of months ago and subscribed
to your newsletters and I downloaded the book . I’m
18 years old and I’m in my first year of college, so
you can imagine the hot , young women that are there .
Anyways, I’ve always been the “wuss , loser , nothing
more than a friend” type of guy (man it hurts to admit
it) but since i started reading your e-mails i’ve gotten
so much better. Some of my girlfriends don’t see me
as a friend anymore (I can’t imagine what your book
will do ). So not long ago I’m sitting where everyone
goes to eat and they’re playing "The Fast And The Furious "
on the tv’s when I look down and this really beautiful
woman keeps looking at me . So by the second time our
eyes meet, I smile , at that same moment I’m thinking,
“Wait !!! , remember the e-mails, you always do this
and you always end up as a friend”. The problem was
that she had 2 more of her friends on the table with
her, but she wouldn’t expect me to get up and go to
her, so I got up from my chair and went up to her, she
had that “what is he doing” look, then I sat down on
the table and said, “Hi , I know I’m pretty and that
your attracted to me, but could you maybe hide your
impulses”. Of course this was said in a funny way, with
a cocky look. Her friends started laughing and said,
“she was that obvious , huh?” She was shocked at the
beginning but she relaxed and started laughing. Almost
immediately after that her friends said they were hungry
and left, so I asked for her name and thought to myself,
"Forget the e-mail , just ask her number “. She gave
me her celular number , but I haven’t called her yet.
Anyway thanks for your great advices and I’ll keep you
posted on the outcome.
P.S. For all you wusses out there , you can change
you don’t always have to be this way . Buy the damn
book !!!”
L.
>>>MY COMMENTS: I couldn’t agree more.
like a daily mail
well done!
really? thanks
but seems like nobody wants to look at this
于 2005-03-11 04:58, gogatsu 写:
really? thanks
but seems like nobody wants to look at this
i know some1 who reads this... he told me he spent a whole afternoon reading it once... hehe~ but he hardly ever replies...
but this is appreciated! so keep posting them... cheers.
mememememe
i appreciate it verrrrrrrrrrrrry much that the buildingmaker can make such an excellent post that it impresses me quite a lot…
thx…
于 2005-03-11 05:02, paigewen 写:
i know some1 who reads this… he told me he spent a whole afternoon reading it once… hehe~ but he hardly ever replies…
but this is appreciated! so keep posting them… cheers.![]()
^^
thanks. that makes me feel a lot better.
since i for one dont think his advice is totally without merit.
于 2005-03-11 05:04, EV 写:
mememememe
i appreciate it verrrrrrrrrrrrry much that the buildingmaker can make such an excellent post that it impresses me quite a lot…
thx…![]()
^^
feel free to comment
i think there are quite a few funny lines.
Dealing With TESTS From Women
Mar 11 2005
"You ROCK,
Since I am new to your publication I am unsure if
you get much mail from Australia.
What a difference a week makes. Last Saturday I had
a date with a great young lady. Smart, sexy, beautiful
etc. Well the 1st date didn’t go to badly, some passionate
kissing and fun, but when it came time to try to take
her top off, the answer was a firm NO. That is where
the night ended.
Mustn’t have been too bad cause I got a follow up
date the next Friday, but I also got the cold(ish)
shoulder. What she didn’t know is I got you book
on Wednesday. Wow, what a difference. I realised
she was lining me up for the hoop jumping as a potential
“long term relationship” and sex was at least three
dates away-way too far.
She was playing games, but your book came to the rescue.
When i phoned her to make the date, she said “I will
PENCIL you in”. Well in my old ways I would have said
“Yeah sure”, but there is a new Greg with Double Your
Dating Power. When she tried the line I came back with
“Well let me know. I am a busy man, if you can’t make
it, I need to know-NOW.”
When I picked her up, she kissed me on the cheek (after
playing tonsil hockey the week before, was a little
strange). So I put your strategies into play.
I didn’t touch her for 4 hours, didn’t hit on her,
didn’t look at her, was very standoffish. Went out
of my way to point out her strange behaviour. At
one stage I called her “A walking contradiction”.
When she went down the "But it will change our friendship
if we take this further (read long term relationship)
path-I said “That’s fine, I just want to have a little
FUN.”
When I finally did kiss her she melted. Only for me
to stop after about 45 seconds. I then didn’t touch
her again for about 1/2 an hour.
She finally took her own top off (I couldn’t budge
it 6 days before) and then she said “I will make you
a deal, if I take a piece of clothing off, then you
must take one off as well. She was chasing me!!!
