So I’ve tested it, and it works like I wouldn’t have
believed. My ex-girlfriend that I’m back with again
can’t do much about it…recently, she said with a
real smile: “You made fun of me from day one!” with
kind of a hint! hint! attitude of “and please do more
of that”. If a woman wants to tell you she’s really
into you, she’ll normally say ANYTHING but “I really
like you” or so. More like “You’re so funny” or “You’re
so nasty”, all with a smile. Almost always something
in the “You’re so…” category.
Then there’s something else I’ve noticed…
When you talked about how mothers raise boys to be
wussies, I gave the “why” a little thought…ever
said something fresh or wisecrackish to mom? Generally,
you unleash the fire of the dragon about how you’d
better never, ever do that again.
How come mothers (and teachers, for that matter) respond
so negatively when their sons behave C&F when other
girls love it? Well…C&F is disarming and hits women
in a spot where they can feel their power over you
diminish to zero. And no mother wants a kid who subtly
communicates “I don’t give a damn about what you think
of me” and such, let alone have a kid who has power
over her. No way! As long as he’s the wussy (and not
the other way round!), we can play happy family.
Greetings,
LM from Liechtenstein
QUESTION
David,
Your ebook completely changed the way I have always
believed how a man should act when approaching women
in order to get her attracted. I used to try so hard
to treat women nicely but at the end I turned myself
into a big wuss and ended up going nowhere. Sometimes,
even now, I am still wondering why the C&F stuff attracts
women because I feel like somehow it’s just simply
another way of being arrogant except that it’s a little
more subtle. I guess it’s just like what you said,
things don’t always make sense. As long as it works
and gets the result, who cares whether it makes sense
or not?
The reason why I am writing you today is because I
have two questions that I would like to ask and any
advice would be appreciated. The SECOND QUESTION maybe
sensitive to some of the readers out there and therefore
you may just want to respond privately.
1) Through my experience, I have realized that once
a woman has categorized me into the “no” group, it’s
impossible to get out of it. Basically I mean the first
impression is EXTREMELY important. If I can’t show her
my C&F side in the beginning and once I am considered
a provider but not a lover, there is NO WAY OUT. I
have found that getting a second chance to redeem
myself extremely difficult. Is there a way to change
a woman’s mind if this is the case?
2) I came from the Far East and I have been living
in the U.S. for over 10 years. I noticed that women
in this country would date their own men, Hispanics,
Europeans and those from the Middle East. However,
I rarely, I mean really rarely see an Asian guy dating
an American woman over the last so many years. I thought
a lot about it and think that this is because many
of these people fall into the “Lover” groups you mentioned
in one of your books - the Adventurers, Seducers,
Artists and Bad Boys.
Meanwhile, my believe is that Asians are typically
considered nice guys which means providers. Our culture
has been traditionally emphasized on “keep the harmony,
don’t be arrogant, give compliments, don’t rock the
boat, etc.” and therefore I feel that many us may
find the C&F idea difficult to follow due to what
we have been taught.
Let’s just say that we get rid of this problem and
finally learn how to be C&F, the problem is now how
to convince a woman not to stereotype me as a provider
before I even open my mouth and have a chance to prove
myself. I fear that most of the women out there automatically
put me into the “no” or provider category as soon
as they see me.
Dave, TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, to answer your first question…
I get a TON of email from guys who are looking for
the answer to the magic question “How do I get a woman
who I’ve convinced not to like me to give me a second
chance?”
The answer is: DON’T. JUST MOVE ON.
It’s not worth the time, effort, and energy.
The best thing you can do is stop calling her, start
dating other women, and if you can, make sure she
finds out that you’ve moved on.
Get one with your life. And, ironically, that will
give you the best chances of her feeling attracted
to you again.
To answer your second point…
I have friends of all races, colors, sizes, ages,
etc. and I’ve found that looks are SECONDARY.
All other things being equal, a six-foot three guy
who is 21 years old, a multi-millionaire, drives a
Ferrari, and is famous will have an easier time meeting
women…
But I have one friend who is about 5’4" tall, ASIAN,
and has an average income who is UNREAL when it comes
to meeting women. He’s always surrounded by a group
of hot young women who love him.
