加精了。 
感动ing~ 
personal comment on this issue of mailbag:
" If a woman said to me “Tell me about all the other women you’re seeing. I think it would be good for the relationship”, I’d probably say:
“Whose relationship are you talking about?”
…and then I’d laugh."
His first example response would be BAD. That precisely looks “sneaky” and lead to “she might just up and leave because she feels like you’re seeing other women AND trying to hide it”, not to mention how rude it would seem.
All About Approaching Women
May 31 2005
Hey,
I have been a subscriber of your newsletter
for a while now. I have pretty much perfected your
techniques and have had tremendous success with
them. One thing I recently realized is that after
you have them hooked you can keep them on the line
even more by using strange timing for telephone
calls etc. What I mean by this is that I have
found it beneficial to return their calls at weird
hours when you wouldn’t expect them to be home or
awake if they are so that you leave a message.
Then when they call about half the time all I do
is pick up the phone and say “can’t talk sorry
bye,” hang up, and go back to watching
sportscenter. The girls who are calling obviously
want to see more of you, so being hard to reach
makes the game all the livelier. If you mix being
hard to reach with the occasional phone call it
seems like a shortcut to taking it to a more
physical level because they aren’t sure when they
will see you next. I was wondering if you have
used this and if you think it is a good idea or if
there is some unforeseen way this could backfire?
Thanks.
Z
MY COMMENTS:
You horrible man!
You actually tell women that you’re BUSY, and
hang up so you can go back to watching SPORTSCENTER?
You’re killing me over here.
I can’t believe it, I think you’re one of about
five men alive that have gotten to the point where
you don’t need to stop everything just for a
little attention from a woman!
Hell, I’m starting to feel attracted to you.
Easy, boy.
You are doing EXACTLY the right things. Keep it
up.
Being unpredictable, hard to reach, and
mysterious is MAGIC when it comes to creating
ATTRACTION.
Of course, no technique is perfect, and if you
do these things long enough you will have
something come up as a result. But overall, this
is a WINNING combination.
If and when you do have a problem or setback,
don’t worry about it. These things happen. You’ll
have so much success that it won’t matter.
As a side note, I want to mention a quick
little something…
I think that there’s a line between doing
things that make women feel attracted to you so
you can enjoy a more interesting romantic life and
actually give women what they want…
And using the ideas you’re learning purely to
manipulate women into doing things.
Most women would really prefer if guys would do
this stuff and be more interesting, but there’s a
danger of using this information, and making
people into toys.
I honestly believe that you can live whatever
lifestyle you want… all the way from dating
several women at a time to being married for
years… and still do it with integrity and
honesty.
Do the right thing, and be a good guy.
[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-06-01 12:44 ]
MY COMMENTS:
I’m really glad that you asked this particular
question, because it’s hard for a lot of guys to
believe that this kind of thing could be real (or
at least so common).
But the fact is, once you really get out there
and start meeting women, you start to see
patterns. And some of those patterns are quite
unexpected.
My translation of what you just asked is: “Why
do women play games when you ask for their
number?”
In response to your question, I’m going to give
a two-pronged answer:
1) The psychology of what’s going on here.
2) How I deal with this particular situation,
and others like it.
THE PSYCHOLOGY
Let me tell you a short story.
A few years ago, I did some work with a guy
that had a particularly interesting technique for
hiring people.
Here’s what he did: After interviewing people
for the position, he’d call back the one he liked
BEST, and say:
“I wanted to call and thank you for applying
for this job, but I just don’t think you’re the
right person for the position”… and then he’d
listen.
If the person said “OK, well thank you” he’d
just hang up and call the next favorite one.
On the other hand, if they said “Wait a minute,
I am the best person for the position, I’m sure of
it” etc. he’d say “Well, tell me more. Why do you
think so?”
I actually listened to him do this live on the
speakerphone one day in his office with a woman
that he had interviewed. Sure enough, when he said
“Well, I just don’t think you’re the right
person…” she answered with “Why not? I am the
best…” etc.
And, sure enough, he hired her.