Well we undresses and had a great time for about three
hours. Afterwards, she invited me out! Love your stuff.
Must go and re-read your wonderful words again. I can’t
wait to get the DVD’s.
Regards,
G.”
Often, a woman will test you by RESISTING you,
or by telling you that “things are moving too fast”
or even by asking you what your intentions are with
her long term (when you’ve only known her a short
while, and have no intentions of any kind).
What this gentleman above did was to SEE her bet,
and then RAISE her.
He called her bluff, basically.
WOMEN LOVE THIS!
It INSTANTLY shifts the power from one side to
the other, and totally changes the situation around.
Points I’d like to comment on:
1) The first time you saw her, you kissed. When you
tried to take off her top, the answer was a “firm
NO”.
>>>The reason why the answer was a “firm NO” was because
you gave her something to resist. Instead of amplifying
the ATTRACTION in the situation, and building the
ANTICIPATION, you just went for it. Next time, you’ll
know better.
2) The second time you saw her, you didn’t do anything
that even LIGHTLY indicated that you were interested
in her.
>>>Great job! This is perfect. Most guys can’t go
four MINUTES without screwing things up by trying
to kiss a woman, asking her how she’s feeling, or
doing some other Wuss Bag thing that blows everything.
You were able to stay cool and calm for FOUR HOURS…
and allow the tension to build. I guarantee you that
she was wondering what the hell was going on.
3) When you finally did kiss her, you STOPPED after
45 seconds… then didn’t do anything else for a half
hour.
>>>Again, great move. Perfect. It doesn’t surprise
me at ALL that she took her own top off, then told
you that you had to take something off as well. This
is what happens when you understand the process by
which women test… and the process by which women
become sexually aroused.
The Attitude For Approaching Women
Mar 15 2005
QUESTION
Jedi Master Dave,
I was receiving your newsletters for a while and finally
went and bought your ebook. And that book is absolute
gold!! I had become single again and had not remembered
the true art of meeting women until now. But I recently
ran into a problem. I was at a party and met this
girl, we’ll call her Cat. She was about an 8 or so.
I was totally using the C & F routine on her and she
was just eating it up. At this party they only had
beer and I wanted to drink something else so as I was
leaving I turned and asked Cat to go with me. As we
got into the car I had “accidentally” left my book
on palm reading on the passenger seat. And so when she
saw this book she asked if I could read her palm right
there in the car. And of course I told her no, maybe
later. So we got back to the party and started reading
her palm and I totally freaked out! It was a blast!!!
Palm reading is the ultimate bridge! It worked amazingly!!
I had told her because of the size of the pad of
her thumb that she was very sensitive to touch, and
slowly ran my fingers up her arm!! It was great!!
So we were hanging out and then I found out one of
my best friends was in the bathroom puking his brains
out. So being the good friend that I am I had to go
and check on him and make sure he was alive. So when
I came back to Cat there was this guy (that I went to
high school with) talking with her, when I arrived he
had left. And Cat told me that the guy had told her
some interesting stuff about me. But she refused
to tell me what he had said. So then she went to kiss
me and I turned my head and refused to kiss her and
I walked away and started talking to some friends of
mine. So she came up to me and told me what he said.
He had told her that I was a player and to be careful
of me. So then the whole rest of the night she kept
on dropping little hints about me being a player. I
just denied it and said that yes I do go out with a
lot of women but I don’t “play” them. So then things
started getting pretty hot and heavy between us. And
she kept on saying “she never does stuff like this
with someone she just met” and “this is moving very
fast” and she had this guard up, how would I go about
getting this guard down when she already has this idea
in her head that I’m a player?! Also in your book you
say not to tell them where you work, live, etc… so
then what do you say when they ask you about it?!
Thanx for your wisdom,
M in Chicago
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, cool friend from high school.
I really love JACKASS guys who like to tell women
negative things about you because they’re insecure
and have no game.
Charming, isn’t it?
OK, great job… you’re on track here.
You were actually doing fine, and you didn’t even
realize it…
If you’re getting “hot and heavy” with a woman you’ve
just met, and she starts saying things like “I don’t
do this kind of thing with someone I just met” or
“this is moving fast” it doesn’t mean that she’s not
enjoying it! And it also doesn’t mean she wants to
stop.
Often, women just aren’t used to getting physically
involved with a guy so quickly, and their self image
is telling them that this is unusual.
If you want to make light of the situation, just stop
kissing and say “OK, well then let’s just be friends”.
After she opens her mouth with a shocked look, then
KISS her again.