Why? Because he GETS IT!
And I believe that you can to, no matter what your
looks, age, race, etc.
I know MANY guys that approach woman all the time…
in the hall, in the store, at clubs, on the internet,
and every other place on the planet… and I’ve heard
of VERY, VERY few instances where something bad came
of it.
And, in fact, the worst I’ve EVER heard of is having
a drink thrown in your face or a slap.
I’ve never heard of:
1. Permanent bodily injury.
2. Death.
3. Irreparable damage to self esteem.
(Although I’m sure that some dumb-ass somewhere on
the planet has figured out a way to have one of these
things happen to him as a result of approaching a
woman…)
Here, try this:
Next time you walk by a girl in the hall, look her
right in the eye and give her a slight smile.
Then say “Hey, can I ask you a question?”
When she stops and says “Sure”, say:
“Are you single?”
If she asks “Why?” say:
“Well, I know someone who I think would REALLY find
you attractive. He’s nice, funny, interesting… and
I think you might like him. (smile in a knowing way
as you say all of this, hinting that you might be talking
about yourself)”
Then ask “Do you have email?”
If she asks if you’re talking about yourself, just
look at her and say “Maybe”.
Get her email, say “I’ll have him email you”, and
walk away.
This is a fun way to start a conversation, and the
direct “Are you single?” question really throws women
off balance for a moment.
SUCCESS STORY
Hey Dave,
I thought I would write in on how knowing how to “recognize”
BEING A WUSS does have its advantages !!
A few weeks ago I started dating this one gal - a
6, maybe 7, but an 8 personality. She started to get
all clingy and calling all the time, but I don’t have
time to sit on the phone with non-customers (not getting
paid) all day. She was starting to get annoying. But
I don’t have a mean bone in my body, enough to tell
her to scram.
I had a slow week coming up, I remembered everything
from the newsletters, and decided to use it OPPOSITE
of the intended purpose. I started calling HER all
the time, stopping by her work bringing her lunch,
would call and ask if I could come over in the evenings,
etc. When we did go out, I would purposely act like
I didn’t care where we went, and made her decide.
Basically, to quote words of THE master, “THE ULTIMATE
WUSS BAG” !! I mean, I poured it on worse than before
I started getting the newsletters, because I NOW KNEW
what to do and HOW to do it!
Well, Dave (and anyone else reading), it worked like
a charm!! She started saying how different we were
and that maybe I should date other women as well.
When I heard that line, I knew I was on my way to
FREEDOM!! Another day or so of it, to make sure
it “took hold”, and haven’t talked to her since. And
I’m betting she is not upset in the least.
KTF
Austin, TX
QUESTION
David-
We are now
in a relationship, and I am very much into her (she is
emotionally stable, always honest with me, and not to
mention stunningly beautiful) but I have a couple problems.
Often times, she gives me signals that she does not
feel secure in the relationship, as if I am about to
drop her at any moment for another girl. Perhaps this
is because I don
QUESTION
David:
I recently saw firsthand what being cocky around a
woman can do. I was at a party with some people from
my work, and I started talking with this one girl
(Actually, she started talking to me). Anyway, she
was telling me how she had to wear a different dress
because the zipper got stuck on the other one. A
friend of mine who will say anything to anyone at
anytime then asked her “Why, because your ass is too
big?” Now, I would never think of saying such a thing,
and she seemed a bit appalled at first, but guess
who she proceeded to talk to the rest of the night?
Oh, by the way, he also told her he liked “the dye
in her hair.”
I have one question for you: I met a girl at a party
on a Halloween weekend. I made a joke about her costume,
she played along with it, then when I told her I was
leaving she voluntarily gave me her number. I called
her twice, but she didn’t return my calls. In the
meantime, I was trying to set up a date with another
girl who promptly answered my calls, but let’s just
say she looked a lot better at the club with the lights
down low. So now I want to call the hot one, but I
don’t want to look stupid because I waited so long.
