ouch, did you ever get back?
“Women Don’t Make Sense”. Here’s what I
mean…
I believe:
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether
a man is going to be “just a friend” or if he has
romantic potential, and once her decision is made,
it’s probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made “unconsciously”, meaning
that women make all of them quickly and at a “gut
level”.
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings
rather than “friend” feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting “nice” and start
acting, well… something else… and I don’t mean
“not nice”.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there’s
something very attractive about a man who is just a
little more confident than he should be. And if you
combine this with the right amount of humor, you have
a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something.
It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you do it early on.
For instance, you might say: “So what’s with the big
purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?” or maybe “Those
are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4’ tall
without them?” If you tease a woman, it shows that
you’re not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun
sense of humor. Key: Make sure you say something FUNNY.
If you don’t know how to be funny, get a book on it.
The test: If she’s not laughing, then it wasn’t funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied
when you first start talking to her. Make your funny
remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to
sound like you’re talking to your best friend. Attractive
women are approached all the time. It’s not attractive
to a woman when you look like you’ve just met Madonna.
This “just a little too confident” attitude is very
attractive to women… especially when it’s combined
with humor.
3) Don’t answer her questions directly. Women love
to ask questions like: “What do you do?” and “Where
do you live?” and “Tell me about your family”. Answer
with funny answers, and don’t give her what she wants.
Most guys say “Oh, I’m an engineer” or “I’m a stock
broker”. BORING,BORING. If she asks what you do, say
“Oh, funny you should ask. I’m a Calvin Klein Underwear
Model… What do you do?..” (This is especially funny
if it’s OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get
it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It’s important to remember that I’m not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I’m telling
you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious.
于 2005-03-28 08:15, gogatsu 写:
ouch, did you ever get back?
yep, i came back..starting thinking gals in another way, not bad..
it’s kinda like wht the guy do in Hitch? have you seen the movie?? that really matchs a lot…
and by the way… i changed the color to red… seems to me that you r going to continue this for a while which is not that offen here… NIce.
于 2005-03-28 08:17, yi_iy 写:
yep, i came back…starting thinking gals in another way, not bad…
what? what do you mean “thinking gals in another way”? i thought you were a girl…
I didn’t see Hitch…
o and thanks for changing the color to red.
do you think it’s helping with english learning tho? haha, you can think of it as learning about their “culture” too
and seriously!!!
anyone reading this besides the moderators? I’m getting discouraged
Meeting Women With “Personal Ads”
Mar 29 2005
QUESTION
Dave:
Here’s an example
from a girl that lives in my neighborhood:
“I’d like to eventually settle down with someone that
I can look to as a best friend and that I can laugh
with. I enjoy traveling, working out, yoga, music,
and dining out in NYC. I am playful and fun and have
a lot to offer the right man. I believe that the best
relationships are based on friendship. I am genuine,
kind and compassionate and I am looking for the same
in a man.
My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn’t afraid
of being himself. He knows what he wants and goes for
it. He is confident, not cocky. He is a person of
good character, high morals and loyal. He is thoughtful,
considerate and knows how to treat a lady. Last but
not least, my ideal man is attractive with a good
sense of humor”.
I can’t think of anything cocky to say to this…or
how to communicate that I’m a sexually aware man. I’m
not really sure what you mean by sexually aware anyway,
unless you mean sexually successful…like when you
know you’re hot and women want you.
So, can you help me understand how you’d respond to
an ad like this?
thanks,
-R
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Remember, women who run personal ads are getting TONS
of responses.
If you’re going to play the personals, stay current
with them, and contact women as soon as they place
their ad. This way you’ll be one of the first to start
a conversation with her… as opposed to the 497th
guy. At some point, the hundreds of men who are responding
to a woman’s personal ad all run together into a big
lump of desperate men. So be first if you can.
Second, forget about trying to respond to a woman’s
personal ad by reading it, thinking about it, considering
what she’s looking for, and then responding in a way
that she will find interesting.
No no no!
The ad you sent in above could have been run by any
woman in any part of the world… it might as well
be a generic ad template for women.
The one thing this ad DOESN’T mention (and the one
thing that NO female personal ads EVER mention) is
what makes this woman feel ATTRACTION for a man.
Think about it for a minute…
This woman sat down one night at her computer, and
said to herself “I’m tired of the dating game. Maybe
if I put a personal ad online and describe the kind
of guy I’m looking for, Prince Charming will find
me and we’ll live happily ever after”.