When you hear a woman say “this is moving very fast”,
just realize that you’re doing the RIGHT things, not
the wrong things. “I don’t usually do stuff like this
with someone I’ve just met” usually translates into
“But I’m about to do it now”.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If a woman ever asks you to stop,
pushes you away, or indicates that she does not want
to continue directly, then by all means stop. Never
force yourself on a woman. If you do, you’re a dumb
ass and deserve all the love and affection you’ll
be getting from BUBBA, your new penmate.
QUESTION
Hey man.
I love your stuff, and anyone who doubts that this
cocky and funny stuff works is either blind or simply
has not tried it. I have a question though… would
it be to my advantage to use cocky and funny lines
while in the process of making love to a woman?
I’m not talking about during foreplay or using it
to turn her on or after the sex when she’s curled
up next to you in bed, I mean DURING actual intercourse.
Is this the one time that you should give cocky and
funny a rest and be serious and intimate, or would
you say a woman would enjoy a little teasing while
in the act?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a sensitive subject, and it’s a GREAT question.
Being Cocky & Funny is all about flirting, teasing,
and communicating with a woman in a way that shows
that you’re not at all intimidated by her.
It’s not about hurting a woman, making her feel bad,
or being abusive in any way.
But when you’re making love, it’s a special situation.
Most people let their emotional guard down during
the process of having sex, and it’s probably not a
good time to tease and bust on a woman.
That’s my two cents on the subject.
QUESTION FROM A WOMAN
Hey Davemeister, I was wondering if cocky and funny
techniques would work for a woman? I have been getting
your newsletters for several months now and I love
reading all the success stories. It is interesting
to see the male psyche in action. I can agree with
so much of what you say. Women hate wusses!!! I just
wondered if guys would buy into a woman acting funny
and cocky. I can play off of a guy who is being cocky
and funny, but have never tried it as a pick up.
Any advice for the females?
SH ~Nashville~
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Cocky & Funny works GREAT for women.
Unfortunately, most guys are total WUSSES, and therefore
can’t handle it.
I’m doing my very best to change this, but it might
take a little while…
You’ll find that most guys will buckle if you bust
on them too much too early… but this is kind of
a good thing, because it weeds out the girly-men early
for you… and helps you find ME faster.
Kiss Kiss
QUESTION
David:
You have oft said to avoid cocky and funny at the
VERY beginning, and bring it in later, and my experiences
reflect this. I have found that there is a fairly
large percentage of girls who do not respond well
to this type of interaction when you are trying to
get her email.
Certainly a large enough percentage to make me convinced
that there has to be a better way.
Your ebook details specific things to say in this
critical first 3 minutes, but as we both know, what
you say is not nearly as important as how you say
it. So my question is, what has worked best for you
in terms of what characteristics to convey in this
first interaction? If not cocky and funny, then what?
Thanks again,
R
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love you, man. And that’s not my mineral water talking.
This is a VERY intelligent question. I wish I would
have thought of it myself.
You’re right. I’ve found that if you want to just
walk up to a woman and walk away with her number 3
minutes later that it’s better to be more DIRECT about
it.
If you’re in a bar, and the girl standing next to
you starts up a conversation, then it makes sense
to move right into the flirting, Cocky & Funny attitude.
But if you want to approach women and get numbers/emails
quickly, then you need something a little different.
I personally think that you need to convey a direct,
matter of fact air of “this is the most natural thing
in the world”.
If you act like it’s normal and natural, then she
will.
If you act uncomfortable and nervous, then she will
do that too.
Most guys are very nervous about approaching and
starting conversations with women. They get all uptight
and start acting sketchy at just the THOUGHT of walking
up to a woman and asking her for her number.
If you can just realize that women WANT to meet men,
and that they want men to approach them, it makes
you consider that women probably want guys who aren’t
acting nervous and insecure. Right?
So be direct.
If you’d like, you can use the “One Compliment” approach.
Give her a compliment to start the conversation (but
don’t give her any more for a LOOOOOONG time).
Pause to create an air of mystery.
Try “Hi, you are… … beautiful and I had to take
a moment to meet you.”
The pause is priceless. Look directly into her eyes
as you talk… and as you pause. This communicates
that you’re NOT AFRAID of her.
Then make small talk for a minute. Ask her name, ask
her if she’s from the area, etc. Then use the 3 Minutes
email/number technique.
The objective is to get her information, not to start
an interesting dialogue.
Now, if you want to ask her to coffee right on the
spot, etc. then you might want to be Cocky & Funny
right off the bat.
Remember that there’s always time to show off your
Cocky & Funny charm the next time you see her.
cool some1 will benefit greatly from this…
en? who will that be?
someone you know?