What do you think?
Thanks,
J
San Diego
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ha!
I have to say, it takes game to look a woman right
in the eye and ask “Why, because your ass is too big?”
LOL!
I’ve done similar things, but you’d better make sure
that it’s funny.
Not for the weak of heart!
And to answer your question about calling the cute
girl back.
Look, in the book “The Rules” (the one that teaches
women how to play games to get a man to marry them)
the authors recommend that women NOT call men, and
RARELY return men’s calls.
So don’t worry about it.
Some guys don’t like to call women more than once
or twice, but I ask you this:
What is there to lose?
If you have to call her once a week for five weeks
until you get a hold of her, what have you wasted?
Five extra minutes dialing the phone?
So what?
Now, if you’re feeling like a needy little puppy,
and you’re calling her five times A DAY trying to
get a hold of her, that’s a different story.
As long as you’re getting on with your life, keeping
busy, and dating other women, then keep trying until
you reach her.
I’ll personally keep calling a woman until either:
1. She tells me to stop calling her (which has never
happened)
2. I get too busy to care anymore (which happens all
the time)
3. I set up a meeting with her
Overcoming Fear And Meeting Women In Bars
Apr 25 2005
lets take this example, im in a pub with a friend of mine, close to us are, lets say 3 goodlooking girls on a table and two of them seem to be interested because they keep on looking to us…they smile at us, look in our eyes for a few
seconds and play with their hair, showing you their “delicious” neck , talk with a loud voice to take your attention and so on ( some of the signs women usually make)…my problem is now how to go on! they seem to be interested but nobody is outgoing enough to walk over to the other table to start a conversation in order to establish a first contact… you always teach us that the content of the conversation is not so important as the way you say it right? but what can i tell them? ( fear of rejection i know) . how would you react or behave? walking by, what would you tell them? ( i think just asking them if they want to sit down with us on our table is very wussy)… try to give us concrete examples of the first “cocky&funny” contact in a pub or other tipical places… that would be great…
thanks for helping the wussyfied planet…(;
M.M.
Rome, Italy
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think the issue that you’re PROBABLY dealing with
is REJECTION.
You’re probably afraid to go start a onversation because you don’t want to be rejected by the women.
Once you can face this reality and start to deal with it, then you’ll start making more progress.
My experience starting conversations with groups of more than one woman in bars is that your ENERGY makes a huge impact.
In other words, if you walk over and act nervous and stilted, the women will get nervous and act cold.
If you act like you’re having a good time, you think they look like some fun people to talk to, and you start on that note, they’ll be FAR more likely to be friendly and open.
Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT at meeting women in bars. Some of them use rather interesting and complex techniques that range from “pick up lines” all the way to magic and psychic readings.
Try this:
Pick up your drink, walk over to the table, think of the funniest moment of your life so you have a smile on your face, and say “What, are you girls shy or something?”
When they say “NO, why?”
Answer “Because I’ve been sitting at the next table for at least a half hour and you haven’t come over to say hi to me!”
I have about 3 different friends who all use variations of this opening… and it works great (if you’re having fun when you say it).
You need to get over your FEAR. Once you stop caring what women think of you, then you’ll make a LOT more progress.
COMMENT
First off, I am an avid reader of your material and
I employ it often. It works - well. I bought your
ebook about a year ago and it was worth every penny.
Anyway, enough ass-kissing. I have a general comment
about the whole gift-buying, dinner-buying kissing
a woman’s ass concept. You say that doing such things
to win over a woman’s attention are foolish. I agree
wholeheartedly. However, I am in a relationship now
with a woman that I really like, and sometimes I want
to buy her things or take her out, etc. This isn’t
because I feel I have to, but it is because I want to
treat her well. I don’t feel that if I don’t do this,
she will leave me. Therein lies the difference between
being foolish and needy about it, and doing it by your
own decision. It is the INTENT behind what you do that
is important. If you do something for a woman because
you feel you have to or you will possibly lose her,
she can more than likely sense that, and will have
limitless amounts of power over you. If you do something
because you want to, then she will sense the apparent
confidence in you, and will not necessarily have power
over you because of it. Besides, like you say, a woman
should want you for YOU - your personality - not what
you can buy her or where you can take her. NOTE: I agree
that gift-giving, etc. is a somewhat bad idea in the
beginning of a relationship for the same reasons you
don’t like it. It makes you appear needy and insecure,
and no (emotionally stable) woman wants that in a man.