Can’t you just FEEL it in her words?
“I’d like to eventually settle down with someone that
I can look to as a best friend and that I can laugh
with…”
“I believe that the best relationships are based on
friendship…”
And the whole last paragraph is priceless…
“My ideal match is the kind of guy that isn’t afraid
of being himself. He knows what he wants and goes
for it. He is confident, not cocky. He is a person
of good character, high morals and loyal. He is thoughtful,
considerate and knows how to treat a lady. Last but
not least, my ideal man is attractive with a good
sense of humor…”
So what do most guys do when they read an ad like
this one?
Of course… they write back something like:
“Hi, I’m a nice attractive SWM who has a sense of
humor, high morals, is honest, and also believes that
a good friendship is the foundation for a great
relationship.”
UGH!
Someone bring me a bucket, because I’m gonna PUKE.
Look, when a woman is writing a PERSONAL ad, she’s
usually at a point in her life where she’s lonely…
and has often lost hope of finding a long-term companion
in the real world.
OF COURSE she’s going to write all this sappy stuff.
But that doesn’t change ANYTHING about what is going
to get her attention and make her feel ATTRACTION.
Again, my gut tells me that you’re trying to figure
out how to answer this kind of personal ad with a
WUSSY response that will make her love you. Don’t.
And to address your question of how to communicate
that you’re a confident, sexually aware man…
You do this by NOT trying to please her, say what
she wants to hear, and kiss up to her.
It sounds to me like you need to spend more time studying
the materials you have, practicing your Cocky & Funny
skills, and making your personality more interesting…
and less time chasing women who are looking for an
open, honest, Yoga-loving husband via the personal
ads.
QUESTION
Dave:
I’ve noticed that on your newsletters or e-book you
haven’t commented on hypnotic language which some
guys use to seduce women. Is it worth looking into
or is it more work than its worth? What is your opinion
on this subject? I know that with your vast amount
of knowledge, you have a worthwhile opinion in this
area.
Thanks
RF, NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I’ve tried all this stuff… and, in fact, I know
quite a bit about the topic of “hypnosis”. I was fascinated by
it several years ago… and, for certain things, it
seems to be of great use.
But if you try it you’ll find, just as I did, that
it’s a very INDIRECT way to accomplish your objective,
it’s very abnormal, and it feels sneaky.
Once you understand that you can actually cause women
to feel ATTRACTION for you by just cultivating certain
natural personality traits like confidence and humor,
all else becomes irrelevant.
I know a lot of guys who are successful with women,
and the general consensus is that you MUST get your
inner game together FIRST. You must understand how
and why women are attracted to men FIRST. Then, you
must cultivate the ability to make women feel that
ATTRACTION for you with just your communication and
body language.
Once you learn this skill, you can use ANYTHING and
it will work.
In other words, once you’re good at meeting women,
you can use juggling fire to meet women… and it
will work.
But if you DON’T “get it” and understand what makes
women feel ATTRACTION for men, then no amount of
tricks, hypnosis, or standing on your head is going
to make a damn bit of difference.
I don’t think that most guys want to have to “seduce”
women. I think that most guys want women to feel
ATTRACTION for them.
Here’s a definition for “seduction”:
“The act of seducing; enticement to wrong doing; specifically,
the offense of inducing a woman to consent to unlawful
sexual intercourse, by enticements which overcome
her scruples; the wrong or crime of persuading a woman
to surrender her chastity.”
Techniques to “seduce” women make your stomach feel
strange… because they’re usually dishonest or sneaky.
And techniques to seduce women that involve using
things like hypnosis and other covert mind-control
not only make your stomach turn when you use them,
but they also don’t WORK as well as the things I’m
teaching you.
QUESTION
To my mate, Dave.
The main question I want to ask is in regards to going
out by myself. I walk inside a club or a bar and I
always get asked the same old question …“Who are
you here with”. I typically answer by myself. This
causes uncertainty and I feel that I am telling the
lady ‘Ohh, well I am lonely’ (Note that the same happens
with guys & mind you, I am straight). The answer,
by myself is honest but triggers a negative outcome,
so what do I say?
For some silly reason I get the impression that the
other person is thinking to themselves, “ohh, the
poor thing”.
One very bad thought I have, is if a women sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically thinks,
ok, this guy has no social life, he is lonely and he
must be desperate, so quickly what do I do to turn
him off. Look, your advice on the CD does help but
I personally think that a lot of this stuff takes
time and effort and should not be looked as a quick
aspirin cure.