The point here is that in a hiring situation,
there are usually many people applying. An
interviewer needs to have ways of quickly
filtering through and disqualifying the
unacceptable candidates. And a SAVVY interviewer
will have ways of quickly finding the EXCEPTIONAL
candidates.
This was a great technique for doing just that.
I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this.
I can remember when I first started “walking
up” to women and trying to get their phone
numbers.
If I had a dollar for every woman that said:
“Why don’t you give me yours, and I’ll call you
instead”
or…
“I don’t give out my number”
or…
“I’ll give you my pager number”
or…
“I lost my phone and my number is disconnected
and the dog ate my homework and there was an
accident…”
I think you get the picture.
Well, one fateful day, probably out of
frustration, when a woman started to give me an
excuse, I just looked at her, pointed to the piece
of paper I had, and said:
“Just write it down, it’s going to be OK.”
And, lo and behold, she wrote her number down.
I thought “No way, it must have been an
accident.”
So I tried it again the next time I got
resistance.
Sure enough, it worked again.
As a matter of fact, it’s worked so well, and
so many times that it’s my “standard line”
whenever I get resistance from a woman. Really.
You’ll even find it written explicitly as part
of my “3 Minute Phone Number (and email)
Technique” in my book Double Your Dating.
THE TECHNIQUE
The long and the short of it is that ATTRACTIVE
WOMEN ARE APPROACHED ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED
QUICK, EASY WAYS TO FIGURE OUT IF YOU’RE EITHER
THE REAL DEAL OR A WUSS THAT GIVES UP AT THE FIRST
SIGN OF RESISTANCE.
Hint: Polite men that say “Oh, OK, sorry for
bothering you…” or “OK, here’s my number, call
me…” are not SEXY or ATTRACTIVE.
On the other hand, men that say (Some of my
favorites):
“Oh, it’s OK… you don’t have a phone? That’s
nothing to be embarrassed about” or “And you
expect me to believe that?” in a cocky, funny way
instantly telegraph the message: “I’m not a girly-
man that gives up easily, and I see through your
games. I don’t buy it” are VERY ATTRACTIVE. It
just says all the right things.
So here are a few things to remember:
1) Attractive women are approached all the time
by men, and are constantly being asked for their
number.
2) If you were a woman who is getting asked for
your phone number forty seven times a day, you’d
probably make excuses yourself.
3) The excuses and “Why don’t you give me
yours” type responses weed out about 95% of the
losers that have no spine and no persistence.
4) If you’re READY for this in advance, and you
KNOW what you’re going to say and do when it
happens, AND you don’t answer with a lame, needy,
wuss response, you increase your chances of
getting the number DRAMATICALLY.
5) Confident, cocky, funny responses are a
great way to power through these situations.
How To Use Cocky & Funny Humor To Attract Women
June 7, 2005
QUESTION
“Hi,
I bought your book and its been money well spent
as far as I’m concerned. The email/phone approach
works like magic; I have never, ever gotten a
phone number in a bar before, and now I can! Also
the “are you touching me” line you mention in your
book is a real winner. And all the general advice
about body language, attitude, its all working.
So now I’m wondering if you can provide some
advanced know-how. The sort of girls I like are
the blonde, high-maintenance “Los Angeles” looking
babes, and they seem to be the hardest for me to
succeed with. Any suggestions on what I should be
doing to attract them? What look I need to have,
methods of approach, things to say, whatever…
(To explain where I’m coming from, I’m tall
(6’2”), thin but cut, average looking, run my own
business and make good money. I try to be both
funny and arrogant but am usually more funny than
arrogant. My style is goatee, black turtleneck,
khakis, black loafers.)
Thanks in advance for any extra tips you can
provide!
A."
[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-06-08 00:40 ]
MY COMMENTS:
Lease a Mercedes 500SL, get a big gold chain,
pretend to be a big-time producer, and make
references to your “connection”.
The problem with the type of woman that you’re
describing is that WOMEN DON’T ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE
THIS IN REAL LIFE. EVERY ONE OF THESE WOMEN IS
TRYING TO COMPENSATE FOR SOMETHING! And it’s
usually something like, oh, self esteem,
insecurity, lack of attention from a father
figure, a neurotic need for approval… you get
the picture.