P.S. It was your material that helped give me the
mentality to get with the girl I am dating currently.
Good work fella!
J from Philly
>>>MY COMMENTS:
YES!
You get it!
It’s the intent behind what you’re doing.
I have a little secret that I’m going to share with
you. But lean in close, so I can whisper. I don’t want
anyone else to hear…
I actually have guy friends who are REALLY good with
women who take women to dinner, buy them drinks, etc.
when they first meet.
What, you say?
How can this be?
Well, the big difference is that these guys are NOT
doing this stuff to GET THE WOMAN’S APPROVAL.
And since EVERYTHING ELSE they’re doing clearly communicates
the RIGHT things, they can actually do whatever they
want, and still not screw things up.
In other words, if you don’t understand how ATTRACTION
works, and you don’t know how to communicate with women
in a way that makes them feel it for YOU, then buying
drinks and dinner, and giving compliments, and all
the other things most guys do will only BACKFIRE.
On the other hand, once you totally understand how
and why women feel ATTRACTION, you can do whatever
you want.
And later on, when you find a girl that you really
like and you’re enjoying a relationship, of course
it’s nice to do nice things for her.
Just remember, be very careful.
It’s easy to be lured back to the dark side… and
to try to get women to like you by paying for things
and taking them places… which it will never do.
My question involves one of the ‘testing’ behaviors
you described in a previous newsletter. You said that
one way women often test men is by canceling plans
at the last minute, or by flaking out altogether with
little or no notice. I’ve had this happen to me numerous
times and I always assumed these girls were just being
careless or inconsiderate… or worse yet, ignoring
me in the hopes that I would “get the message” and walk
away, without them having to go thru the awkwardness
of outright rejecting me! It never occurred to me that
they might be doing it intentionally, and then taking
note of my response in order to see if I passed some
kind of test. Is that really what’s going on? And
if so, how do I pass the test? What is a woman looking
for in this type of situation?
Thanks,
T
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, it is true that women use things like this to
test men… but it’s ALSO true that women do things
like this because they want to AVOID CONFRONTATION.
In other words, a woman will sometimes make plans with
a guy just to avoid saying “no” in the moment.
But later, she’ll flake or cancel because “something
came up”… when she never intended to show up in the
first place.
If women are flaking out on you a lot, it’s probably
something that YOU’RE doing up front.
In any case, try this:
Next time you’re talking to a woman on the phone and
making plans to get together for tea, say “Let me ask
you a quick question. Do you ever flake out on things?”
She’ll say “Not usually” (or some other non-committal
thing, most likely).
Say “Good, because it’s one of those things that I
really can’t deal with… people that can’t keep their
word…and there are a lot of flaky people in this
world.”
That might help.
And if she DOES flake at the last minute, don’t accept
it.
If she calls and says “Oh, something came up…” just
answer back “You know, I was just starting to think
you were DIFFERENT from all the flaky women I’ve met”…
Make it clear to women that it is NOT OK to waste your
time, and they’ll waste it less.
But if you act nice and sweet and accommodating…
and you transmit the message that it’s OK to flake
because you’re a nice guy and won’t care, then it will
happen to you all the time.
QUESTION
hey dave,
i need an answer to a question that has confused the
hell out of me. well, i received a bunch of red roses
for valentines day from my girlfriend of about 2 months
now. i gave her 2 roses, a small teddy bear thing and
a short card with a bit of c+f talk. i figured that
i had made a bit of a mistake by buying her this much,
but when i gave it all to her she looked so happy and
told me that SHE owed ME bigtime for what i had done.
the rest of the day i had no problems with kissing her
or anything else. my question is, why havent i been
seen as a wuss to her? i know that in most other scenarios,
buying this much stuff would have got me nowhere.
by the way, your research and advice is all spot on.
its helped me to attract loads of girls, including
my current girlfriend. thanks and keep up the great
work mate.