PLEASE!!! tell me the following questions:-
- If a guy or a girl asks me “who am I here with”
what is a good answer?
- Is it natural for a guy to go out by himself?
(i.e are there other guys who do the same?)
Awaiting your response.
>From “Il”
Australia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, these are great questions…
I think you’ve hit on a couple of topics that are
MAJOR issues for a lot of men.
I know that they were for me in the not-too-distant
past.
OK, to answer your question about what to do if a
woman asks “who are you here with?”…
It’s time for Dr. Dave The Mind Reading Dating Psychologist
to make an appearance…
I’m going to make a few guesses about what’s going
through your mind.
Hell, since I’m making some guesses, let’s just wrap
up both of your questions into one:
“Is it cool to go out alone, and what should I do
if I’m out along and a woman asks me who I’m with?”
My first guess is that you’re feeling self-conscious
about the idea of being alone.
You said:
“One very bad thought I have, is if a woman sees a
guy approach her by himself, she automatically thinks,
ok, this guy has no social life, he is lonely and
he must be desperate, so quickly what do I do to turn
him off.”
It’s obvious that you have all kinds of insecurity
issues here, and they’re really messing with your
mind.
The next guess I have is that you’re still stuck in
the mindset of “pleasing women” and “saying what they
want to hear”.
At some level, you’re asking me what to say to a woman
who DISAPPROVES of the idea that you’re out alone.
Are you with me here?
Here are a few pointers for you:
1) What other people think of you is the last thing
you should be thinking about.
Now, don’t take this to mean that you should never
change your underwear or brush your teeth, because
it doesn’t matter what other think.
That’s not what I’m saying.
What I AM saying is that if you go out alone, and
you meet a woman who thinks you’re a TOTAL LOSER for
not being out with friends, it shouldn’t matter to
you.
You’re not looking for THAT woman.
2) Going out alone is great.
I used to be VERY uptight about the idea of going
out alone. It took me quite awhile before I was really
comfortable with the idea.
And when women would ask me about it, I’d try to figure
out some good excuse to give them… or way to explain
it so I didn’t appear to be a loser.
Well guess what I’ve learned since?
Most of the guys I know who are AMAZING with women
go out alone often.
In fact, if you really think about it, a guy who has
the confidence to go out alone, KNOWING that he’s
going to meet a woman that he enjoys… and is keeping
his options open, so if he chooses to go home with
her, etc. he can… is amazing.
That takes balls.
3) When a woman asks you “Who are you here with?”
you have a few basic options.
-You can answer her directly (“I’m here alone”)
-You can lie (“My friends will be here soon”)
-You can turn the question around (read on)
Now, if you answer directly and say “I’m here alone”
in a weak, tentative, self conscious, insecure voice,
you’re going to look like a Wuss Bag loser.
Women aren’t attracted to men who feel like losers.
And answering questions directly is usually uninteresting.
You can also lie.
A lot of guys lie about things… from what they do
to what they think of a woman… to how much they
make.
Lying is a trap, because it makes you feel bad, AND
it screws up your mind. I don’t recommend it.
But there is another way!
And it’s my favorite (of course).
TURN THE QUESTION AROUND.
If you remember that women are CONSTANTLY testing
you when you interact with them, and you are always
looking for places and ways to demonstrate your Cocky
& Funny wit, you’ll see incredible opportunity in
situations like this.
She asks “Who are you here with?”
You answer “I’m here with you” .
Seeeee?
She smiles, laughs a little, and says “OK, seriously…
who are you here with?”
You answer “Look, I only know you a few minutes and
already you’re trying to meet my friends? By the end
of the week you’re going to be over at my mom’s house
talking about our wedding. Slow down!”
Now what’s going on here?
What you’re subtly saying is “It doesn’t matter who
I’m here with… and by the way, If I am here by myself,
I’m not at all insecure about it…”
Guys ask me all the time how to deal with questions
and challenges from women.
DON’T.
You don’t have to.
Just be charming, funny, and difficult.
It works much better, and it’s a hell of a lot more
fun for you and her.
QUESTION
Hey Dave you are right the C & F seem to work but
I wanna ask you something…how often are you supposed
to be c & f? I mean, are yu supposed to sprinkle
it in during a normal convo or should yu use it moderately
or at every single thing she says? I ask b/c id like
to hold a normal convo also & in your opinion wat
would be best? Im interested in your opinion on this.
CJ,
New York
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The more you use it, the more you’ll get a feel for
how much to use Cocky & Funny.