If you want a fake woman, then be a fake man.
Your other option, of course, is to TURN UP THE
MAGIC COCKY+FUNNY FORMULA TO THE MAX. You’re going
to have to see her fake beauty and raise her an
arrogant attitude unseen since Ali.
Try it. If it isn’t working, turn it up. You’re
probably asking for trouble, but since you
asked…
MY COMMENTS:
The formula is:
COCKY+FUNNY
Cocky alone is not attractive. Arrogance repels
people like bad breath. But a FUNNY arrogance…
Ahhh, that’s the stuff that miracles are made of.
The cocky man says “You are acting like a
little girl, and it’s annoying me.”
The cocky+FUNNY man says “If you keep acting
like a brat I’m going to spank you like a red-
headed step- child.” (The usual response is
"Ooohhh, be careful, I might like that.) No,
really.
A cocky+funny man is always on the lookout for
an opportunity to show off his arrogant humor.
She gives a compliment on the clothing…
Cocky+Funny Man says:
“I just met you and you’re already starting
with the compliments. Look, I’m not going home
with you. I’m not that easy.”
I’ve just placed a pearl of wisdom before you.
If I were you, I’d pick it up, look at it from
many angles, and improvise variations. This is
magic waiting to happen.
[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-06-08 00:48 ]
[ 编辑 gogatsu 在 05-06-08 00:52 ]
gogatsu于2005-05-28写道:
加精了。
感动ing~
personal comment on this issue of mailbag:
" If a woman said to me “Tell me about all the other women you’re seeing. I think it would be good for the relationship”, I’d probably say:
“Whose relationship are you talking about?”
…and then I’d laugh."
His first example response would be BAD. That precisely looks “sneaky” and lead to “she might just up and leave because she feels like you’re seeing other women AND trying to hide it”, not to mention how rude it would seem.
if my boi sed diz 2 me…I aint say anyfin 2 him any more…he is a dope
EV于2005-06-08写道:
if my boi sed diz 2 me…I aint say anyfin 2 him any more…he is a dope
yup yup
but to all who comes to this post. everything applies to PRE-RELATIONSHIP period.
:cn14:
QUESTION
“HEY DAVE! I have a teensy weensy little questions
for you, but first I’d like to say that your book
kicks serious butt!! I have had more luck with
women since I got it… Not that I really needed
it or anything, (cough cough) ahem! Anyways, now
to my question.
1)I know how to be cocky, I know how to be funny,
I treat women the special attractive way they
should be treated… but I have no clue whatsoever
as to what signs a woman will give off when she is
feeling attracted, I keep doing silly, stupid
things like um… backing off afterward 'cause I’m
not sure what her reaction meant, which I am
positive is a problem.
So if you could help me here I would be most
obliged
J.”
MY COMMENTS:
The main sign that a woman gives off is VERY
simple to spot:
SHE KEEPS TALKING TO YOU.
You can stop clapping. I know it was profound.
But really, if a woman isn’t interested, she
won’t keep talking to you. She’ll start looking
around, acting bored out of her skull, or moving
around in an uncomfortable manner.
The first minute or two is often like this
anyway as two people begin a conversation… but
if it continues past about 3-5 minutes, you need
to move on and try to be a little less boring with
the next girl!
I knew you would find my answer profound… but
if you’re still waiting for her to tilt her head,
lick her lips, and twirl her hair then you need to
stop reading books published by guys that have
nothing better to do than spend 25 years watching
people in bars and writing down what they do.
It’s simple:
1) Meet girl 2) Get email and number 3) Invite
for tea and stimulating conversation 4) Meet and
tease, be cocky and funny 5) If she’s not psycho,
invite her over 6) Use The Kiss Test 7) Don’t
screw it up!
I may have oversimplified a bit here, but I
think you get the idea. Don’t worry about what
she’s thinking… just do what you know is
ATTRACTIVE, and then lead. Things will work
themselves out if you keep doing the right things.
SUCCESS STORY/QUESTION
“David,
Been reading your newsletter, and bought your
book. I’ve read it once and will read it again for
better comprehension.