S, AUSTRALIA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea!
The reason she said that she “owes you big time” is
because of the WAY you did it.
When you incorporate the attitude into all of your
communication with women, it has a HUGE impact.
The fact that you:
1) Did something thoughtful (the card, two flowers,
etc.)
2) AND you said Cocky & Funny things in the card
…clearly communicated that you were NOT doing this
because you wanted to kiss up to her and get her approval.
One of the greatest things you can do is EVERY time
you do something nice for a girl and she THANKS you
for it, say “Yea, you owe me” in a sarcastic tone.
Then, later, get her to pay up.
I like massages, personally.
There’s something magical about always putting a high
value on yourself, your time, and your attention. If
you put a high value on it, women will too.
Making Women Feel Sexually Attracted To You
May 3 2005
QUESTION
Hey Dave,
To start, I just want to say that you are incredible.
I’m not gonna leap up and start preaching here, I’m
no reverend to the Temple of David, but I will cut
straight to the chase. I’ve been reading your newsletter
for a while and it is working really well. I’ve always
been c/f, but I was afraid of offending the woman I
set my sights on. I finally have the confidence to
unleash this beast, problem is, I have the tendency
to start busting on a girl, and when I see it’s working…
I blank. A good example
SUCCESS STORY
Man, man man! I have got to tell you! I was a skeptic
at first…really…I was! Because I thought that
being C&F was somehow trying to be mean, but it’s actually
the opposite!
I was at school (well, not really school, but college)
in the student cafe, chilling, and a good friend of
mine (a really attractive girl that I’ve had my eye
on for a while) sat down next to me.
Her: “hi.”
Me: “Oh, hi there, (her). So what’s up?”
Her: “Well, I just passed that big psychology test
with a 95.”
Me: smiles “Cool. So how do you think this’ll effect
your grade?”
Her: laughes “Ah, well it probably won’t do much.”
Me: smiles “Nah, it probably won’t. It’s not like
you actually know the material, everybody knows you
probably cheated. Heh.”
Her: laughs “Hey”
Me: Mocking her (she has a squeaky voice) “Hey!”
lol. C’mon now, both you and I know that you know
the back of your eyelids more than you know about that
class. All you do in there is sleep!
I then lay my head down and start making mock snoring
noises. She loved that! We talked some more and later,
I finally got her phone number and I called her and
we arranged plans for a lunch date. Cool! The thing
is, is that you are actually being NICER by being C&F
because you are giving her what she wants, and making
her feel special around you! NOW I GET IT! THANKS MAN!
YOU DEFINATLY KNOW YOUR SH*!!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OH YE OF LITTLE FAITH!
Yea, you know, that was probably a bad idea to actually
say something INTERESTING AND FUNNY to her.
When she said “hi” to you, you probably should have
just acted shy and nervous, and hoped that if you were
nice enough over the next 6 months that maybe she’d
notice you and fall in love magically.
You probably should have just told her what a great
job she did on her test, and how maybe she could help
you study sometime (as a subtle and dumb-ass way to
hint that you like her).
You know, you’re RIGHT about one thing:
When you’re Cocky & Funny (and you’re ACTUALLY funny
when you’re doing it), you ARE giving women what they
want.
Go figure. You get to actually have fun, not kiss
ass, AND be successful with women.
Thanks for the great story.
QUESTION
Dave,
I am recently divorced and just getting back in the
game, so your letters are definitely a great reminded
as to what works (and I have read the ebook). I just
had to share an experience with you.
I’m at dinner with this girl the other night (3rd date)
and she is telling how her best friend’s husband is
completely whipped over his wife. To the point that
he won’t make a decision or take a step without her.
As she’s telling me this I am of course leaning way
back. She obviously wants me to say something, but
I just slightly raise an eyebrow. Then the kicker,
she asks me if I have ever been whipped on a girl or
if I could be. I gave her the nice, long pause and
said what do you think? She responded with “No Way!”