Use it a LOT in the beginning, on the first outing
for a cup of tea, during the first dates, etc.
The exception is if you don’t have a lot of time,
and you want to get a woman’s number/email fast. In
that case, use the 3 minute technique in Double Your
Dating, and as described in a past newsletter that
you’ve probably read. In those cases, it takes too
much time.
Also, as you get to know a woman, you’ll have more
and more “normal” conversations…
Never stop being Cocky & Funny, unpredictable, etc.
But you can ease up a little as you get to know a
woman better.
Use it… and you’ll get it.
QUESTION
Dave,
I’m a 30-Year-old African American Male, who was voted
best looking in High School, and I make over 100K/year…
So I generally do not have that hard of a time initially
meeting women… But would always screw it up with
the women that I really found interesting… I was
being a wuss…
I’d meet multiple women in a night out with the boys…
There would be the one’s that I really liked… The
9+'s, and the one’s that I kinda liked, but was not
too excited about… The 6’s and 7’s
The way I approached the 9+ was all wussie…and I
usually never even got the phone number, but if I
did, I would immediately try to make her like me,
be a general pain in the ass, calling all the time,
etc. And not get anywhere past an initial phone
conversation.
The way that I approached the 7 was different because
I did not feel intimidated by her…and most importantly
could kinda care less if I spoke to her or not…
I usually had no fear of telling a joke, or busting
on her… The result being that she sensed the confidence
and really liked me…If it progressed any further
she would always reach out to me… calling all the
time, and be a general pain in the ass…
So my question is this:
How can I make the same response happen with women
that I am interested in? The hot, intelligent, 9’s
and 10’s…The ebook has helped tremendously, but
I’m not there yet…
Is there some mental trick that I can play so that
I act the same way with all women (cock/funny), Not
just 6’s and 7’s???
Your help is much appreciated, and much success my
friend you deserve it!!
KT
Atlanta, GA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As for the REALLY attractive women, there are a few
things you need to keep in mind:
1) These women are approached A LOT. And I mean ALL
THE TIME. The real hotties of the world are so used
to being approached by men that they should all be
given honorary black belts in Wuss Detection And
Deflection.
Super hot women have a lot of choice when it comes
to men, so they choose the best they can get.
If your game isn’t REALLY together, you’ll do little
things when you’re interacting with these women that
will clue them in to the fact that you don’t really
know how to play on their level.
And I’m talking LITTLE things.
Remember, these women are approached all the time
by men, and they have learned to make very quick decisions
based on very little information.
A little comment, a certain look, or a little gesture
that hints to her that you want her approval is all
it takes.
You’re doing fine… you’ll get it soon enough.
Just stick with it.
You’re asking me how to meet the kinds of women that
most men would sell their mom into slavery for one
date with.
You’re on the right track, and the more you practice
and improve, the more success you’ll have.
QUESTION
Dave,
Hello Dave, my question is has follows: What your
opinion on women that work has exotic dancers? I’ve
generally heard that they have some type of issue
where they feel they need to dominate/control men,
now obviously we can’t stereotype all of them, but
generally speaking what’s the scoop on these types
of women? A response would be appreciated.
M
San Antonio,TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
BUST THEIR BALLS!
Dancers are notorious for dating brutish, abusive,
loser guys who have no life…
Dancers usually have all kinds of issues…
Dancers are used to men kissing up to them and giving
them money just to look at them…
BUST THEIR BALLS!
Tell them they’re the most successful sex change you’ve
seen lately.
Ask them what they’re going to be when they grow up.
Don’t look at them while they’re dancing.
If you play their game, you become another one of
the hundreds of dumb-ass guys that they take money
from.
If you completely avoid their game and instead play
your own, you will stand out.
This is where EXTREME ball busting and Cocky & Funny
are most useful.
WARNING:
Be careful what you wish for.
You are looking for trouble if you don’t know how
to handle powerful women.
If you’re not careful, you’re going to email me next
week saying “Wow, that ball busting stuff really works
with dancers. The only problem is that she stole my
car and all my money, and now her drug dealer is calling
me all the time to find out where she is…”
If you want a first-class ticket to a Quentin Tarantino
movie, start dating a lot of dancers.
And no, I’m not talking Jackie Brown kind of freaky,
I’m talking FOUR ROOMS kind of freaky.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
QUESTION
Dear Dave, I have been reading your newsletter for
about a year now and it works great!! True genius!!!