Success Story:
In the meantime, I’ve been putting into practice
what you teach. I wanted to share this success
story with your readers, as an example of how well
this stuff can work.
At a bar with a bunch of friends for a stag party.
Took the stag-boy around the bar to get his t-
shirt signed by all the women (this is a great way
to meet and talk with every woman in the bar).
Anyway, later I saw a blonde that I had talked to
earlier. She was talking with 3 guys. I went
over and tapped her on the shoulder and said “Hey
can I talk with you a minute?” and walked away
about 10 feet.
She came over, I used your email/phone # material,
and gave her pen and paper to write it down. You
should have seen the looks on the faces of the
three guys who were just talking to her. It was
worth it just for that.
I got 4 numbers that night and have been out with
2 of those women.
Question:
Like many other guys who write you, I’ve been
trying to develop the cocky-funny attitude. I’ve
watched most of the comedians and movies you
suggested in your book. I’m working hard on this
but it’s just moving along slowly.
Now that getting emails/numbers isn’t a problem,
and even getting dates (although I know I could do
better if I was more cocky-funny) is now more
possible, I now have run into a whole new problem:
how to create tension/tease/act cocky-funny on the
first date so that SHE calls ME for the second
date (hopefully cooking a meal at her place).
Anything you suggest for us guys at this stage of
our learning that isn’t already in your book would
be most helpful.
Thanks,
S.”
MY COMMENTS:
You’re doin’ great… and you’ll figure it out
as you go.
One of the best things you can do is to take
out a pen and paper, and write down the ten most
common situations that you find yourself in, then
write down some cocky, funny lines to use.
For instance, you might write:
End Of Date
1) Say to her “Now don’t call me three times a
day… I had fun too, but no stalking”
2) Kiss her and say “Call me”
3) Tell her “I’m busy tomorrow, but if you
tempt me with a good enough offer, I might make
time for you the next night…”
Are you feelin’ me?
Just work out the different situations on paper
first, then do them in real life. You’re on the
right track…
QUESTION
“Hi David,
I spend a lot of time in the library these days
studying for an exam - Psychology of all things-
but it hasn’t helped because oftentimes I see an
attractive girl at the next table or perhaps a
cute girl walks past - never to be seen again. My
problem is that I’m totally at a loss as to what
to say and how to arrange it so we meet in what
seems like a natural and unsuspicious way. I can’t
just go up to a study-table and suddenly introduce
myself and I’m certainly not going to follow
anyone around. Any suggestions?
S.”
MY COMMENTS:
Like I say in my book “Double Your Dating”…
women KNOW what you’re doing when you approach
them. Heck, even if you’re just being nice and
friendly they’ll SUSPECT that you’re picking up on
them.
So get over this “unsuspicious way” idea.
What, do you want to start talking about math
or anthropology, then slide in under her radar
with your smooth Mac Daddy techniques… and have
her wake up enamored with you?
Well, now that I put it this way…
Just sit close and start up a conversation. Ask
them what they’re studying. Say anything. Then be
cocky and funny. Then say you have to go, that
it’s been nice chatting… and “Hey, do you have
email?”
Quit trying to be the “Secret Agent Mac” of the
campus. And besides, women think that men who are
self-conscious approaching them are WUSSIES.
And in case you didn’t know this, WUSSIES DON’T
GET WOMEN ALL HOT AND BOTHERED.
Revenge Of The Nerds will NEVER happen to you.
QUESTION
“David,
First of all, I’ve got to say that your advice is
brilliant! There’s a lot of con-men out there
selling silver bullets for guys women problems,
but you’re writing makes you figure out what works
best for you. Since I’ve started following the
Cocky-Funny approach, I’ve noticed better results
with women in general.
Recently, I was out with a group of friends for
someone’s birthday. I met this great chick who we
both have mutual friends with. Well needless to
say we both were attracted to one another and were
dancing in the club later with each other. One of
my friends was talking to her and then afterwards
she went a bit cold on me. He told me later that
she said she liked me but had just started going
out with another guy for 2 weeks.