Now this girl is very intelligent and fairly aggressive,
but she then says that she has to have a guy that is
more aggressive and she can’t stand when guys don’t
take the lead. I thought this girl might be reading
your emails.
Then later at my apartment as we are all over each
other on the couch, she stops and asks me “what kind
of girl do you respect?” Now that was the first time
a girl asked me that, so I just said “the kind that
is independent and makes her own decisions.” Now I’m
not sure if that was the right thing to say, so about
10 minutes later when I didn’t think things were going
much further, I said “I think we should call it a night”.
She quickly asked me if there was going to be a fourth
date? I said, “of course why wouldn’t there be”. Then
the best happens, she said, “Well, I didn’t think you
liked me the first time we went out and you just have
me a little confused.” Great stuff.
Then I think I make a mistake. She asks me what my
plans are for the next night and I say I don’t have
any. So she asks me to go out the next night and I
say yes even though I would rather hold off for a couple
of days. I have a few questions:
1) What is another way I could respond to the question
of going out the very next night?
2) If I wanted to back out but still keep her interested,
what suggestions do you have?
Thanks,
C
Houston
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Now, when she asked you “What kind of woman do you
respect?”, you should have said:
“Ones that don’t ask a lot of questions”
…or…
“Ones that earn it”
…lol.
Get it?
WHAT ARE YOU DOING answering a question like that
with a normal, serious, BORING answer?
Read my book again.
Be more of a CHALLENGE. Be mysterious.
And for GOSHSAKES, DON’T BE PREDICTABLE!
Finally, when she asked you what your plans were
for the next night, you should have said:
“My plans are to not be with YOU, YOU BRAT!”
…or…
“That’s classified”
…or…
“NO, you CAN NOT take me to Vegas and marry me”
…or any one of 100 ways to both tease her and
put her off the trail of hanging out with you.
You do not need to be deceptive or manipulative
in order to say “I’d prefer to not see you tomorrow
night”.
You don’t need permission to NOT see a woman.
By rolling over and doing what you did, you put
aside your own desires, and demonstrated that your
INNER WUSSY is actually in charge.
I’ve threatened the Deuce B. treatment before:
“Don’t make me come down there and He-Bitch Man-Slap
you!”
This is completely useless, but TOO FUNNY… so i’ll just post it anyway
QUESTION
Hey Mr.Womanizer
I must say, this is actually the first time I’m impressed
with your email dating tip. You know why? Because this
is the first time your being fully honest, completely
clear and straight forward. To my knowledge this is
the first time your saying a guy should be MEAN AND
JERK to attract women.
I know exactly what your saying. In another words your
saying “you should be a BADBOY to attract women”.
But you also say women like funny guys (sense of humour).
I don’t know any badboys, mean, jerks…who are funny.
They are serious types.
I really think you are confusing people because you
said 2 different things.
OR: do you mean a guy should be a BADBOY-JERK as well
as being FUNNY. But BADBOY-JERK can’t be funny.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think I’m going to have to make a new rule for
sending questions and comments to me:
NEW RULE:
YOU MUST DEMONSTRATE THAT YOU AREN’T A DUMB ASS
WITHIN THE FIRST THREE SENTENCES OF YOUR EMAIL, OR
I WILL NOT EXTEND YOU THE COURTESY OF A RESPONSE.
Of course, you’ve failed to comply with my new rule
in your email…
But I do have to say, your MIS-interpretation of
my ideas is quite entertaining…
“…a guy should be MEAN AND JERK to attract women…”
Now THERE’S an idea you should get out and try.
The concept of
lol~ this is funny indeed!!!
seriously i think some of these people who seek love advice are so stupid…
btw, thanks for continuously contributing to the salon!!!
QUESTION FROM A WOMAN
David,
Can you give some advice to women? I know your e-mail
is just for men but I REALLY need some help.