I have always been cocky and funny even before knowing
what c&f was, you just helped me realize exactly why
I was succeeding with women. There is this girl who
is probably a 9-10, but has had a boyfriend for some
time now. I have been cocky and funny with her since
the day i met her (btw shes a bartender) and she really
seems to respond to it. She poured me a drink once and
after I tasted it I said to her “whoa this is really
strong, are you trying to get me drunk to take advantage
of me,” and she responded by saying “oh yea baby” and
smiled at me and rubbed my arm. My question is as
follows: I really want this girl and she seems to
respond to my cocky and funny routine, in fact I think
she likes me, but what do I do about the boyfriend
situation?? What are the odds I can actually end up
with this chick??
GB Orlando
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, so what you’re trying to tell me is that the only
attractive woman in ORLANDO, FLORIDA is a bartender
with a long term boyfriend?
Hey, good idea…since there are only about a million
or so single women in your area, why not pick one
who’s already seeing someone?
Duh.
Stop that!
If a woman has a boyfriend, just walk away, man.
Every month or two, when you’re ordering a drink from
her, say “Hey, are you still married?”
This is funny, because you’re busting on her and at
the same time asking if she’s still with her BF.
At some point she’ll probably say “No, I just dumped
him”. Most relationships end, so stay in touch.
And in the meantime, do something productive with
your time… like dating some of the single women
in your area who don’t have boyfriends that are probably
the jealous 6’6" 250 pound meathead bouncer at the
bar who likes to beat up guys for fun.
COMMENT
All I can tell you is, the guys without money (some
of whom are naturally cocky and funny) get no women;
the guys with money, whether they’re ugly, fat, or
dull have the women pursuing them. That’s reality–
I’ve seen it happen so many times that it’s become
a standing joke among all the single guys I know!
Around here (Chicago), a woman ascertains a man’s
earning potential within five minutes of meeting,
and if he’s lacking, she is gone in a cloud of dust!
sl
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, what you’re saying makes perfect sense.
Except, how do you explain the probably 2 or 3 million
adult men in the Chicago area who have a lot to middle
class income who are MARRIED?
I have a good friend who lives in Chicago who I personally
watched get 25 different women’s phone numbers in
the course of one weekend.
He lived in a little apartment with a couple of other
people, made very little money, and dressed casually.
I think you need to get some new friends.
Try making friends with guys who are SUCCESSFUL with
women, instead of guys who like to sit around coming
up with “standing jokes” about why they suck with
women.
Sure, money helps. Duh.
But money doesn’t create ATTRACTION. Sorry.
Get rid of your helpless mentality, and get out there
and make something happen for yourself!
Making excuses for why you can’t succeed personally
in life is one of the WORST uses for your amazing
mind.
Stop it!
QUESTION
What up dave? There’s no longer any doubt that this
stuff works! It’s really great to actually know what
you’re doing when dealing with women, rather than
aimlessly trying to meet them… anyway my question…
I met this chick at a party and before she left, i
asked her if she had e-mail. She said, “how about my
phone number?” I told her that it’s hard to get people
on the phone but i’d take it., she then writes her #
down and said "I wrote my e-mail down too but i’ll
think you’re a dork if you e-mail me, kind of jokingly.
[WHY THE HELL DID SHE GIVE IT TO ME THEN???]
Then, other guys/friends delayed her leaving. so while
i was back with my friends, she came where i was sitting
right before she left and said., “you’re going to call
me right”, smiling. i was already kind of drunk and
i just nodded and said ‘yeah’ in an indifferent tone
cause i knew she liked me… but i could’ve said something
better!!
2 QUESTIONS
1. What would have been cocky+funny thing to say when
she said …“but i’ll think you’re a dork if you e-mail
me…” and should i then proceed to e-mail!?
2. When she comes back and asks if I’m going to call
her, what’s the best thing i can say to bust on her in
this situation?
I appreciate everything you’re doing, david. please
keep the newsletters coming!
–D Jax, FL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
To answer the “I’ll think you’re a dork if you email
me” I probably would have said:
“You’ll think I’M a dork? Hey, you’re the dorky CHICK
who has email…”
And when a woman says “you’re going to call me, right?”
it means that she’s REALLY into you… as you know.
So why not smile and say “Why should I? What’s in
it for me?”
Then, when she says “What do you want?” you can answer
with all kinds of great things…
“Money”
“Can you cook?”
“Can I have anything I want?” (my personal favorite)
…this is a great line of humor, and women love it.