Now I’m not one to try and steal another guys
girl, but I felt that the two of us really
connected and would like to see this girl. I
haven’t got her number, but my friend has a good
excuse to ring her and I know I will be seeing her
again in a couple of weeks through friends. Well
my question David is this. You’re tips helped make
her attracted to me, but what can I do if she’s
still unsure about what to do with her current
relationship?
I’d really appreciate your advice!
J.”
MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you haven’t read my book, then you
need to get it ASAP and learn how to use the
“friendship” approach with women.
I think that most guys are just too damn
anxious to get their willies wet sometimes.
Instead of trying to convince her to leave some
guy she’s been dating for two weeks based on a few
dances, instead say:
“It was nice meeting you, you seem like you
might make a nice FRIEND. Maybe we can have coffee
sometime.”
Get it?
I’ve learned the hard way that it’s much better
to get to know a woman as a friend FIRST anyway.
It puts you in the right frame of mind, and you
get to learn a few things about her before you
apply all of your serious advanced smooth-mac
tactics (and very well may just save you from a
neurotic experience of the unwanted kind).
When you say “friends” first, it says all the
right things. Think about it.
This is crazy grin
EMAIL OF THE WEEK
“I have a qeastion about fat womens. if a women
sit in the house all day worry about things and
trying to destroy my career of making music and
looking for some attention and money should i get
rid of the fat pig or stay with her till things
blow and hit her like a punching bag to settle her
emotionals down? she not my girlfriend she just a
sick women who was cool with me since my youth but
she hates everything i’m into. well i,m ready to
treat her like dirt as far the game go she play to
talk trash about my talent and putting her nose in
my business.what should I do punch her like a pimp
or kick the fat bic… to the curb.(we ain,t got
anything in command)”
MY COMMENTS:
I have to warn you beforehand, I’m not a
qualified relationship expert or licensed
practitioner, but I may be able to offer you some
insight.
It sounds to me like your relationship could
possibly have eroded beyond repair. Again, I’m not
a qualified expert, but this is just my personal
intuition.
In addition, I realize that on occasion a woman
can behave in a way that is unsettling, but
violence is never an acceptable way to settle a
dispute of this nature.
In other words I just don’t think that if you
“punch her like a pimp” that it’s going to solve
anything.
Good luck with your “…career of making music
and looking for some attention and money…”.
[I know, it just isn’t possible that someone
<BR>could have sent me this letter… but sometimes
<BR>life is just this way. I cut and pasted it exactly
<BR>as it was sent to me… with no edits. Unreal.]
How To Keep A Woman Interested In You
Jun 10 2005
QUESTION
Greetings,
I’m considering investing in your program, but I
have a question for you before I do. Essentially,
I’m no longer looking to hook up with women left
and right. In fact, I think I’ve met “the one,”
but I’m having trouble making her realize this.
I’ve been pursuing her for about five months
(during part of which time she was away at school,
but we kept in regular contact, at first through
e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get the
sense that she’s very guarded about relationships.
She’s very goal oriented (which is one of the
many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore
very busy, and - I suspect - she’s been burned in
the past, relationship wise. At any rate, on a
couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things
were moving forward, and then she backpedaled;
perhaps she “got spooked,” and took a big step
back to protect herself. Most recently, we were
out for the first time since she finished school,
and - insofar as I was able to determine, I was
getting the green light all night: at a movie, I
slipped my arm around her and she leaned in,
resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at
a club for a band, and when we were ready to
leave, she reached across the table and held my
hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it
was pretty chilly, and when she complained about
the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. She
responded by stepping into it: she pressed her
face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full
body to body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to
shoulder and everything in between. When we got
back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she
shied away such that it would have been
extremely awkward for me to actually do so.
At any rate, we’ve gotten together since (in fact,
I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow
maneuvered it around such that I was her guest,
and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. As I
said above, I think she got a little spooked. She
specifically said that she thought the
relationship could’ve evolved into something
romantic, but that it hasn’t, and she wasn’t sure
why. At this moment, she says she doesn’t believe
it will. We remain very close friends, but I
still believe she’s the one, and I’ve told her
that I’m still going to pursue this, and she’s
keen on still spending time together (for her, for
now, as close friends).
My question is this: do you believe your program
can aid me in turning her around on this? If so,
why?
Thanks,
B.