I’ve tried to get this guy and I think I need a change
in my attitude towards him. He’s hard to get because
he follows this pattern: he calls, he seems very interested
but a few days or a week later he will change his mind
and ignore me (he’s done the same with 2 other girls)
or he’ll date me for a while then ignore me then come
back a few months later. This last time he tried coming
back to me while dating another girl still and it seemed
that it was only for sex. I flat out refused.
Here is what I’ve tried: If I straight out refuse him
and tell him what I think, he backs off completely.
If I try to be nice and forgiving, he’ll take it and
follow the same pattern.
I need a different attitude for when he’ll come back
next time (not so serious and not so nice either)-
something that will surprise him. Any suggestions?
Thanks
AC, San Diego
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you’re not exactly going to like this, but
I’m about to take your email and use it for my own
selfish purposes…
Here’s what I heard you say:
“Dear David,
I can’t explain it, but for some reason I’m ATTRACTED
to men who are unpredictable, untamed, successful
with other women, and probably BAD FOR ME.”
The thing that REALLY strikes me about your letter
is that you’re basically asking me how to get a guy
who probably ISN’T good for you.
Now, why would you go to all the trouble to think
about this, write me an email, etc.?
IT’S BECAUSE YOU CAN’T STOP YOUR ATTRACTION.
You probably KNOW that this guy isn’t going to stay
around, no matter WHAT you do…
But you still want him!
Advice to you: Find a different guy.
Advice to guys: Learn from this example.
QUESTION
David
First of all your stuff works great. I’m 31 years old–
been rich, been poor and rich again. I’ve been addicted
to personal development my whole life. I even was a
top trainer for motivational guru Tony Robbins and
currently run my own seminar company. Yet your stuff
has opened my eyes, not only does it work with babes
(I have an 19 year old hot Latin… who’s all over me…
and her friends are hitting on me all the time–enough
said. )
This stuff works great in all areas of life. I using
it in business with great results
I have a question though.
I’ve been with this girl about 11 months know and I’m
all-ways busting on her…c/f stuff. I love it and am
natural at it. Even start blow-out fights so we can
have make up latter. Interesting note…the more I do
that the more attracted she becomes. Go figure.
My question is… Do you recommend doing less C/F stuff
when you’ve been going out for awhile or do you pore
it on even more?
I’m Shure I know what you’ll say, but I want to make
Shure.
Got to run… Look forward to getting your adv. stuff
Thanks again,
EL- New Jersey
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first off, I don’t recommend STARTING FIGHTS
in just so you can make up later.
I don’t think that it’s necessary to actually START
serious conflicts with women.
While it DOES work in many cases to intensify a
sexual attraction, it doesn’t lead to long-term health.
As for your question about doing more or less of
the Cocky & Funny with a girl that you’ve been dating
for awhile…
You need to keep doing what WORKS in your life.
Too many men make the mistake of STOPPING the things
that are working.
There is another, less common mistake that some
men make which is to increase the amount of Cocky &
Funny to the point where it becomes predictable, boring,
and annoying.
Once you become comfortable using the material,
you will have a “feel” for it.
Do what works, and stop doing what doesn’t.
Every situation is slightly different, and you’re
at the point where no “formula” will fit your situation
exactly.
And as for you and your 19 year old hot latin girl…
You suck, and no men like you.
QUESTION
Hi David,
Thanks for all you’ve written. Your writing is inspired
and your wit is great. As a 51 year old man, my success
with your program has easily gone from 20% to about
85%. I generally use email and create a non threatening
relationship through emails, including humor, and romantic
discussions. I avoid sex talk, but when I the woman
brings it up, which they always do, I ask them “Are you
trying to seduce me?” Invariably the women wants to
make the next move… It’s amazing!
There is a subject however, that you haven’t covered…
How to avoid the broken hearted woman? Your techniques
are so successful, and the women get so attached to me
that I can’t get rid of them. It is a difficult situation.
Since I’m certain that this must happen to you often,
I’m wondering how you deal with the woman who becomes
attached to you like Velcro. I really think it might
be worthwhile for you to write a topic on it.
Again, thanks for your marvelous techniques.
With Kindest Regards,
R.D… Massachusetts.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ohhhh, I see.