QUESTION
Hi David,
thanks for all your great info that i have been receiving
over the past several months. i have been putting
into practice the things i learned from your e-book
and newsletters with much improved results in the
dating scene…in a few of your newsletters
you mentioned that jealousy is the strongest of all
emotions. how do you deal with it if it is the woman
who tries to make you jealous. whats the best mindset
and way to handle it david.
d
london
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Jealousy is an interesting topic.
I’m not sure that I said it was the “strongest” of
all emotions… but I probably did say that it was
one of the most powerful.
Jealousy causes people to do all sorts of stupid things…
but it can also keep relationships together.
If a woman knows that other women are interested in
you, she’ll want you more.
If a man finds out that his girl is sleeping with
another man, he can fly into a rage that often leads
to violence (or worse).
Women are notorious for trying to make men jealous.
Many women intuitively realize that jealousy will
make a man more interested and make him work harder
for her attention and affection.
If a woman tries to make me jealous, I just laugh.
If she says:
“Oh, this guy I used to date called me last night
to see if I was single…”
I might laugh and say:
“Well you should go out with him.”
At this point a woman will usually realize that what
she’s doing isn’t working and say “No, I don’t like
him, why do you say that?”
It’s important to overcome the natural tendency in
life to have your emotions triggered by outside events.
It takes some work in many cases, but it’s worth it.
Jealousy is an almost useless emotion. Do your best
to realize that you don’t need it… and then communicate
that you’re not easily played… and you don’t get
jealous over other men.
Works wonders, and makes you even more attractive.
QUESTION
I met this girl…and I know that she is the one for
me. I can feel it, and have felt if since I first
met her. At first, I can tell she was attracted to
me…we hung out for like 13 hrs the first time we
ever met, went out after that, and I had used the
cocky - making fun of her thing. Then I got all wuss
like and told her how I felt.
Now, we dont see each other all that often, I know
that she has gone out with another guy, and she told
me that he was a total dick to her.
Question is…can I get her attraction to me back
by starting to do the cocky thing again??? This
along with talking about other women that I am talking
to and hanging out with…would this possibly get
her interest back in me???
I need help on this.
Thanks
J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, you need help on this.
HELLO?
Why did you stop doing what worked originally?
Don’t make me come down there and shake you!
You’re probably out of luck at this point, but if
you want to try and MAKE some luck, then get back
to doing what works.
You don’t need me to tell you this stuff again.
Don’t be a Wussy, man. Women aren’t attracted to Wussies.
QUESTION
Hey Dave,
I’ve known this italian girl since
the summer. It started out as an internet thing in
a chatroom as with my natural humor and new set of
balls, I got hooked into me. Fast forward to a few
months in November, we still kept talking and views
me as a “Friend”, even though we didn’t even send a
single picture to one another. Things are going so
well, that she decides that we should meet up somewhere.
We did, and I bet every reader in this room would be
very very very jealous if they saw me with this girl.
Things went well on this “get together”, I busted
her balls, made her laugh, and her facial expressions
were mostly “What the…” look with sometimes leaving
her speechless. At the end, she said I was definaly
a keeper…wee. Fast forward to a few days ago, and
now she tells me that she had sex with her ex-boyfriend
who “she loved” and hasn’t seen a long time. The
reason why they broke up is because he had to move,
they were both in good terms. Even though the ex is
currently seeing someone else, who he claims he is
not interested in this “other”, they still did it.
She said at the end that she views me as a “friend”
My question: What gives? She was taking initiative
to even ask me out, which is something that 0.001%
of girls ask for, she compliments me, kisses me, the
whole package, yet just a few days ago she tells me
that she loves her ex?
For some reason I am going to get the feeling you
are going to go on with my life, wish I could, but
even though I did “double my dating”, my dates haven’t
been all that fulfilling. Lets say my best date besides
this one was some Swedish Figure Skater who kept talking
about her past 90000 boyfriends.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, yea. I really feel for you.
In the months since you’ve been reading these newsletters
and few WEEKS since you’ve read my book you’ve dated
a super-hot Italian girl and a Swedish Figure Skater.
And your dates haven’t been “all that fulfilling”.
Bummer, man.
OK, as for your Italian girl who slept with her ex.
These things happen, man.
Welcome to life on Earth.
My book is called “Double Your Dating”, not “How to
make sure every relationship with every woman in your
life turns out like a movie”.
Get out there and date some more women!
That’ll get your mind off of the Italian girl (who
you obviously feel attached to)… and onto some other
super-babes that you have yet to meet.