So if I write a book and teach you how to get rich
you’re going to email me and tell me that you’re having
trouble spending all the money, and your tax bill is
large?
The answer you’re looking for is simple:
If you don’t want a woman to get attached to you
in the FIRST PLACE, don’t talk her more than a couple
of times a week, or see her more than every week or
so.
That’s the answer you’re looking for.
QUESTION
Hey Dave,
First off, your eBook is awesome. I’ve practiced c&f
on almost every girl I know, both friends and girls
I’ve dated. It’s amazing how much it works on such
a majority of women! Every girl I’ve used it on has
been unbelievably receptive and cannot get enough of
me. Consequently, my confidence is boosted. It’s
one of the best chain-reactions in the world. Here’s
some proof:
There’s this girl I met (before getting your eBook),
and I got her e-mail address through a friend. I
immediately sent her a message telling her how beautiful
she was, how I’ve heard good things about her… you
know, WUSS behavior. Anyway, we started talking on
an instant messenger for a while, and things were going
NOWHERE… until I read a few of your mailbags and got
the eBook that is. This is when I tried c&f and INSTANTLY
turned the tables around. Now she keeps sending me
pictures of her, keeps telling me that she’s never met
anyone like me, and actually BEGS me to get online whenever
I can! Remember, this girl is beautiful… and I rip
on her every chance I get!!! I even catch myself being
mean sometimes when she acts like she’s better than everyone,
but she still eats it up. I know that your advice never
includes being mean or hurtful, but I have learned that
getting mad at a girl for dumb things she does sometimes
makes her realize that you’re not another doormat, and
that you won’t put up with her bullsh** just for the sake
of her attention. Anyway, there was a question to this
whole thing:
A few years ago, I started dating an 9.5 girl with
a 10 personality. No joke, this girl was smart, funny,
and beautiful. We dated for a little while, but she
ended up moving to another town with her family. Needless
to say, we didn’t see each other anymore. The only
contact we had was an e-mail here and there. Fast
forward to 4 years later, and I move to the same town
after finishing college. I ran into her at a restaurant
where she was a waitress, and she was totally surprised
and glad to see me. I kept my cool, didn’t act like
I’ve missed her, but was still upbeat and funny in
the little time we had to talk. A couple weeks after
I saw her, she e-mails me and tells me that she wants
to hang out. She also said she’s seeing someone, even
though he’s gone for a few months, and that she just
“wants to talk.”
So what do I do here, man? I want to see her, but
as more than friends. I’ll obviously keep on doing
what has given me such great success recently, (c&f,
indifference, independence) but I need a little more
advice on the rare “second chance girl.” Should I
bail? just be friends? or try for more using your
techniques? Of course I want the girl that seems
impossible to have, but she’s worth it. Any advice
would help a lot, really.
Thanks again, you’ve given a lot of guys a second chance
at more than just women.
RM, Denver
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I think you should stop letting your INNER
WUSS run free on this one.
Stop it!
Stop being ATTACHED to the situation.
Relax.
If you want to spend time with her, do it.
You have NO IDEA what’s REALLY going through her
mind.
She might be seeing a guy casually… he might not
even be a boyfriend.
Or she might be just about to break up with him.
Or she might be almost engaged to him.
Who knows…
But what I DO know is that you need to chill out.
If you want to see her, go have tea for an hour.
Have fun, and don’t act like a WUSS around her.
You need to stop treating this like it’s going to
make or break your personal happiness.
Think about it for a minute. This girl could have
changed over the last four years, and might be someone
that you don’t actually want to be with.
The point is that you need to CHILL.
Making a woman this important this soon is not a
good idea, and it will probably cause you to do something
stupid.
You’re doing fine, now keep it up!
于 2005-05-04 01:49, paigewen 写:
lol~ this is funny indeed!!!![]()
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seriously i think some of these people who seek love advice are so stupid…![]()
btw, thanks for continuously contributing to the salon!!!![]()
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oops
missed your comment. it was funny wasn’t it? hehehe
that’s all the mailbag for today.
[ 编辑者 gogatsu 于日期 04May05 ]